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Original poster

to think sex once a week even with 2 babies is a poor show

34 replies

flossielimejuice · 04/06/2010 21:49

Just wondering if you think we should be 'doing it more'!.

We have 2 babies ages 11 months and 2.5yrs which is obviously tiring. But I think we need to make time to 'do it' more. Dh says he is knacked just getting to work!

We are in our early forties and been together just over 3 years.

What do yout think - should I be online now or in bed!!

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OhExpletive · 04/06/2010 21:50

Bloody hell, once a week with 2 under 3 is what I'd describe as "at it like rabbits"

ArseHolio · 04/06/2010 21:51

Ha!

We have a 5yo and a 18mo and are lucky to have sex twice a month.

Sex isn't the be all and end all

ShowOfHands · 04/06/2010 21:51

Does it matter if we're all doing it 6 times an hour or only when the moon's in uranus?

If you're not happy then there's only one person you should be talking to.

4andnotout · 04/06/2010 21:52

Dp would love it once a week, at the moment it's more like once a month

However have weaned 19mo dd4 in the last few days and she is sleeping in her bed so hoping the tally will go up a bit

JaxTellersOldLady · 04/06/2010 21:53

exactly what SOH says. Everybody has a different 'need' - if I was at it once a week DH would be very but I would be even more knackered than I already am.

lorelilee · 04/06/2010 21:54

agree with Expletive

TheBolter · 04/06/2010 21:55

Show off.

ScreaminEagle · 04/06/2010 21:55

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flossielimejuice · 04/06/2010 21:56

Dh is laughing at the replies. We are feeling hard done too that depite our best intentions only manage in once a week and thought we were not doing too well - sounds like its normal if not better than!

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Pozzled · 04/06/2010 21:57

Agree with SoH.

expatinscotland · 04/06/2010 21:57

Who are all these people who count the number of times they have sex?

JaxTellersOldLady · 04/06/2010 21:59

flossie - can you instruct your DH NOT to mention to MY DH that yours is getting it once a week please.

Many thanks

oh and stop showing off you pair of bunnies!

clam · 04/06/2010 21:59

What other people do is irrelevant. Are you both happy with it? If not, then try to fix it.

Original poster
flossielimejuice · 04/06/2010 22:01

we dont count expat - i just mean roughtl on average

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Maveta · 04/06/2010 22:13

it hardly requires an agenda to know you have sex once a week so doubt the op is keeping a log! i think once a week sounds great - its about what we manage usually with one 3yr old but i do know what you mean, we are TTC at the mo and making the effort to up it a bit (fnarr fnarr) and its actually a nice change to turn the crap tv off, close the laptop and have some couple time. its easy when you have little ones to just zombie out on the sofa doing your own thing then flop into bed with no more than a wee peck before you roll over. its nice to remember that making that extra effort can actually be a fun activity in and of itself.

having said that, we are both also working and have recently upped our keep fit routines so we are feeling roundly KNACKERED and also have nights where we just look at each other and go ´don´t even think about it!´

ImSoNotTelling · 04/06/2010 22:20

Our kids are the same age as yours.

We are counting times per year rather than per week, so from where I'm sitting it sounds like you're getting plenty

But what SOH said is the right answer.

AuntieMaggie · 04/06/2010 22:24

can you also not tell my DP that you do it once a week with 2 kids? we rarely manage that these days and have no kids!

AllSheepareWhite · 04/06/2010 22:25

2 under 3 and once a week, we only have one 11 month old and that's what we manage! Get some sleep that is what I say

textpest · 04/06/2010 23:23

I agree with AuntieMaggie!!

custardismyhamster · 04/06/2010 23:51

I have no kids and barely manage one a week, DP doesn't seem bothered

Imarriedafrog · 05/06/2010 00:08

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ThatVikRinA22 · 05/06/2010 00:19

how about a reward system for your DH, a sticker chart maybe. if he ticks enough boxes tell him youll give him a bj at the end of the month...

im thinking this is a wind up.
if not ill give the benefit of the doubt and just say that sex and frequency does tend to alter depending on the circumstances.

are you complaining about your DH? or yourself?(or are you just boasting!)

verylittlecarrot · 05/06/2010 00:25

Upon achieving the holy grail of sychronised napping with my two dc (nearly 3y and barely 4m) My DH today suggested an opportunistic bit of nookie. My response included the words "Bloody Hell" and "scary" and "recent third degree tear".

As Richard Whitely once said, it's not so much "twice nightly Whitely".

More "Once yearly, nearly"

whoneedssleepanyway · 05/06/2010 06:53

this has made me laugh, am feeling normal now...!!! doesn't help that we have DD2 in our room either!

BouncingTurtle · 05/06/2010 06:57

More like twice a MONTH in the turtle household - though DH would like it twice a week, the randy bugger
However will have to up frequency if we are going to make baby no. 2!