to be doing this?

[analbeard]

have name changed for this as sensitive issue here.

i am feeling so bad about this it is hard to cope. basically dp left i claimed single parent benefits and now he has moved back in but he wont let me tell them. says if i do he will leave again as im not sponging off him. help!

thankyou.

i dont feel as if im coping i feel like i am being suffocated and cant breathe properly like when he gets released he will find us. i keep thinking he will walk through the door anytime soon.

thankyou for all of the support. i am going to log off now need to gather my thoughts and calm down. and then climb into bed with my dcs. all 5 of us are in together tonight i have to keep them safe with me.

womens aid talked about conselling today forus and a lady is going to ring me. tomorrow is a busy day.

You have just done great, AB. What a frightening day you've had! Now you see how much people care about you - the taxi man, the police, Women's Aid, everybody here - and how WRONG he is. You've been very brave, and now you're in safe hands with people looking out for you.

I'm sure the next few weeks will feel very strange. You know, though, this really is the start of a far better life for you & DCs. I bet the kids will start looking happier within a few days.

Well done. Hugs and good wishes.

Hoping that you're okay this morning analbeard and that Women's Aid sre on the phone organising that safe house right now.

AB...haven't posted, but have been following this thread. Really hope you and DCs are safe this morning. My thoughts are with you...please keep us updated on how you are, when you can.

OH ab you have done the hardest part. you did it!! you left him. well done, you have been very strong to be able to do this. keep in contact with friends and family and of course WA. you will need alot of help and support for a while because you will be building a new life for you and the dcs. did the police say anything about what will happen to him?

Oh. My. God. What an awful time you had. Sickening, he is an animal. I hope you are feeling a little calmer today although i doubt it after that episode!

Well done, you have left him. You did it. Its onwards and upwards from here. The road may be rocky but you can do it. You can do anything now.

Keep posting if it helps, we are all thinking of you and hoping for the very best for you and your DC's.

Sending you another big hug. Can't even begin to imagine how you must be feeling today. You are stronger than you think, you will get there. Thinking of you today x

So in the last few days its gone from him threatening to leave if you cancel your benefit claim to him raping you and trying to murder you. Goodness thats quite a dramatic turn of events. Its in the hands of the police now so glad you and your children are safe.

AB, I'm so glad that the police are unvokved and that they're working to keep you safe now. I'm so sorry you had to go through those awful experiences yesterday, but as another poster said, he has blown it now, by showing the police just what kind of 'man' he is.

We're all on your side, and nobody will believe for one minute that he was ever in the right. I hope you start to feel safe soon, and please post when you've settled a little more to let us know you're alright. We're thinking of you and your DCs.

AB, are you feeling any better this evening? I do hope so. What a shit to have threatened you in front of your children.

Have you managed to contact your mum to tell her that you've left? I'm sure she would be relieved by that news, if not by the terrible events that immediately preceded it.

SO glad you're safe.

NB Did you mean to namechange or do you want us to report it and get your last post removed or changed to AB?

Sorry, you got there before me, I'll report for you, and guess you should contact MN HQ too.

Good to hear you are ok OP. Look forward to getting into that safe house now and settling in. I bet your anxiety is through the roof after all that. Keep posting when you can, and take care of yourself and your little DC's.

thanks vall. how strange though i did not report it so dont know why it says at posters reuest?! weird.

eleanor sorry if the names offend u i just like funny ones, will change again if your offended? let me no. sorry.

i am looking forward to settling the dcs in their new home although i dont even no where it is yet! its so surreal really. dcs have been coping so well im so proud of them. im not sure why im feeling like this now he is not here. guess im worrying he will find us really and what will happen if he does. makes me want to puke just thinking about it. im still not sleeping. do you think i might need some medication to settle my nreves? sorry for asking just i dont have any experience with this type of thing.

Talk it over with your care worker, and maybe give it a few days to see if your nerves settle. Not only have you just been through a massive crisis, you've been living on your nreves for years now, with him. No wonder you're exhausted ... and nervous.

There are really good meds for anxiety these days, don't worry if you decide to use them for a few months. They help to get your system back in balance.

I'm so glad you're safe Please let us know about your new home, and how you're feeling. Take care, now.

Hi AB, how are you? have things settled down any? hope you are safe.