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Original poster

to not want to provide two meats for fussy eater at dinner party?

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Pinkmarshmallow · 14/05/2010 13:31

DH's big birthday next week,I've inited all his family over for a meal that night. MIL asked what I'm making so told her I plan on roast X. BIL apparantly won't eat X so she insists I must also cook a Roast Y to cater for him.... I think it's ridiculous to cook to roasts. He's a grown man, he can politely refuse it IMO and just eat veg...and dessert and birthday cake. It's not like he'll go hungry or anything. AIBU? Is MIL right? (She's the type of person who has a choice of about 4 desserts when there are only 4 people over for dinner.) Aaarrrgghhh.....

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LetThereBeRock · 14/05/2010 13:33

YANBU.

Is roast X lamb?

Firawla · 14/05/2010 13:34

YANBU
Can you just make the roast Y instead so that bil can have it, and everyone else could eat that too if they are not fussy? or does it need to be roast X. because roast Y for everyone seems the easy way to get round it without making 2 things

ScreaminEagle · 14/05/2010 13:34

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Pinkmarshmallow · 14/05/2010 13:35

I have a big leg of lamb in the freezer and want to use it up. No point in cooking it another time for just 2 of us.

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Iklboo · 14/05/2010 13:35

Give him either a Fray Bentos pie in a tin or crispy pancakes

RibenaBerry · 14/05/2010 13:35

No, don't do two. MIL does this and it drives me spare.

Either be kind and do Y if everyone likes it, or stick with X. He's a grown man, he can live with it. I'd be a bit more flexible for young children, depending on the meal. And obviously allergies/vegetarians/other good reasons.

RibenaBerry · 14/05/2010 13:37

Oh, cross posts. In that case just cook it.

I am a big grump when it comes to this kind of thing. I refuse to pander to fussy eaters like I am some sort of restaurant. I have inherited my granny's view of fussy eaters (which is, broadly, eat it or go hungry). As I said, I'm a grump.

LetThereBeRock · 14/05/2010 13:37

I knew it'd be lamb. People either love it or hate it.

scurryfunge · 14/05/2010 13:37

Agree ScreaminEagle...it's not a huge sacrifice and you will come across as the thoughtful, accommodating host

amothersplaceisinthewrong · 14/05/2010 13:37

YANBU. YOur MIL has no right to tell you what to cook in your own house. How can she "insist". I would do what Firawla suggests and cook the roast that all will eat if at all possible. Acutally for a large number of people I would not do a roast at all I would do a casserole that can be left to its own devices.

DaftApeth · 14/05/2010 13:37

Just get him some nice ham

AMumInScotland · 14/05/2010 13:38

If he's the only "fussy" one, then surely you can all have roast Y instead? It would certainly be daft to cook 2 roasts, but not very hard to switch to cater for him.

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Pinkmarshmallow · 14/05/2010 13:38

RibenaBerry, you sound just like me....I like your granny's attitude!

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mazzystartled · 14/05/2010 13:38

Just do the lamb

If he knows that's what the meal is he can always have a McNasty on the way over.

Two roasts is rank

And LOL at his Mum

MillieMummy · 14/05/2010 13:39

I don't like lamb, but if someone had been kind enough to invite me to lunch and cooked it for me I would eat it. I was brought up in the school of 'sit up, put up and eat up' parenting though.

Avad · 14/05/2010 13:39

Give him a pork chop or something.

Iklboo · 14/05/2010 13:40

Or get two slices of deli roast beef from Sainsbury's/Asda - you can ask them to cut it thick - and warm it up for him.

Mouseface · 14/05/2010 13:40

Good luck with that if you MIL gets involved - 4 deserts?

Where does she live?

YANBU for not wanting to do it but I bet you end up doing it to keep the bloody peace!

Will BIL eat chicken, stick a chicken breast in with the roast?

Original poster
Pinkmarshmallow · 14/05/2010 13:40

mazzystartled, it's not even his mum, it's his MIL too!

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Alicetheinvisible · 14/05/2010 13:41

When i did a big family dinner (roast pork) my aunt brought a steak along for her DH to have. Very simple solution.

I am fussy with meat, but will happily just have the rest of the meal.

MintHumbug · 14/05/2010 13:41

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scurryfunge · 14/05/2010 13:41

Make him a nut roast...that'll teach him

Pootles2010 · 14/05/2010 13:41

Do the lamb, get a ready meal type roast for him. serves him right. But if i was your bil i'd be quite happy with a roast without the meat if you see what i mean - this is what my veggie sister does. Roast potatoes, yorkshire puds, lovely vegetables, stuffing - gorgeous meal in itself, without the meat!

mrspear · 14/05/2010 13:42

I would have to give his dinner to him last and announce loudly that i have provided him with ham instead of lamb as mummy had rung up and told me too as you don't like lamb.

AMumInScotland · 14/05/2010 13:42

Oh its different if you already have the lamb in and want to us it up when you have people round.

I'd either go with a separate chop for him, or possibly a veggie dish that he can have as a main and others as a side dish. I did stuffed mushrooms for that at Christmas, which worked either way.