Family outings to crowded supermarkets.

[darkandstormy]

AIBU To think that one parent should stay at home with the babies/children whilst the other parent does the weekly shop.I understand this cannot be helped in single parent families, but there were lots of whole family units in supermarket this afternoon.My two dc stayed at home with dh,I don't understand why others don't do this.One family I know who I saw there today dd3 was screaming the place down,she obviously had better things to be doing than shopping.Unfair on kids, fellow shoppers etc.

JUNGLIST IT is a case of having to on here there are quite a few cranks around imo.Some of them need to lighten up.IMO.

off to bath my dc, back later for more super market sweep banter

@ Coppertop.

Children are part of society and have as much right to be in the supermarket as anyone else. If they are never taken, they won't learn how to behave properly in shops. As you are the one who doesn't like the situation, the onus is on you to change how you shop. I suggest you order online rather than expect other people to change to accommodate you

Being disingenuous and being called on it used to a be a sort of Mumsnet Bingo phrase if that makes sense.

coppertop has it in any case.

Well I'm a single mum so yes ds comes with me!!

oh and just to really annoy you sometimes I go with another single mum and her 2 DC's (she doesn't have a car) so imagine how much we hold up people chatting and shopping!!!

YABU sorry!

YABU, I like to think that my DS(16mo) entertains all the other shoppers, he gurgles, shrieks, coos and dribbles because he loves being in the trolley! I don't drive so if I shop on my own then DS has to stay in pushchair (which he hates) and I can't buy much at one time. So, we often go and do the big shop, as a family on Friday night. It is like a special treat for DS, he often can't contain his joy at being in a trolly with mum and dad. Rattling jars of vitamins, says "hiya" to other shoppers, laughing when whiggled in the trolley, smiling (a bit benignly) at the (usually elderly) women who chat to him.

I'm sure when we have more DC, my DS will at some point, like many toddlers, have a meltdown and piss off a few other shoppers, but [shrug], it's not like you have to deal with it yourself, is it?

LadyintheRadiator, I have been trying on and off for several years to learn to drive and I am determined to do it. We're not able to afford a second car or even more lessons for me atm, so it ain't gonna happen. On your second point, have you ever sent your DH/DP with a weekly shopping list to the shops and got what you would have got?

before I became a parent I always quite enjoyed the entertainment value of toddler tantrums

some of them are REALLY imaginative, others sell out really easily

DH and I would rate them out of 10 for dedication and imagination

Before I learned to drive I would do the shopping and DH would come and collect me on the few occasions we went together he cost me to much money.

AIBU blows my mind sometimes. I honestly believed, before encountering the flabberghasting array of posts here on life's minor, petty irritations that - on balance - it was not very sensible to wonder what others thought of you in public places because chances were they weren't thinking of you at all. AIBU has opened my eyes! Clearly there are MNers on every corner bristling with righteous indignation in reaction to just about every conceivable human action!

I have been known to shop with my baby. I have been known to shop with dh. I have been known to shop alone. I have been known to shop with both husband AND baby. And online. At Waitrose and at Asda. I think shopping s probably good for kids - build up the ol' vocab and teach a bit of budgeting. I think they probably hate it. I don't like it when people stand in my way in the exotic foods aisle, be they young or old. Meltdowns give me a headache. I can't drive. I am learning. I don't think my dh is incompetent with a list. WHO the HELL am I? It's an identity CRISIS.

I should just choose a SIDE and get my judge on. Sod the election, the economy, the WORLD. I need a reason to bristle with righteous indignation when confronted with a shopping style I personally consider odd. Trouble is, I can't think of one. I am doomed to continue to shop mindlessly, oblivious to the opportunities for ranting unfolding around me. Poor me.

Mrsbean - very good post but I do worry that you're taking it all a tad too seriously my lovely .

And, op, only one or two people have been cranky on here and if you read their posts again you will see they have very good reason to be a little bit impatient with this sort of thread. Perhaps they shouldn't have posted, but I think you could cut them a little slack.

Oh, oh me!! I've just thought of another reason!!

Because we have lunch in the cafe there together!!

Yay, bibbityobbity! I officially have a been in my bonnet! [grin}

That would be BEE of course. And

Havent read whole thread but apart from the people who have 'perfectly good reasons' for shopping with their entire family in tow i'd like to point out, if no-one else has, that shopping is considered a leisure activity by many. Or at least they believe the people who are trying to make us buy stuff when they try to make it look entertaining and fun in the ads.

Utter shite obviously. Shopping is a leisure activity if you do it with a maximum of one other adult imo, or better still on your own, and not buying groceries that's for sure...

You're fortunate OP, that your H was available to occupy your little darlings while you could go on a lovely, quiet, peaceful shopping trip ... because mine was doing a 12 hour shift and I had to take both of my "little darlings" shopping with me and my Mum (the taxi driver) and they were quite evil. Running around like nutters, squealing, driving ME up the wall ... but tough lol Needs must and we needed some food.

So yes, YABU.

YANBU - you are so right. If you have kids, you should then ensure that they never go out anywhere just in case they irritate somebody.

I mean who in their right minds thinks that children should be accepted as a normal part of our society??!

Darkandstormy - go and get a life and stop being so petty, small minded and downright irritating.

Choc even if me and dh both worked 100hr weeks, I would still orchestrate it so that one of us probably me, would do the shopping alone, whilst the other looked after the children.

pocketmonster.yawn.

Good for you. Neither of us drive so working around not only his shifts, but the taxi drivers as well, makes it a nightmare.

none of your business how others chose to shop.wind yer neck in,stop gawping at other folk.attend to your groceries and dont get distracted thinking how others shop