Family outings to crowded supermarkets.

[darkandstormy]

AIBU To think that one parent should stay at home with the babies/children whilst the other parent does the weekly shop.I understand this cannot be helped in single parent families, but there were lots of whole family units in supermarket this afternoon.My two dc stayed at home with dh,I don't understand why others don't do this.One family I know who I saw there today dd3 was screaming the place down,she obviously had better things to be doing than shopping.Unfair on kids, fellow shoppers etc.

MUMBLECHUM managed to avoid all the usual Kiddie stuff,healthy eating well, maybe just for this weeksneaked in quite a bit of wine

But 4, they all do home deliveries these days, Asda, Tesco, Waitrose, Sainsbos. Dunno about Morrisons but they probably do.

And if you time it right you can get home delivery for 99p (Waitrose, late at night)

But I never understand whole families who do any shopping together to be honest.

I enjoy shopping on my own not with bored DH and dc's in tow.

Do understand for some people thats not an option though.

I am a supermarket ninja. I glide silently and speedily as a speedy thing, leaving my trolley at the end of each aisle so I can pick up what I need without getting into a traffic jam.

I shopin lidl, netto, aldi and Iceland all of which you cannot shop online. I tried going back to tesco but grocery bills were nearly twice as much so back to the cheaper brands.

I don't really understand why people want to go shopping en masse, but surely it's up to them?? Personally, I would rather stick pins in my eyes than drag 3 moaning kids and a grumpy DH round ASDA on a weekend, but each to their own and all that.

I am another internet shopper- the cost of delivery is offset by me NOT seeing "bargains" on my way round.

'unfair on kids'?

So every minute of the week has to be ballet, playgroup, playdates etc??
Since when it is unfair for kids to participate in the real world? Supermarket, bus, train, restaurant.
Ok lets lock them in a fairy castle until they are 18! And then, God help them.

MUMBLE You are right it is like a bloody tactical ninja sport, the ones who really do my head in though are the single male shoppers with their batchelor boy baskets, tutting cos you are taking too long packing a families shop.

FFS. There was a thread on this a while ago wasnt there? So to save time, and blood pressure, I am just going to say, go look for that thread and you will find your answers {grin]

Bloody hell some of the responses are a bit strong. I much prefer shopping when I don't have to take dd with me. I hate it to when you get stuck behind a couple deciding in which size cheese they need whilst little boy/girl is stood in the middle of the aisle in everyone's way.

DH does the shop late at night, the previous night before he starts his nightshifts. It saves me and DS having to go and the supermarket is usually v quiet late at night anyway so he's lucky he gets to swan around the isles gathering all the food for the week.

I go to the supermarket around 9am weekdays for top-up shopping but have to take DS with me if DH is working - not alot many parents can do about it I'm afraid. Sometimes the whole family unit has to go, they may involve the DC in the shopping for a good reason. And it's unfair to land one parent with one or more DC stuck at home just so the other can go out shopping on their own. Who gets the better deal then?!

YABU

yanbu, but for a long time DH would never let me go out alone on the weekends, he always insisted on us doing everything together!!

The cost of delivery is offset by not having to go to the supermarket.

SPATCH Sorry, missed that one, must have been a day when I had a life.I myself did once do a thread on the character trollies,is that the thread you are talking about

Essentially, anyone in a supermarket at the same time as me is in the way, in the wrong and needs to fuck off. Or die. But not in the supermarket, they would still be in my way. CUNTS. So I do it online. As should everyone else.

Morrisons don't do home delivery.

I don't drive but when I was with my ex I used to do the shopping and he'd stay in the car with the kids.

lovechoc but my dh would rather be with the dcs, me I would rather do the shopping, so win/win situation for us.

darkandstormy you are lucky!

YABU Shop late at night or mid day during the week if it's such a problem.

LOVECHOC Next week we will swap duties tho I think, or time to revert to online.

as a single parent i often take dc to the supermarket of we want to grab some stuff for the weekend (do big shop online). of course he begs for treats all the way round; but we chat about budget limits, why we are buying certain foods etc. shopping is a necessity, and i live in hope he's learning a little with every trip.
kids eh? they get everywhere! but seriously, if seeing kids out and about, not having the best of times (let's face it, supermarkets are not the most joyful of places) then stay the feck at home. our children have every right to be out in public

Maristelle They should be seen and not heard

darkandstormy - definitley YANBU.

It is one of the mysteries of parenting why anyone want to go to a supermarket with children.

My DS1 (age 10) has been in one about 5 times in his whole life. The last time I went with DS1 about a year ago it was one of the most stressful experences ever as he nearly knocked over a whole rack of wine bottles among many other incidents.

How I loathed supermarket shopping as a child. No wonder there is crying and screaming - and that is just the parents.

We shop online or do go to M&S for bits and pieces when DSs are at school. Surely a happy solution for everyone.

Been Beta That is it I remember myself hating getting dragged around the shops as a kid.

Op you are .... can't think of word. ignorant ? stupid ?
i take my kids tot he supermarket all the time. I think its healthy.
my sil children have severe eating problems. they eat about 5 things. LITERALLY.and one thing is thta she never ever takes them to the supermarket. she always shops when dh is home to look after the children.
they have no idea what food is available or anything. how can that be healthy. and they don't go strawberry picking or to afarm shop or anyhting. plus children learn self control and to behave in a supermarket. no running. can you get me 5 bananas etc etc. ds1(6) loves to do. supermarket shopping is part of life.encourages a healthy attitude to food. self control and behaviour. cooking skills and interest.

you are so naieve OP.