to think it's not helpful when people are overly negative about FF?

[lunartictoc]

Hi
Have been reading boards for a while under a different name, but wanted to post slightly contentious issue under new name.
AIBU to think that when discussing the merits of BF V FF, it is really unhelpful when some BF advocates try to strengthen their case with really negative comments/facts/ideas about FF? ie discussing how F-fed children are more prone to illness (including serious, like cancer) that it can lead to health problems for mothers, that it can cause obesity etc? I absolutely catergorically cannot BF my DS as much as I would have loved to - it is medically impossible. So I did a bit of research on FF, and many search engine results point here to MN. It scared me half to death reading what some posters have said about FF - I have no option, and without FF my son would have no milk at all! Some statistics (and indeed vitriol from the more judgemental posters) have just made me feel so upset and that I am being a bad mother, and damaging my DS in some way. I understand that pro-BF parents are keen to educate, and I understand that many F-feeders do so due to lack of support/education etc, but I think that there are many better ways to get across this message. Perhaps I am being over-sensitive, but some comments have really upset me! AIBU?

ATZ, I see you've resorted to immaturity and idiot quotes in ignoring my question to you to provide me with a evidence to back your claim up,

could you also show me where I said it was as good for that child health by feeding them cows milk, than breast milk!

If your going to do down the "sixth" form route make sure you can at least, back the feeble pathetic assumption dig at me up!

Im not thrashing away also, Im not trying to be rude, I think tiktok is a great asset to MN, Ive seen many a thread where she has helped lots of breastfeeding mums and even shock horror formula feeding mums.

Im just not to sure about the links she provided is in anyway good (sorry tiktok) to back the cancer claims up in children! x x x

I would love to stay and "chat" all night but fortunately I have a "come dine with me" night planned" with my good old faithful girlie's.

Have a good night all x

LMH, your posts are sometimes hard to follow, and I did not understand what you wanted - I now assume you wanted to know about adult breast cancer in women related their own intake of breastmilk/formula in infancy....yes? I still don't know how I have misquoted anything, unless you thought I was somehow passing off the study of maternal breastfeeding and later breast cancer as something it wasn't....

There is not a huge amount of work linking infant diet to later adult breast cancer - but it does exist.

ukpmc.ac.uk/articlerender.cgi?tool=pubmed&pubmedid=18379425 is one paper - they conclude that having been breastfed as an infant reduces the impact of other risk factors for breast cancer. There are plenty of papers referenced which you might want to follow up.

If this is not what you want, then don't be exasperated with me, please. I have done my best

Thanks for the nice things you said about me, LMH....and while I am in your good books, please take a kindly and politely made suggestion to proof read your posts before hitting post (or preview them) It may be your first language is not English, for all I know, but it's often hard to figure out what you're saying....even in your last post to Aitch, the second paragraph has to be guessed at.

If I had known what you wanted to know, then I would not have confused you with something else.

Tiktok, suggestion taken on board, I do proof read, but sadly being dyslexic is hard to be coherent in my all my writing ability, I have not got the time to go through it atm, but I would love to discuss this more with you, we have our wires crossed out my wants from you lol, but I hope you have a good evening and will speak soon x x

right, that must be it, i was wondering if it was a second language thing lmh. your posts are trickier to get than you think, i reckon. and as for your tone, well, if you don't think that accusing me of immaturity and idiot quotes (i don't believe i quoted anyone, ever, did i?) is sixth formish then evidently you're not hugely in control of that either.

tiktok had just posted five minutes before that there was evidence to suggest increased childhood cancers, but also evidence to suggest that this was not the case, so what would be the point of my answering your question to me after that? i don't really understand. this is an oddly incoherent and bicker-y thread i think.

i just wish people would read the OP and answer what she is saying instead of turning it into a bf v ff argument.

I do think its unhelpful to be overly negative about ff!!!

There have been many posts answering, and discussing, the OP's question, sparkly.

A talkboard is a conversation. As it progresses, it takes on a life of its own

All these 'cheery', 'happy' people yet such pathos.

It's like an REM song.