not to want Bride to use GHDs on DD?!

[BottleOfRum]

DD is 3, and she will be a flower girl at a wedding next month. Bride is a (not particularly close) old school friend, who has shown many Bridezilla tendancies so far (female guests are requested to wear pastel colours etc). I believe the only reason my DD has been asked (as neither me nor DD are close to Bride) is because DD is a pretty waif-looking doll-like child, and will be good for wedding photos!!

Bride has just sent round an email to parents of bridesmaids, asking them to ensure their children are at hers by 8:30am on morning of wedding (not ideal, but fine), for "makeup and hair", and said that all girls would be having their hair curled with ghds and put up with flowers.

I don't want my DD's hair to be curled with GHDs, surely it isnt good for her hair at that age? None of the other mothers seem to have a problem with it, since they have replied to all saying "no problem" etc.

HOWEVER..... (don't yell at me) i once let my sister curl DD's hair before using GHD's, and put pictures on fb (sigh), although regretted it a lot the next day (stupid wine made me make stupid decisions). So do I really have a leg to stand on, since I've allowed it to be done before?

Will your DD mind? Because if she doesn't, then I'd go with the flow.

I shouldn't think it'll matter that much...it's not a long term thing

I don't think it will harm her hair - it's only one day. Whether or not it's particularly fetching is another matter entirely...

I do find it strange that you've allowed your 'not particularly close old school friend' to have her as a bridesmaid in the first place.

How... shallow (not you the bride).

Sounds like its more of the same from the bride.

whats a ghd ?

Hopefully, the person using the GHDs will use a heat protection spray.

It's a one off so maybe if your DD is ok with it you could let it go, just this once?

It won't hurt her hair.

If you had a problem with your DD being chosen simply for her picture-perfect cuteness then you should have objected sooner IMO.

Very expensive hair straighteners

Yeah..... It is a one off, and DD loves being a 'princess', so im sure she will love all the pampering of someone doing her hair.

I actually think I may have been being completely unreasonable, I think I just have a bit of a chip on my shoulder about the Bride... her day seems all about looks etc to me, so I think I maybe took offence that my DD would need to have her hair curled to fit in with the 'look' - it seemed V shallow, and i think I wanted to object for the sake of it more than anything.

I shall go with the flow and just make sure I get lots of pictures of DD looking angelic while it lasts!!

Thanks!

Would you daughter let her do it? I know my 4 year old wouldn't. I instinctively think it's horrible but not sure I'm being logical

Don't see the problem. Unless your dd won't like it.

ah, sounds like my 4 year old dream! She gets a pretty dress, hair and makeup!! Does she need an extra bridesmaid???

my mum used to bung carmen rollers in my hair all the time without any sort of heat spray etc for special occasions, my hair didn't fall out. you sound a bit like you're looking for something to moan about - are you not really deep down happy about her being a bm?

My cousin got her hair curled for her First Communion and she really did look very pretty and it did no harm in the long run. GHD's hadn't been invented then, though!

Southeastra, you're completely right, I really was just looking for something to moan about. Was getting a bit fed up of Bride's demands, and wanted to throw a tantrum I think!! I have got it out my system, and will smile sweetly and let them curl DD's hair. She will enjoy it I'm sure, and I was just being a party pooper. I had that friday-cooped-up-at-home feeling, and getting this email about the latest demands for her lovely wedding just irked me a bit!

is the point that its ghd`s and not cheaper straighteners? that inverse snobbery thing again?.
damn that bride ! does she not know theres a credit crunch?

Is the bride Jordan aka katie price by any chance

yanbu

Bottle - what else has she demanded then?

(As wanting to curl bridesmaids' hair isn't that bride-zilla-ish IMO, give us some fodder!)

Ah you sound nice BoM.

Smile and nod, smile and nod - it'll be over soon and I bet your DD will have a lovely day as bridesmaid.

I would be more objecting to the pastels thing...I don't suit pastels

Actually, yes, forgot to mention that. This is NO WAY I'd wear pastels

There not this!

YANBU

Why let your child be used like that for someone who isn't even a proper friend?

No make up and no GHDs but be prepared for major Bridezilla moment.

If this was my child I would be saying no.

i wish they had ghd's in my day, i had a ball of frizz that my mum used to blow dry straight every single day

I dont think its the hair curling thats bothering you op, more like the bridezilla making demands for this that and the other i think