to think that when you visit someone's house you take your own toiletries?

[JannerBird]

Have MIL staying who made a comment this morning that she couldn't find any shower gel in the shower. I said that there was probably some in the cupboard (as that's where I keep it).

I always take my own shower gel, toothpaste etc. when I stay at other people's houses and would feel really cheeky using their stuff.

AIBU or is she?

YABU and tight

I leave out hotel mini shower gel on their towels if I'm on form, if not I say "its there, use what you like" but do make sure that if I have really expensive stuff its at the back so not reached for - however I don't say "you can use that one and that one but not that one or that one", have stayed somewhere where they said "feel free to use our shampoo" and then pointed me to the only one I was ALLOWED to use - nasty pound shop stuff which they clearly never use themselves and just keep for guests - THAT imo is worse than not sharing at all!

Women often choose to bring their usual shampoos and conditioners, but often will use our shower gel and toothpaste. If I'm going to stay with family I'll only bring my toothpaste, conditioner, body lotion and use their toothpaste, shower gel and shampoo

You need to leave a set of these out.

I always take my own to others, but make sure that I have enough out for guests to use when they come to me.

I always take everything with me so that I don't have to use anyone else's (not because I am odd about it, I just don't like to feel that I am taking the piss).

But strangely I like to make sure that I am the perfect host by ensuring that everything my guest may need is at hand.

To eager to please?!

Guests yes although I wouldn't mind if my guests wanted to use mine, with family I expect them to use mine.

I take my own toothbrush, deodorant, hairbrush & conditioner (I am fussy about which kind) when i go to visit close friends/family

I always have spare toothbrushes available - v cheap 8 for £1 variety as I have often found them useful.

We've just been to in-laws, and used their shampoo, shower gel, bubble bath etc. Would expect them to do the same if they came here.

Although might have to warn them about the Original Source Mint stuff we have at the moment, as it's a little bit surprising!

When we visit grandparents-in-law we take our own toilet rolls. They still use the shiny crinkly stuff! Didn't know it was still available to buy....

I'm with Nemain - I would never dream of not taking absolutely all of my own toiletries everywhere, including to family. But I also invite people to use our guest stuff freely, and I mean it. Though I admit I do think it's rude to so totally expect things to be provided that you don't take anything of your own. I also have a complete set of guest towels and always stress that they don't need to bring their own if they don't wish to.

as a minimum take own toothbrush.dont mind friends,family using my stuff tbh

I would take my own stuff, but offer guests items so they don't have to sneak mine :D

We're abroad and if someone is flying to visit us and travelling hand-luggage only they might not be able to bring much due to the ever-changing restrictions on fluids so I always have all the stuff in the bathroom for guests (usually minatures swiped from hotels).

I regard it as normal that they'd use it.

However, I know someone who once found out a house guest was using her toothbrush and had been for 2 weeks. Now that was gross.

If I am staying with family or close friends I don't take any toiletries (especially if I know they use the same brands as me or brands I like ).

Otherwise I tend to take my own.

I always assume that people might use ours and that's fine (although I suppose I might find it a bit odd if it were someone that I didn't know particularly well).

Definitely draw the line at toothbrushes though!

i'm the same as sparkleetc except for the "complete set of guest towels". i just make sure that the towels I put out are not ripped or threadbare.

Do you bring your own bogroll too?

I always take my own but I have sensitive skin & scalp so can only use certain products anyway. I would take my own as I wouldn't want to take it for granted.

However, I am happy for any guests to help themselves to anything they find in our bathroom, though everyone seems to bring what they need too.

I would def take toothpaste - might not like the flavour of theirs!

i take my own travel sizes but dont expect others to.as my guest you can eat my food,hospitality and of course use toiletries

tooth brush would be the only item i would expect a guest to bring, everything else can be shared. If we don't have something though, i wouldn't expect a complaint either.

Original Source Mint,aye it tickles the tooshie in a most perturbing way

I always leave stuff out for guests and close friends or family who stay often they know they can get stuff out of the cupboard if there's something I haven't left out for them.

I would only take a full set of stuff if we were visiting people I didn't know very well. Friends and family we just turn up with a toothbrush.

I am always grateful when people bring their own towel though because I really begrudge washing towels that have only been used once (would never not put towels out though)

When anyone stays with us, I say "help yourself to anything" and mean it. Why would you hide toiletries in a cupboard if you knew you had guests? It's mortifying to have to ask for shower gel like a beggar!

Surely no one expects to have to provide their own towels when they go to stay with someone? Good grief.

I usually take my own stuff except when visiting family but could give a hoot if people wanted to use ours - it's all in the shower in a basket. Help yourselves

tracey - my mother does the very same thing with her and my dad's "flannel" when they stay at ours... bleugh!!

I expect them to use their own toothbrushes apart from that, they can help themselves.

When I go to my own parents I use my own deoderant, but use their toothpaste, shower gel/soap and shampoo/conditioner. After all, that's what I did when I lived there! (I'd even use my mum's razor probably )

When I go to my MIL's, however, I take my own toothpaste, shampoo and shower gel/soap (though I use the handsoap on the sink to wash my hands). I think it's because I feel I still don't know her very well.

I always offer ours. Shower gel I see no reason why they wouldn't use it. Shampoo, I would think most people would bring their own as it is a more personal preference with that.

If staying at family or close friends we don't always take our own toiletries, we quite often use theirs - and vice versa, close family/friends don't generally bring theirs to ours either. I do take my own shampoo as I use a specific one.

We always make sure there are plenty of toiletries ready to be used for any overnight guests. I always leave them a fresh towel and a flannel each too.

If staying with people we don't know so well or where we don't normally stay over we take our own.