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AIBU?

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to leave DS in his wet PJs for a while?

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OTTMummA · 30/03/2010 18:24

Ds in the last few days has started deliberatly tipping his drinks over or pouring them overhimself, its driving me mad.

He always has ( last 3-4 months ) a cup of water or juice on his table, and has been really good not spilling, and even when he has spilt we just go ' oh dear next time we'll be more careful! '

so i don't berate him for accidents, but twice today i have watched him pour it over himself!

Should i leave him to stew in wet PJ's or change him?! im so mad im contemplating putting him to bed in them.

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TheArmadillo · 30/03/2010 18:27

I wouldn't leave him in wet pjs but I would make him use a baby cup. If he behaves like a baby then he gets treated like one.

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OTTMummA · 30/03/2010 18:38

he's 2.2yrs old and like i said, has been doing very well with a normal cup for a while.
Ive left him in them, but he doesn't seem bothered [typical face emoticon]

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Goldenbear · 30/03/2010 19:07

YABU - he is 2.2. I think you need to get him changed and lower your expectations a bit!

mumbar · 30/03/2010 19:13

Yes he is only 2.2 but he knows what he is doing is wrong as he's doing it on purpose!!! He is at the age of 'pushing the boundaries' seeing how far he can push it. I agree with the mums above about getting him to tidy it up and get himself changed. Wish I'd thought of that 3 yrs ago when my DS was the same age!!!!

Personally I wouldn't enter conversation when you do this as he may start doing it more for attention??? Just give the orders!!!

BEST of luck I know how infuriating this must be for you and hope he gets bored soon.

lovechoc · 30/03/2010 19:14

he is only 2! give him a sippy cup if he can't manage use a big cup, or you'll just end up giving yourself more work than necessary - it seems to be getting to you that he's done it twice already.

Definately change him IMHO, not a great thing to leave a child in wet PJs - he is still so young.

YABU

mumbar · 30/03/2010 19:22

If he's managed to drink properly out of a proper cup for ages so why revert because he wants to push the boundaries??? It can also displace teeth having a sippy cup at 2 years.

I agree he is young and don't agree with leaving him in wet pjs but he has to learn right from wrong.

Bigpants1 · 30/03/2010 19:23

I wouldnt put him to bed in wet pjs, he may get cold and uncomfortable and then not sleep well, so in the long run making things more difficult for you.
He is only 2.2yrs. Perhaps he is fascinated with the sensation of liquid falling on him,perhaps hes just being a little so and so!
I, as has been suggested, would revert back to a non-spill cup-a sippy cup, that doesnt spill even when tipped-up, and use that for a while,then gradually re-introduce a more grown-up one in a few months.

Rosebud05 · 30/03/2010 19:34

I'd echo the 'he's only 2' comments. I still give my just-turned-3 dd drinks in a non-spill cup unless I know that she's going to be sitting at the table. Or try a 'built in straw' cup - more grown up but also non-spill.
Most 2 year olds will be endlessly entertained by watching their parent emote about something so, well, easy for them to do again and again and again and again....

thegirlwithsomethingextra · 30/03/2010 19:38

give him a sippy cup - save the both of you a lot of bother.

he might be able to physically manage a big cup, but if he doesn't have the sense to not tip it over himself then he is not mentally ready for one.

FabIsGettingThere · 30/03/2010 19:38

"We'll be more careful"

And being so angry you want to put him to bed in the wet clothes?

FGS he is 2.

MrsPixie · 30/03/2010 19:41

Bless him he is only 2!

Did you seriously mean to put him to bed in them?

YABVU

fiveisanawfullybignumber · 30/03/2010 19:47

He's only 2, is he your first???? Don't push them to grow up too quickly.
As said before he probably mentaly not ready for it, get him a cup with a straw top or similar for bedtime.

ShadeofViolet · 30/03/2010 19:48

YABVU - If he is only two then get him a sippy cup if he cant drink properly from a big one.

Whatever he has done in the past, he is only 2.

posieparker · 30/03/2010 19:51

Fucking hell, he's only just two....

yes leave him in wet PJs and then when his nappy leaks leave him to roll around in his own shit.

Give him less liquid in his cups until he stops spilling his drinks, or only give a lidless cup at the dinner table...I presume you sit and eat with him.

LadyBiscuit · 30/03/2010 19:52

He is testing the boundaries because he is two. If you put him to bed in them you're really cruel

posieparker · 30/03/2010 19:54

What do you mean by his table?

Pennies · 30/03/2010 19:55

YABVU

Iceaddict · 30/03/2010 20:05

YABU he is a baby at 2 he still needs a baby cup

SlummyMummyAndProud · 30/03/2010 20:06

I have to agree with the other posters. I mean he is ONLY 2.

Leaving in wet pj's will cause him discomfort and i think ever so neglectful.

I'd say you best option is to revert back to sippy cups or a non-spill cup with a built in straw.

biddyofsuburbia · 30/03/2010 20:09

YABU - sorry! I know it must be annoying but echo above - just give him a cup with a lid unless you are able/ prepared to sit right there at the table and monitor or prepared to ignore..He may be testing boundaries but I think the less of a big deal you make of it the sooner he'll stop doing it.

I am definitely not saying don't tell him off, just don't go crazy. I'd be tempted to treat tomorrow as another day and go down the 'lots of praise for doing it properly' route...tonight I'd put him to bed in dry PJ's and get yourself a glass of wine

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OTTMummA · 30/03/2010 20:13

he does not need a baby cup, he infact refused to drink from anything without an open lid and would only drink from a cup, he has a small cup which he can handle very well, even one handed!
so it is not a case of him not being ready for a normal cup at all, he even smiled at me the second time when i gasped at him whilst doing it.

I wouldn't of put him in bed wet, that was wrong, said in anger.

i left him in them for about 20 mins while he had a yoguhrt and then took him up to get changed and made him put the pjs in the washing machine.

I gave him his milk in his cup and he didn't tip it up, i won't revert back to a baby cup, there is no need when he can use it perfectly fine if he wants to.

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OTTMummA · 30/03/2010 20:15

posieparker - he has his own thomas table which i put his snacks and drinks on when we arn't having a meal.
In the morning he has fruit/veg juice and afternoons water.

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LadyBiscuit · 30/03/2010 20:20

He is a baby. He is experimenting. Fair enough to be frustrated/irritated but so mad you even contemplated putting him to bed in wet PJs? Bloody hell. There is a lot worse to come I promise - if you react like that to one pair of wet PJS what the hell are you going to do when he scribbles on the walls?

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