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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

to leave DS in his wet PJs for a while?

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OTTMummA · 30/03/2010 18:24

Ds in the last few days has started deliberatly tipping his drinks over or pouring them overhimself, its driving me mad.

He always has ( last 3-4 months ) a cup of water or juice on his table, and has been really good not spilling, and even when he has spilt we just go ' oh dear next time we'll be more careful! '

so i don't berate him for accidents, but twice today i have watched him pour it over himself!

Should i leave him to stew in wet PJ's or change him?! im so mad im contemplating putting him to bed in them.

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ImSoNotTelling · 31/03/2010 10:43

Just you wait for potty training OP.

My DD smiles at me charmingly as she wees in her knickers.

I think you did fine BTW. Not reacting is the key I'm sure, as others have said.

lovechoc · 31/03/2010 12:43

so he doesn't use a sippy cup...can you not try him with a straw and closely supervise him for the first few times, or use a closed cup with a straw?

DS gets a sippy cup so that I can just get on with things otherwise I'd be cleaning up after him all the time if he'd an open cup. I'd be forever cleaning after him with all the spills. No point making a rod for your own back.

thesecondcoming · 31/03/2010 13:16

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WoTmania · 31/03/2010 13:24

I think YABU - at this sort of agethey might know something is wrong but if it is fun at the time they can't resist. Just avoid situations where he can do it for a while - i.e don't just leave the cup around make sure he is sitting with you when he drinks.

coldtits · 31/03/2010 13:29

"Am I being unreaosnable?"

"yes, yes you are"

"No I'm not. I'm not though. You are all wrong"

coldtits · 31/03/2010 13:31

Thesecondcoming since when did fun = acceptable?

And since when did two year olds have the same idea of acceptable as 36 year old mothers? And since when did two year olds have the same idea of what is fun as their 36 year old mothers?

thesecondcoming · 31/03/2010 13:36

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WorkingItOutAsIGo · 31/03/2010 14:51

tsc - sorry but rofl at your barney/toybox story. Have always hated that song and now will forever have the image of your DD in my mind when I hear it....

mumbar · 31/03/2010 18:16

Have had a giggle reading posts since my last!!!

I agree in principle he is only 2 but I do think at 2 they know right from wrong - my DS certainly did even if he was pushing boundaries.

Stayfrosty don't not think you have any reason to swear at me just because my opinion differs from yours this site is about advice that parents can or can't take.

And I have experience of parents with children still using bottles/ sippy cups at 5 as they didn't put them on a cup early enough and once the got old enough to argue t's become a constant battle.

OTMUM I agree with you and if you feel your right then stick by your guns. There is no right or wrong just what others may or may not do.

peasandbeans · 31/03/2010 18:56

I have three dcs and never managed to get any of them to drink from a sippy cup. They have all drunk from a small plastic beaker from as soon as I started giving them water. DS1 is 18 months old and has been drinking unaided for months now.

This morning he tipped his water all over the table and the floor and some went on his trousers too. He did it on purpose, but because he was frustrated. He seemed to be asking for a glass of water which I gave him, but what he actually wanted was his toast.

I was annoyed, because we were already running pretty late for school. I pushed his highchair away from the table so that I could clean the floor, and then got on with making the toast for everyone. I didn't change his trousers; they weren't very wet anyway, but wet enough for him to feel the damp in places. Water dries up quickly enough anyway.

I wouldn't put a child to bed in wet pyjamas, but if my child spilt water all down their front on purpose (and fwiw I think at 2.2 he may well know the difference) I don't think I would running off to get dry things within the next 3 seconds. He may just be doing it to discover what happens: he will discover that the result is wet clothes and that it is not that funny.

On the other hand when children keep doing the same thing and it drives their parents mad, at some stage it is useful to sit back and ask whether the response they get from their parents is appropriate. If what you're doing is not working then a change of tactic may be in order.

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