AIBU not to want to wash DP's daughters laundry .

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AIBU to have a problem doing DP's daughters laundry. She is 18 and in her last year of private boarding school. She lives with her mother at the weekends, the washing machine has been broken 1 month plus now. We have a 4 year old dd who DP's daughter continues to want to have nothing to do with. They have never met. Has she no shame to send her laundry out to me with her DAD ... ? Or has DP no shame to bring it to me. ? Very confused ....

Whose washing machine is broken yours or the mothers?

Tell her she can use your machine but she must come and do the washing herself. At 18 yo she is more capable of doing her own washing.

She is old enough to take it herself to a launderette. I wouldn't do it and I would be having words with my dp if he thought that I should. Of course if he wants to do it himself that is his choice.

Show him where the washing machine is and tell him to do it himself (DP I mean)

Agree with Mollie O

Dad should do it.

She doesn't want to come to your house, is that right? Suppose that's her concern, but if her dad wants to do her laundry, surely he should do it?

Why would you do her washing?

If DP doesn't want to rock the apple cart and tell her to go to launderette, then he should sort and wash her dirty knickers!

Her mothers.. Thank u Mollie O, I had words with DP this evening.. It did not go down too well ...

How is the mother doing her own laundry? I'd have thought she would do the dd's the same way really, but at 18 she should be doing it herself, tbh.

Well I have been doing it because it was easy to throw it in with all the rest. But I have been having a problem with it. I have felt she is dis respecting her father but when I upset the apple cart their relationship suffers, in the end I too suffer. It was easier to do it.

She's hardly a child and should be sorting her own washing out,the mother should be enforcing this and not dumping it onto you.

It's hardly down to lack of funds if she is in private borading.

Piss take imo.

oh dear i'm afraid i would do it

but would hassle dp to find out when the washing machine would be fixed

presumably this won't last for ever

Yes Poshwellies piss take indeed. My washing machine is in the laundry room.

Are you thinking it might be the boxroom, perchance, Shiney?

Why ask what room washing machine in .. ? Curious ..

Who is doing the mother's washing? Can it not go in with that?

shiney

If she is in her last year of private boarding school, then why can't they afford to replace the washing machine?

He did it himself today, hung it around on all the heaters as request was 'do not tumble dry'. He went off with it in an almighty storm this evening after he agreed with me that she was making an ass out of him .. Feeling bad as I have been supporting and encouraging their relationship ...

So, she'll be taking her personal valet to university with her then?
Learning how to use a laundrette is a lifeskill. They could make it a father/daughter outing.

YANBU if your DP says he will do it then he should do it. Its reasonable for him to help her out but he shouldn't be getting you to do it.

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