to feel guilty that I'm not a stay at home mummy living next to the sea who bakes and knits?

[ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight]

Well. I just looked at the mummy blog of an old uni friend. She has called it something really quite twee. I was scoffing a bit at the lentil weaveryness of it [bitchy emoticon], it's very 'we love to live as naturally as possible, today we knitted our own home baked bread' but actually then I thought it looked lovely and her DCs are probably having an incredibly lovely childhood. They live in a little village near the sea, she posts every single day with pictures of crafty lovely activities, unlike me who works and is lazy with DS and lets him do 'free play' (apparently that's an actual thing, not just being lazy) and we don't even have a garden DH takes him to the park and nursery do crafty things but I feel a bit lame.

Tell me that DS won't mind? I'm having my first serious attack of mummy guilt and I feel a bit crappy actually. Also I'm going back to work full time in May, DH will have him 4 days and 1 day in nursery, I need to for financial reasons, if I do we should be in a position to have DC2 next year, it all makes sense but I'm wobbling about only having DS 2 days a week

I feel like a confession coming on.

While I have the organic veg, arts n crafts, baking, countryside with pets lifestyle which I enjoy (no doubt because I got the urban bug out of my system before dc), I absolutely HATE reading school books with or doing hw with my dc.
It wasn't too bad with dc1 but I found myself completely lacking patience,and getting irrationally annoyed. By the time the others came along with a new teacher who insisted on the Oxford reading tree Biff stories being read 3 times. OMG, sorry that's asking too much.

Luckily they are bright dc and do not need me to help them as they have a willing dad and now my older dc read with the younger ones.

I have a doctorate and blame that for this complete lack of patience or I could beat myself up about being a horrible mum but I always jump at the chance to do baking, painting etc with dc. I could never be a volunteer reader at their primary I'd rather poke my eye out.

How bad is that!

I work 40 hours a week, although about half of those at home, and partner works 30 hours (not at home). I think we'd both go completely mental if we had to be jam making, cake baking mummies with nothing to talk about other than how to do the allotment and cushion covers.
Personally I think going to work makes me a better parent. I maximise the time we have together by giving her times she'll remember (hopefully). Having more time together at home doesn't always mean quality time.

Blogs are totally tedious - who has the time to read boring shite others get up to.

Not all SAHM can bake cakes and knit.

Working mums do not equal crap mums, that equation does not exists.

It's not just one thing or the other.

Stop reading stuff that you think you should be like and do what YOU and only YOU want,

The only measure of whether you are doing things right is a happy child. If your kids are happy enough and doing ok in school etc etc then ONLY measure yourself on that.
Even so, kids can't be happy all the time - that's living in a fantasy world.

I'm a stay at home mum (I'm strongly resisting "mam") who lives 10 minutes form the sea and bakes and knits and DS1 keeps asking me what my job is.

How to explain to him that it's attending the umpteen meetings and medical appointments per month that 2 kids with special needs generate as well as filling in endless forms and making endless phone calls about said appointments and meetings. I also spend some time doing home ed activities, since DS1 is having so many difficulties with school, he's currently on a reduced timetable. DS1 only gets glue and scissors when I'm feeling mentally strong enough to cope with it, though!!!

If I did blog, it'd be mostly about the pretty knitting and yummy baking because the rest is just too dull and irritating, sometimes.