To think that the nursery nurses getting my 10 month old daughter to make a mother's day card is pointless

[Reallytired]

Well she is a baby. She is more interested in crawling and eating bits of card board. She is perfecting her pincher grip by eating small bits of lego/ power rangers/ transformers off the carpet. (Not this precise second as she is asleep)

I have a mother day's card "made" my daughter. It just seems a total waste of time. I am sure there are better activites that they could do with her to improve fine motor skills.

Charlie and Lola must be joking ..... How utterly selfish of you - and you have a lovely dh for even putting up with your acts like that.
I adore everything that my dds have done as well - I hope you at least remember fathers day or as maybe he might appreciate it even if you don't.

OP - Have you checked the card for tooth marks just incase she did enjoy doing it.

As a nursery nurse and a parent i can see both sides to this.
Back in the bad old days, mothers day cards would have been made, mostly by the staff, in a production line manner, with little thought given to the thoughts or needs of the children 'making' them e.g. "Little Portia, stop playing in the home corner and come and do a card for your mummy now!"
The cards produced would have all been exactly the same "no, stick it here, not there!"
Hopefully (fingers crossed) practice has changed, and most practitioners and parents realise that it is the process that is important and not the end product.
But we are stuck between a rock and a hard place. Between following current guidelines and best practice and keeping our customers happy by giving them what they expect.
So,reallytired, YANBU
and joeybettany I know where you are comimg from.
and to sassybeast, thank you
I hope all the parents of my charges liked their cards

My two both came home with cards and have done at Christmas, Fathers Day etc since they started nursery at a year old each. Of course they haven't made the card, but I'm sure they helped (did the splodges, shook the glitter tin etc) and I treasure every one.

My nursery incorporate events like Mother's Day into the curriculum as they cover cultural events and anniversaries and often incorprate the cards into larger displays and topics like the Seasons.

My abusive exH wouldn't celebrate Mother's Day if he was paid too, so these lovely cards have often been the only recognition of the day that have come my way - and they have made me happy and my children happy (they are now 2 & 3) when they proudly give them too me.

Charlie & Lola, strangely, I do actually understand where you are coming from, but as someone whose ex's idea of a Mother's Day greeting was to yell "You F C**" at me several times, frankly the idea of a man thoughtful enough to think through the day and buy a £49 bouquet sounds like heaven to me. Your DH sounds quite lovely and I hope that he understands that you have deeper philosophical reasons for rejecting his gift rather than just being ungrateful - the fact that he has not repeated the gesture suggests that he might not, and it might be worth explaining your outlook so that he doesn't take it personally.

Just a thought...

my feelings too cloudbase i too had a massive wanker for husband and it pisses me off when overpampered wankers come on wittering on about how bad it is that dh brought them £49 flowers, try a smack in the side of the head and being told that you need to see a head dr on mothers day, would you prefer that?

Reallytired, the usual response to a mothers day card is happiness, you miserable sod. Nursery probably thought you, like most mums, would like it and appreciate it. Best tell them not to waste their time next year.

Youngest charge is 10m...she ridiculously loved making a mothers day card as she loved the feel of the paint etc...no she didnt do most of it i had to hold her hand to mke a print etc but id be annoyed if her mum was as bloody ungrateful you, annoyed because woops silly us thinking it would be something a mum would like

How about saying thanks to the NN for doing something thoughtful...oh and bloody cheer up....bet your a barrel of laughs

op
cheer the hell up. you got a mothers day card. great! I expect i shall get sth carefully selected by dh and presented to me by my toddler and baby and will be pleased with it. I think it is nice the nursery thought about the Mummies.

I'm amazed at the vitriol on here towards the OP. I know it's in AIBU but sheesh! I really hope she's not suffering post natal depression as some of you have suggested, cos this slating could push someone over the edge.

Am I the only one that read it, not as a dig at nursery workers or an affront to her dd, but as a wry take on the over-sentimentalisation (is that even a word )and over-commercialisation of Mothers day? Obviously I am .... I'll get me coat!

I love my mothers day card from nursery with hand print, and loved my valentines card with splodge of paint! I even made sure my (seperated from) DH sent me a card 'from' my daughter as I know I deserve it (obviously not opened it yet so could be a horrible surprise!). So so many women would love to be in a position to receive one that I do think YABU. (my first one!!)I can't imagine it would have had a large detrimental effect on her development that day

Agree with most on here yabu and a misery!

I think you are seriously being pathetic to be honest. I would be thrilled if my sons school went to the toruble of making it. I am not with the dad and my ds wont be able to get one for me. I wished he could.

mehdismummy....precisely

try telling a woman who has been the victim of abuse that Mother's Day is just a pain in the arse

or a woman who is infertile

Am in at C&L
I really cant undderstand that.

Charlieandlola let me get this straight - diamonds good, flowers bad?

YABU just enjoy the card and effort of the nursery staff. I got a card from dd godmother when she was a newborn baby, 'handmade by dd' it was so lovely and thoughtful, it really made my day. Appreciate the thought.

If you're that bothered just tell the nursery you don't want your child to participate in craft activities - it won't be a problem, nurseries get all kinds of requests from parents.

Charlieandlola I am , I would have loved it if dh did that on behalf of dd, just shows thought and appreciation, why did you just not recieve it with good grace and gratitude?

What the hell is a push present?

Charlieandlola, I know you say you are an expert, but actually the activity is not at odds with the EYFS (see my post from last night).

No wonder C&L he did not do it again, I wouldnt

yabu - I got one with handprints on from my 11 month old and I loved it, probably won't get any other kind though. I suppose the poor nursery workers thought you would like it!

charlieand lola - at your reaction unles you needed that money for food or rent this week it was thoughtless. I'm not surprised your dh didn't do it again I would love to have had that

It's not pointless.

It is leaning on common cultural reference points in order to stimulate a positive reaction from the parent. This is good for the parent child relationship - and good for the childs pride in their own work.

A mothers day card is 'supposed' to get a smile and an Aww reflexively from even the most exhausted parent. Child sees that the thing he has given to the parent and that he 'worked' on got a positive reaction. Child is happy, Child is motivated. Parent feels acknowledged.

It's really really not about the actual item produced and what proportion of the work was done by the NN. It's not fricking coursework!

YABVVVU.

I love making craft things with all the children I've ever looked after - I made a Mothers Day card with my 6 month old charge on Thursday. He was sitting in his Bumbo playing with the envelope I was going to put the card in, lol , I had the paint on my hands and I sort of high-fived him (which made him laugh like a loon, it was very cute) and for his feet I pretended to tickle him while covering his feet in paint (again, he laughed lots) and et voila, we ended up with a smudgy double footprint on the back and a even more smudged double hand print on the front
I then printed a pic from my phone at boots and stuck it on the inside of the card with a little message (obviously straight from his mouth hehe) something along the lines of "To my wonderful mummy, I love you very very very much, Love and drooly kisses, " and on the back I put "an * original production"

I have just got a text off my DB saying she loved it and that he has claimed half the credit for the production so I am more than pleased with my that

I think you need to look at the bigger picture tbh!
And C&L - what a horrible person you sound like and wtf is a push present??!

Crikey, I got a lovely card finger painted by DS for Mother's day, when he was 15 months, and a little photo frame, again finger painted with glitter.
I thought they were lovely

He loves finger painting, even when he was tinier, I think he like the squishy feel of the paint!

I think YABVVVVVVU and mean-spirited

'Push present'? - C&L did you get DH a 'Thank you for providing semen' present in return??

My 15 month old daughter toddled over to me today with a little bunch of flowers and a card in her hands, after some coaxing from her daddy. I thought it was the sweetest thing ever! I also got a card from her last year when she was four months old. Lovely!