To think that the nursery nurses getting my 10 month old daughter to make a mother's day card is pointless

[Reallytired]

Well she is a baby. She is more interested in crawling and eating bits of card board. She is perfecting her pincher grip by eating small bits of lego/ power rangers/ transformers off the carpet. (Not this precise second as she is asleep)

I have a mother day's card "made" my daughter. It just seems a total waste of time. I am sure there are better activites that they could do with her to improve fine motor skills.

I agree with ScreaminEagle

I have bought mother's day cards for the two grandmothers from dd (don't ask!) and tomorrow I intend to sit her down and stick a pen in her hand and the two of us will write the cards with me holding her hand holding the pen. The writing will be suitably unformed and will look like a small child wrote it. DD is 26 months and not developmentally ready for writing text, but the grandmothers will adore it. Therefore, tacky or not, I'm doing it!

It's one card for one day (a very special day in lots of mum's - surprised not in yours as it is your first mother's day), and meant with the best possible way by the nursery nurses. So, YABVU. Maybe as your name suggests, you need some more sleep?

YABU - the nursery tried to do something nice for you. There may not have been paint but your DD will have handled paper, felt different textures and probably enoyed the buzz and chatter while cards were being made.
I loved the Mother's Day cards I got from DS's nursery and have still got all of them - even the one he "made" at 14 months. I even used to get Valentines cards too and I thought it was brilliant.

A big hooray for all you nursery nurses out there.

My DD has pretty bad development problems and autistic traits, and we got a Mothers Day card home from nursery, supposedly made by her, and I am sure she probably only glanced in its direction for a second. But we were touched and are treasuring it, silly really!!

REALLY TIRED

I think you must be a bit wound up to be bothering to post this> Yep, total waste of time and no meaning to your son, fair enough, it I was you I would rather have a handprint or maybe a nice photo of them doing something they enjoy, from nursery for mothers day. Maybe you should suggest it.

I hate seeing mass produced obviously made by/very very supervised by adults cards for any occasion. My class of 5 year olds get a blank card and get to shove on whatever they think thir mum might like, they looked great! (well, i think so hehe)

as for the phonics, might be worth checking what they are doing. If they are following letters and sounds (which is what they should be doing) then they should be doinn phase 1 only which is basically games with musical instruments, clapping etc. It is to practice listening skills and teach children to discriminate between sounds (not necessarily letter sounds). I know some preschools do start to teach alphabet sounds but this should really only be with their about to start school children, and then only those who have met all of the phase 1 objectives.

YANBU

It's actually considered bad practice to involve children in activities where they are in no way developmentally ready

A child of 10 months would have very little choice/say in the outcome of the activity-in this case the card.

I see exactly where you are coming from OP

You are completely right, the EYFS actually backs you up, (and I am an EYP).

The card is solely or the mum's benefit-I , for one, would prefer a nursery to spend it's time for activities which benefit and engage the child.

It must be a joyless, barren world you inhabit, JoeyBettany.

Is there actually anything wrong with the nursery spending 10 minutes on something even if it does solely benefit the mother (leaving aside the look of joy on a normal mother's face alone would be of benefit to a 10 month old in any case)?

Or should we all be prostrate on the altar of motherhood ramming bamboo shoots under our finger nails every moment of every single day?

I'm not joyless at all.

What's joyless is witnessing stressed out nursery nurses force crying babies into doing something they have no interest in 'because otherwise Ollie's mummy won't have her card'.

And I have witnessed this and worse, sadly many times.

my ds made me some lovely paper flowers at nursery and yes i do doubt he did it entirely by himself but i LOVED it, YABU perhaps you should put your dc in a montossori?

And it's a very stupid world you inhabit, georgimama, if you would really be overjoyed at receiving a card made by a nursery worker.

The NNs at DS's nursery aren't stressed. They don't force the children to do anything. What awful nursery have you been working in joey?

This is all very silly. I adore my first mother's day card from DS even if it was made 95% by an adult.

"What's joyless is witnessing stressed out nursery nurses force crying babies into doing something they have no interest in 'because otherwise Ollie's mummy won't have her card'.

And I have witnessed this and worse, sadly many times. "

Have you? Sounds quite unlikely to me. I didn't get a card but a sparkly pink coaster, which I will proudly put on my desk on monday.

I'm happy to be considered stupid in your book if a general recognition of Mother's Day by the community of which I and my son are a part is "stupid".

On one hand you say the cards are made by the nursery nurses. On the other hand you say the nurses are forced to force crying babies to do something they don't want to do so every mother will have a card. Which is it? It can't be both.

YABU if the children were involved in making the cards, most probably through paint and hand/footprints, as then I imagine that everyone gains as its fun for the kids, something different for the nannies and a nice present for the mum.

However, OP says ?It is a very pretty card and the art work is of a higher standard that I would be capable of. The nursery nurse who "helped" is an extremely talented artist.? If the children have just been ignored for an hour so the nursery nurse looking after them can knock out a load of cards then Im not a fan of this and YANBU.

lockets I'm a CM but thank you anyway

JoeyBettany it's not the outcome that matters, it never is - that's not why we do things like this. See my post above to see what a baby can enjoy from doing such an activity.

Cannot beleiev this OP is real?
How fucking miserable.
GEt over yourself,

ooh you bloody misery

YABU and wrong about the activity being developmentally inappropriate. Part of a Nursery Nurse's job is to support the crucial bond that a baby has with their main carer. Part of their job is also to make sure that they develop positive relationships with parents. It is developmentally appropriate at any age to encourage loving gestures between a child and his/her mother. What a shame that in your case this is not appreciated.

yes I see what you mean YANBU

coldtits LOL!!!!!

chill the fuck out!!!!

Bumnoise

Some babies may enjoy this activity- some may well have to be coerced into it -which IMo is not right.

there are many many other creative activities
which can enhance a babies' development.

I've worked in several settings, where this kind of planned activity, where the child takes home something for the parent, where it ends up being the ONLY planned activity-at least one member of staff sitting there the whole time. It becomes a grim kind of production line-rounding up the kids when it's their turn.

I've often thought after watching a child interrupted from their game of choice, that this would appal the child's parents, if they knew how these cards were forced upon their offspring, but after reading this thread, maybe not!

and don't get me started on nativity plays for pre-schoolers! (again solely for the parents)

Rehearsals beginning in November, for at least an hour a day-this was in a private nursery, I can't imaging my local surestart would be so inane.

Miserable kids, fighting and crying out of the sheer boredom of it all!

YABU

You need to tell them on Monday that they have wasted their time.

Ungrateful person.