To think that the nursery nurses getting my 10 month old daughter to make a mother's day card is pointless

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Well she is a baby. She is more interested in crawling and eating bits of card board. She is perfecting her pincher grip by eating small bits of lego/ power rangers/ transformers off the carpet. (Not this precise second as she is asleep)

I have a mother day's card "made" my daughter. It just seems a total waste of time. I am sure there are better activites that they could do with her to improve fine motor skills.

No - would agree that a child should not be coerced into something they don't wish to do. However, nothing wrong then in saying "your DS/DD didn't do this activity because they were tired/stressed/playing etc". I would not be offended by that at all.

However, I still think that IF a child does take part at 10 months then they will experience scrunching paper, paint (if that's what's being used) and social interaction which are all important too.

My DS bought home a card with his handprint pon at 14 months and I loved it. Apparently he enjoyed splashing his hands in the paint (no change there then).

Year 7 children are not age 6

Mothers day cards made/bought by a child old enough to understand the meaning - fantastic and magic

Mothers day cards made/bought by an adult on behalf of a baby - pointless and patronising. Dh bought me a bunch if flowers from ds when he was 3 months old ( first mothers day). I took them to the local hospice and rued the 49 quid he'd wasted.
Now ds is old enough , I love getting his handprints/splidges because he understands that he is making something for me. Plus a hug from him brings me just as much joy and reminds me how deeply I am loved.
Yanbu

Charlieandlola - are you serious?? What did your dh say? Surely when kids are so little and the dad buys something its as much t0o say 'thanks for being a great mum to our child' as anything. How ungrateful, Id have been gutted if I were your dh and Id be damn sure youd get nothing else until the 'baby' was working and earning his own money and could go out and buy his own things for you!

YABU. It is never too early to teach children to think of others and to mark anniversaries.

The learning experience here was not about the craft, but about the giving.

i am at £49 quid bunch of flowers.

bunch of daffs in this household!

Love the way we extrapolate a card made mostly by an adult into an activity that was forced onto an unwilling, screaming 10-month old.

I think after reading this and the other thread about Mothers Day assemblies that all settings should just ignore the whole thing in future because obviously it's completely pointless for them to waste time doing anything for a bunch of ungrateful cynics.

Jeez - CharlieandLola - are you for real? What a spiteful reaction to a thoughtful gesture. I'd be amazed if your dh has bothered making any effort since.

As a mother I appreciate anything my child has 'made' for me - and the smile I get in return when I make a fuss over them is worth it.

detoxdiva - no he has done nothing since, thankfully. Apart from buy a card and flowers for HIS MOTHER just as ds makes something/will buy a card for me, HIS MOTHER.

waitingforbedtime - If the flowers had been from him, ie to C&l thanks for being a great mum to our son, love MrC&L, then great.
I just couldn't suspend my disbelief that 3mo ds had phoned up florist, chosen words on card - To my mummy on mothers day from baby charlie, that I found it pointless and patronising.

DH bought me diamonds as a push present -with a card that said Thank you for my son, which I will treasure until I die.

..thank fuck i dont celebrate Mother's Day seems to to bring out the weird in people..

"I just couldn't suspend my disbelief that 3mo ds had phoned up florist, chosen words on card - To my mummy on mothers day from baby charlie, that I found it pointless and patronising."

Wow - playtime in your house must be a barrel of laughs.

Actually that this is genuinely how you feel.

OP, I do cards with the children at the toddler group, the "old ones" (2/3 years old) I do not interfere with and just let them create what they want. The little ones, I tend to get a bit more involved but I really think they still get something out of it.

CharlieandLola, yes, you are not your DH 's mother, I grant you that but you are a mother and your DH decided to celebrate that by buying you flowers. A good thing to do in that case is to say "thank you" and enjoy the present. Now, if you absolutely hate flowers and he knows it that is a bit different.

Wow. I thought the OP was unreasonable, but WOW Charlieandlola that is one of the most awful things I've ever read. Your poor husband. How incredibly mean you are.

My first mother's day, last year, my daughter was 4 months old and I was still at home fulltime. My husband didn't get me a card, and although I'm normally pretty blase about this sort of thing, it really bothered me. I think I may have cried. My first Mother's Day, and no-one recognised it (because obviously my daughter was still getting to grips with the thrilling realisation that she had hands, back then).

If a childcare worker had made me a card, even if my daughter wasn't in the same fucking room, I'd have been happy that year.

OP, you are being unreasonable. I expect you know that.

Blimey charlieandlola - how ungrateful to your DH for maing an effort. I'd have been over the moon that anyone did that for me. Could you not see that he was saying that "Mother's Day is special and I am marking it until our child is old enough to do so himself"?
How incredibly rude, spoilt and selfish.

my DH (separated!) would never have thought to do anything about mother's day; what I found really weird was getting cards 'from' my kids, sent by my mother (in another country). When we never really 'did' mother's day when I was a child.

I told her I appreciated the thought but mother's day cards from your mum was too weird; think she understood.

My kids' first nursery did go over the top producing things 'made' by the babies; I love getting them now that they are a bit older and can participate, but there did seem to be too much of the 'production line' about them. Handprints etc all very well, stuff obviously done by staff (particularly when it was part of a charity package of things 'made' by your kid that you had to pay for) - . Wouldn't have complained about a mother's day card like that but wouldn't really have appreciated it either.

Now, how to get any child care setting in this part of the world to stop sending cards home addressed to 'Mummy and Daddy'..... though I try to remember to show DH on the rare occasions he deigns to come and visit them.

Of course YABU

The only person that makes you sound less nasty is charlieandlola - I really pity your DH.

I wonder if this this thread would read AIBU... to be upset that I didnt recieve a mothers day card from my 10 month old .... if u didnt get one ??

i am a nursery nurse and know that at the end of the day its "process not product"

they probably intorduced your child to the activity and she/he has shown intrest in that activity even if it is a tiny line or a splodge and therefore you have recived a mothers day card.

I have 1 from DS, 15 months which he made at nursery, I love it. And babies love messy play. YABU.

JoeyBettany - sounds like you've worked in some pretty shit nurseries! If you're an EYP shouldn't you be leading better practice?

I've worked in good nurseries and average nurseries and have never forced a crying baby to make anything (nor have I witnessed this). Some little ones will love the craft activity, some will throw a bit of glitter on the card then toddle off to the sandpit. At most making a card will have taken up 10 minutes of the child's day. There will always be at least two, normally three NNs in a room and several activities running at the same time - so having one NN sitting at a table helping children make cards (so that no mummy is left out!) isn't negatively impacting on anyone.

I worked in these nurseries as an EYP student on placement -missus-and yes, I was constantly striving to improve practice. Now,I'm an outreach worker so thankfully out of the private nursery hell that I experienced.

I just think we should be moving away from the idea that every mummy has to have a card regardless of how it is made-surely it would be more meaningful if the children created the cards themselves.

Just because you haven't witnessed such bad practice doesn't mean it doesn't happen btw. .

One of the most depressing OPs I've ever read. If you ARE serious, then I would suggest that you practice your happy and smiley reaction next year when presented with a beautifully scruffy, messy mothers day card as your DD will be old enough to sense your feelings of contempt by then. Really speechless. And to any nursery nurses reading this, thank you and your colleagues for taking the time to help my babies create those master pieces for me - I treasure them all.

charlieand lola are your push diamonds currently residing up pompous arse? push diamonds and giving away a £49 bouquet, god you sound like a massive twat who needs to learn about the value of money.

push present ?

what a load of old bollocks