to have been slightly disapproving of the lyrics of literally ALL the songs sung in DD's mother's day assembly today?

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They were all about how mummies clean and cook, and wash our clothes and tidy up and change our beds and pack our lunches and bring us to school....

And I thought FFS I know for a fact that many of us sitting here do a fark of a lot more than that, and couldn't you have worked some of the other, less gender stereotyped stuff in?

And I also thought, FFS sometimes some of the Daddies even do all that.

Is it just me who thinks that in 2010, schools could be making a leetle more of an effort to point out to children that mummies aren't just there to service the household?

YANBU

dd proudly read out in the special assembly that I make lovely biscuits and cut her hair

(I think she is confusing me with McVities and Denise from crazy cutz)

LOLOL

At least my DD's poem said that I'm a great driver!

YABU

I think it was a nice thing to have a Mother's day assembly.

Well actually I dont' think it was that nice. It's quite normal ian't it?

And I didn't find it nice, seeing images of mothers as being mainly domestic servants being perpetrated. It's just so lazy and non-aspirational, not what schools should be doing IMO.

I agree HB - it's like nothing has changed in 30 years! YANBU

Maybe they asked the children what their mummies did and thats what they said ? Wouldnt bother me at all-I do all of those things,and thats whats important about me to my children, they dont care what I do at work.

actually i do all those things you mentioned for my DC so i would be happy to be recognised for it, through song or otherwise!

of course i do more than that but the things i do are not ones which necessarily apply to the other mums at school. I'm financially rewarded for some of my 'other' jobs but let's face it, you generally don't get much thanks for doing the laundry on a regular basis!

and yes, lots of dads do some or all of those tasks. but imo, that doesn't detract from the overall message of acknowledgement/thanks.

Why don't you go in an tell them your views?
I'm sure they'll be quite happy not to bother next year!

It's not normal. We had one in 1999. Nothing since.

That's the thing though - most kids don't notice that their mums do the laundry, cleaning etc. So how comes it's coming up in the songs?

Maybe it is from their feedback, but I think it's school's job to ask questions and get children to think about all the other stuff as well. Isn't it? How much of this stuff is just driven by the children's views and how much by the adults? I genuinely don't know, am interested in the balance I suppose.

I've NEVER been invited to a school assembly

is that normal?

YANBU btw

YANBU - I am worried mine might read out that their mother refuses to do housework and we'd all starve if the cleaner left.

hocuspocus is right, just go in and complain and then next year they won't be grateful for anything.

I think you are over thinking this, and yes you are right ' most kids don't notice that their mums do the laundry, cleaning etc. So how comes it's coming up in the songs?'

Because when they do stop and think about it that is what they have noticed, why should they care about what you do when you are not home. Get your appreciation for what you do from other sources if that's what you need, or wait until they are older and able to understand how varied and complex their parents' roles are.

It is not that common to have a Mothers' day assembly.

MP- nor had I, but DD's new school have a class assembly in April which they have been learning all sorts of things for, dance routines, songs, all sorts! I was when I discovered it existed!

I would LOVE to be invited to a Mothers' Day Assembly. I reckon I would be in floods of tears at how lovely it was. Isn't the assembly about things we do for the children. ie. Cuddles, cooking, washing etc and not a list of what it is on our CV.

YANBU. But you ABU in just posting on MN and not TELLING the school why you had issues with it.

Mother's day assembly.. what next?

OK, so I'm a raving cynic, but really????

I went to mother's day assembly today and had the same song I think.

my sons calss recited the poem

we love to squeeze bananas
we love to squeeze ripe plums
and when we are feeling sad
we love to squeeze our mums!

I loved it!!

Ds even wrote out the poem (I nearly fainted) and showed it to me before his 'secret' assembly as he as he was so excited.

He said he loved it when I took him swimming.

I think YB a little U as I do do a lot of what the song said and mums now do a huge mixture of things as some work, some stay at home so they couldn't write one that fits all situations really.

I was a teacher, ds has never known me as one so wouldn;t think to write about that. I was also a 'cellist and becasue ds 2 is such a thug my 'cello is a t my dad's so he's not see me do that too. He has seen me cook, clean and frive him about though...

Yeah, thats the attitude! Don't complain because then they just won't bother! Be grateful for what you get! Just be happy that they even acknowledged that you exist because if you complain they wont even talk to you next year!

YANBU

I think you are being a bit petty really.

Having made I love my Mummy because... cards with 3 and 4 year old all week, they do seem to just notice the cooking and cleaning, around 3/4 made reference to domestic type things most of the others were just random
'she finds me worms' or 'she has blue hair'(she is in fact blonde)

Not quite pfft, worth complaining when something is worth complaining about. Sometimes, a little bit of perspective is needed before complaints are made.

YABVU . Those teachers and children worked hard to show you something especially for you, to make you all the other mothers happy.

How much would they would wish they hadn't bothered if they knew how ungrateful you were about it.