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Original poster

Just wondering.........

91 replies

thesteelfairy2 · 08/03/2010 21:06

what your responses might be to a not so dh who has just walked in from a 3 day trip to Amsterdam for a stag do during which time you were completely alone with 2 small dc (no family or friends nearby) who says "God look what happens when I go away for a long weekend, this place is a complete shit tip, no way I can relax in this!"

Bearing in mind that this is the hell hour of finishing school, cooking dinner, baths etc and the place is pretty much immaculate and well ordered the rest of the time.

So just wondering really........

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lambanana · 08/03/2010 21:09

erm Fuck Off.

lifeas3plus1 · 08/03/2010 21:10

I'd tell him to Fuck Off and not come back until he had a serious attitude change.

MyCatIsABastard · 08/03/2010 21:10

fuck off, I'm going out, here are the kids - you toss pot.

Whoamireally · 08/03/2010 21:13

What mycat says

Coldhands · 08/03/2010 21:13

Clean it up then if you are so fucking perfect, you fuckwit!

Vallhala · 08/03/2010 21:14

What MyCat said.

Together with... "Fuck off, and when you get there, fuck off again" .

I hope by now you're reading this from a friend's house/bar, having left him in charge of the children.

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 08/03/2010 21:14

Well you know where the hoover/duster/bleach etc are. Get cracking while I have a rest and then you can cook our dinner and you can relax afterwards!

emmymama · 08/03/2010 21:15

i cant put what i would have said, i dont want banning...

chandellina · 08/03/2010 21:15

i think the appropriate response is to walk out of the house without saying a word and not come back until you bloody well feel like it.

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thesteelfairy2 · 08/03/2010 21:16

Well this pathetic excuse for a man seems to feel that he has "every right" to comment on issues to do with the "housework and kids" and will not be stopping anytime soon. Bearing in mind that he does NO housework whatsoever though is not so bad about doing childcare, when he is around that is.

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thesteelfairy2 · 08/03/2010 21:17

Can I just tell you all as well that this is my EX h, who does not even live here anymore!

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SoupDragon · 08/03/2010 21:19

In that case, I wouldn't be letting him in the house again.

jenduff · 08/03/2010 21:19

never mind what we'd say to him (I agree with them up there) - why are you putting up with it when he doesn't even live there?

You so deserve better- being treated with respect for a start

MyCatIsABastard · 08/03/2010 21:19

valhalla, I love the "fuck off, and when you get there fuck off again". I shall have to add that to me repertoire

maxpower · 08/03/2010 21:20

couldn't have put it better myself chadellina

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thesteelfairy2 · 08/03/2010 21:20

I have to. My ds has HFA and gets very upset if he doesn't see his dad as regularly as possible.

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MyCatIsABastard · 08/03/2010 21:21

steelfairy, in that case, bloody let rip at the arse! You're well rid from the sounds of it.

lambanana · 08/03/2010 21:22

If he is your exH why would he be relaxing in your house anyway???

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thesteelfairy2 · 08/03/2010 21:23

Oh I know I am well rid, everynight I lie iie in bed smiling happily to myself because he is no longer here. I am just astounded by the complete lack of insight this man shows and had to share. I was shaking with fury when he said but I can't show it because of dc. He honestly believes he has "every right" to say these things to me.

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thesteelfairy2 · 08/03/2010 21:25

Because of ds. I try to keep things as normal as possible, ds would struggle greatly with the usual kind of access arrangements, I usually go out when he comes to see dc but was not possible tonight.

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j0807bump · 08/03/2010 21:25

totally agree with all the swearing going on.

can't imagine you'll find any saying diff

can't imagine he's gonna get much action in the foreseeable either

ChasingSquirrels · 08/03/2010 21:25

can't he see ds elsewhere?
if you aren't living with him why is he saying "i go away for a ling weekend"?
fuck off and fuck off again - yup!

bickie · 08/03/2010 21:26

I have just posted on another site where a husband complained about the meal cooked for him - is anybody out there worried that we have woken up and found ourselves in the 50's? What is happening??? Is there some unwritten rule if you agree to become a SAHM - you are becoming an unpaid servant? YANBU - don't put up with it.

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thesteelfairy2 · 08/03/2010 21:27

Thats how he is ChasingSquirrels, we have been separated for over two years, nearly three actually but he still talks like he lives here. He even brought back washing for me to do. Needless to say he took it away with him again when he left.

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bickie · 08/03/2010 21:29

Just read that you are no longer with him - phew - but still ... what a wanker.