To think it slightly stingy for a couple to bring *one* bottle of Tesco half-price wine with them when invited to dinner?

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Recently had a dinner-party (went to lots of effort, lovely food, lots of wine, blah blah). Two couples came bearing a bottle each of that weeks Tesco half-price offer (plus in one case a bar of chocolate), then proceeded to drink the house dry, in one couples case til 3am. Please don't get me wrong, am def not the penny-pinching hostess, and most certainly will always keep the drink flowing, just thought it a little mean.Maybe the fact that there was a slight element of "duty" involved, ie returning hospitality to guests has coloured my view. If dh and i are invited anywhere, would always bring two bottles. Is one (cheap) bottle per couple the new black?

YABU. Surely you don't invite people because of what they may or may not bring with them?

And anyway, I tend to struggle to get even one glass of wine down when I go to somebody's house. Don't like it but feel as if I must say yes to a glass for the sake of politeness. I take ccake instead!

At the risk of being flamed here I think it might be an age thing. If dh and I are going to friends for dinner or his family (who all drink as much as we do) then would probably take three bottles and possibly some beers too and rarely would anything be left
If going to my parents I would take one nice bottle as they provide the wine and would accept our bottle and put it away.

I don't like to turn up empty handed so I well may arrive with a half price bottle of wine fron Tesco's.
DH only drinks beer, but we never bring it with us as it doesn't feel right

YABU!

"Btw I live in Ireland. We do things differently here. " Oh well in that case - she should have bout a CASE

On reflection maybe its a celtic thing - am scottish. Alternatively could just be an alki thing.

I would expect to provide the wine to go with the meal I'd cooked - any wine brought by the guests would be gratefully received as a nice gesture, and if it was cheap would be put in the kitchen rack for DS or DD to take for their next prelash.

We would only ever take one bottle, and yes it's likely to be one that was on offer (otherwise you'd get Tesco's own cheapest ).

how about bring two bottles and took one back when they leave.
from my own experience. why would you bring two bottles to someone`s house then, " oh shall i take one back, its not opened" "well, yes, i suppose so"
i dont mind one bottle of half price wine. it all about good gesture. as long as they dont take half bottle back

I once had someone turn up with an opened bottle of wine
and someone turn up with champagne - yum - and when it wasnt drunk ask to take it home.. I said ok but was a bit shocked

Well, I'm Scottish, and I'm going to stick my neck out and say YANBU!

Most of our friends will drink far more than half a bottle of wine in an evening that goes on until 3am! And all of them would bring more than they thought they would actually drink, as do we when we go to friends. And people say the scots are stingy.. we usually bring 2 bottles to a dinner party that we think will be fairly civilised, 3 or 4 (plus maybe some spirits!)to one that we know will go on into the wee sma hours!

Neither of us drink wine but get some in for friends.

We do tell my father to bring his wine choice as he fancies himself a con-o-sewer and would suffer through whatever we supplied, and also we occasionally have dinner with a couple, one of whom is on/off the wagon, so if he is drinking they bring the wine, rather than us putting temptation directly in his path and his wife getting upset with him.

Yadbu

When you are invited to someone's house you don't start to pay for the bleedin' evening by thinking
I will drink a bottle
Dp/Dh will drink two
And so on and so forth.

It's so wrong.

We need an Etiquette topic.

YABU - Guests should not have to bring anything at all.

I haven't come across people bringing 2 bottles of wine before. Or guests drinking the place dry either. They just drink what is served, not rummage through my fridge or wine rack.

YABU. DH and I only take one bottle of wine when we are invited to a dinner party. We don't expect any guests we invite to bring anything. They usually do bring a botle of something. We invite people for thier company not for what they bring

well we take two bottles with us when we go to someones for dinner if it's likely we will be drinking a lot
so yanbu

God... its a minefield akin to a game of chess

I've never given it any thought until tonight.

I am surprised at people saying guests shouldn't bring anythign at all.
I always take something when invited to dinner..wouldn't dream of turning up empty-handed.

Where's Bonsoir? She can tell us whats-what in Paris so we all know what we should be doing!

well they would pour the tesco half-price stuff down the sink

YABU. We only ever take one bottle, with perhaps flowers/chocolates, and I'd think it is odd if a couple came with two or three to a dinner party too.

YABU.

We have spent several hundred pounds on parties, and frankly I get a little embarrassed at guests arriving bearing bunch of flowers + champagne + posh chocolates.

We will provide food and drink for you as our guests, you bring us a small token of thanks, such as a half-price bottle of Tesco wine (a half-price bottle must have cost £6+ originally, I would think, so it seems enough to me), and when you invite us back we will do the same.

Certainly not two bottles or a 'contribution' to the evening's booze consumption. It is a party freely given, not some sort of collaborative effort.

I can see your point. Stingy people are annoying.