to hit my ex?

[angelikarobinson]

My ex partner was over last night to see the kids. I was in a bit of a strop generally after a hard day. He told me that he was going to be a bit short on child support this month and I just lost it and started punching and slapping him. I broke his glasses and threw him out. It isn't the first time that I've done this and I don't feel particularly good about it. But I also don't feel that it's really the same thing as when a man batters a woman. He never retaliates which in a way makes me angrier still. I find my rages hard to control. I hate my ex and I resent him still being in my life. I recognise that he is a good father and I don't want to stop him from seeing the children, but when I see him I just utterly despise him for being fat and weak and I want to punch him until he fights back. I'm worried that I might get so angry that I will really do some damage to him. I can imagine attacking him with a knife, for example. I'm worried that I will lose control and end up in trouble with the law. I know that I should seek "help": then I think well why should I? It's not as if I'm like this with the children or with anyone else?

You are an abuser.

You are picking out the comments you feel justify your pity-pot so you can add to it.

It's either a pathetic wind-up, or you are a real knaker.

Sorry, you are not really answering the loads of lovely people who have actually given good advice...yet are being upset by someone calling you a name? FFS- what did you expect.

I put on weight too...I deserve a fucking slap...

knacker not knaker...

dont worry someone will rock up,twist the narrative so you are the victim and the misogynistic ex goaded you into retaliatory violence

Teasle has to be Irish

Um the effects of a woman hitting a man are generally different from vice versa, but the causes - a refusal to take ownership of your feelngs and behavour and to acknowledge responsibility for them - are the same.

FGS acknowledge that you need some anger management. SS will not take your children into care, the fact that you are seeking help is not a reason for a counsellor to report you. You know you sound like a loon, don't you, do something about this.

You are mad!
You didn't post in the Relationships section saying you needed help for your anger or show any remorse or shame for hitting your ex - you posted in AIBU and tried to justify it.
So don't be bloody surprised at the harsh response.
Lots of people on here are the victims of Domestic violence and it makes them understandably angry when an abuser (that is what you are) comes on here trying to get sympathy and understanding.
I never ever use the 'c' word, but in your case I might make an exception.

just read the thread on page nine get a grip OP all you are talking about is you and how you feel, what about your children and your ex?

Message withdrawn

im not sure why you think it is wrong for a man to hit a woman but ok for a woman to hit a man?
i know break ups are difficult, especially when children are involved but this is way out of line, i hope youre dc are not witnessing this. i think you need to get some counselling asap, there are obviously some issues you need to sort out as this behaviour is damaging to everyone....especially kids.
my ex husband physically abused me and it is devastating and humiliating, need to stop now!!!

@MARYZ OH THAT STORY IS JUST SO

Johnny Get Angry

maryz, be prepared for a number of MNers to accuse your friend of being a long-term violent abuser and lying to you about this.

That being said, the fear of being disbelieved by police is what kept me from reporting my ex. I understand that this is a very common fear by male victims of domestic abuse.

For what it's worth I never laid a finger on my ex but that wasn't due to fear of prosecution. The knowledge that I had more self-control than her was one of the few remaining shreds of dignity I still had by that point. If I'd hit her back I'd never be able to look at myself in the mirror again.

oh no, i havent worked since we had children, have put on a shit load of weight and Iexpect when my husband returns from his business trip to get a good battering!

OP - not only are you a pathetic loser, you are a rubbish troll.

How you can say your children know nothing of you abusing your ex, is beyond belief, screaming, shouting, punching, kicking, slapping??? are your DC mute and blind?

i will refrain from using the C word, but off you fucking fuck back under your bridge.