In not knowing exactly what it is that DH does at work?

[Shodan]

I mean, obviously I know the basics. He works with computers.

He always wears a suit to work.

And he very often works late at night (in the sitting room) which leads to him being asleep all evening the next day. As now.

Today I noticed he was wearing a tie as well as the suit. Aha, thinks I, Something Big was happening today. So I asked him. Did Something Big happen today?

He looked a bit hurt, frankly, and then spent fifteen minutes telling me what he had, apparently, already told me last night.

And, like last night, it went in one ear and out the other.

So I still don't know exactly what he does.

Am I a Bad Wife?

My DH is a 'Project Manager' for an IT company. We were at a party once and he was asked to explain his role - which he replied was hiring/finding people to do the work... The questioner then said was he just the middle man and what difference would it make if he wasn't there... He didn't really have a reply...

I work for a local council so we always have lots of interesting discussions about the different way our organisations work.

I beleive in the statement that if you can't explain what you do - coherently in a couple of sentences so that someone can understand it - then you don't know what you do!

onebadbaby, I was so pleased to read your post. I thought I was a Very Bad Wife because I never know where ex-H was. Like your OH, he travelled a lot and would always tell me where he was going. However, London/Paris/New York/Scunthorpe all start to sound the same when you're not really interested very busy yourself. I never knew what he did either, except that he zapped things with lasers. I was really out of my depth at his works' 'do's'

DP is a programmer see I know what he does,

/really has no clue but he writes some sort of software stuff for some other stuff

Dh is a software engineer. He never wears a suit. Hew writes code. He does installs. And launches. I'm not sure which is which.

I have made Progress.

Dh does something with applications.

There. Fully up to speed now.

(I'm not quite sure what an application is, but feel sure I'll learn in about ten years soon.)

Shodan My DH speaks like that alot, maybe your DH and my DH are speaking to each other!

DH is a software developer, and I know what he does because I'm one too, kinda

yanbu.

Dh and I are chalk and cheese when it comes to professions, I have no idea what he does (something with computers), he hasn't got a clue what I do(something health care related).

Another IT wife here.

NO idea what he does, he has just got a new job in his department which sounds like an admin job to me from the title but I am assured it is very Important and involves lots of computers.

I can follow his work politics though (mostly fights about the air con), I realised recently though that he has one manager instead of the two I thought he had, he just refers to the same guy with two different names. Ooops.

network administrator?

My h2b is a Regional IT Implementation Manager (North West).

He half works from home and half goes out supervising installations, mainly new tills at the moment either upgrades at existing stores, or complete installs on new stores. When he works from home he is in charge of making sure everyone knows where they are meant to be for the installs and making sure all the equipment will be there, and when he is on site he is in charge of making sure everyone is actually doing whet they are meant to be doing and sorting out problems that arise during the installs.

He also has been known to wear a hard hat (blue) and big construction boots .

I am a teacher - much easier to remember.

DH is military, therefore I can look all mysterious when I don't really understand what he does. Something to do with law, economics and foreign policy. I'm just required to know who we have over for dinner or drinks.

My father is a judge, mother is a teacher, one grandfather was a precision engineer (bit vague) and the other was a civil servant and did Something in the war.

All fairly easy to explain but often involving things one can't actually talk about.

I think I might just not try and tell people what DH does (if they ask) but instead look mysterious too.

Perhaps they might be fooled into thinking he's a Spy.

(Pssst, Mme Shodan, we are greatly in need of a Martial Artist!)