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parenting pet peeves...

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bubbleymummy · 22/02/2010 22:15

I know I'm going to get flamed for this but I just don't care - I have to vent somewhere after a weekend of smiling and nodding and keeping my mouth shut!

Here is a list of 'parenting' traits that I absolutely hate!

Giving babies sugar - dessert/pudding/biscuits/cake - they do not need it - they are not missing anything and they are the reason that your child is already overweight!

Shovelling food into tiny babies, scooping it up and shoving it back in when the baby's tongue pushes it out while discussing the baby's excema, constipation, tummy upsets etc

Giving toddlers fizzy drinks such as Coke and letting them run madly around before screaming at them and complaining about how badly behaved they are.

Giving children calpol because it's been a 'long day' or because they have a slight sniffle or even a hint of a temperature or just because 'they like the taste'!.

controlled crying / cry it out - I hate this at any stage but I DESPISE it in children under 6 months. I don't care if your child has been sleeping through since 5 weeks - it is bloody cruel!

and breathe....

Ok feel free to flame me or alternatively add your own pet peeves!

Disclaimer : I by no means consider myself to be a perfect parent and I could fill several threads with my own parenting flaws.

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bubbleymummy · 22/02/2010 23:11

piprabbit - it's ok - they can get me back by judging all of mine!

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meltedchocolate · 22/02/2010 23:11

So when in the time you spend watching and judging other people do you actually pay attention to your children OP?

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bubbleymummy · 22/02/2010 23:13

minx, that would be one of my 'failings' Although DS moved into his own bed just before he turned 3 with no fuss and we never had to sleep train him. Funny how you can 'learn' to fall asleep all by yourself ;)

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onebadbaby · 22/02/2010 23:13

bubbleymummy you are obviously the original earth mother.

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bubbleymummy · 22/02/2010 23:14

melted, I find I can fit it in around looking after my children quite well. It's quite easy to see the whole room from up here on my pedestal

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PureAsTheColdDrivenSnow · 22/02/2010 23:16
Biscuit
meltedchocolate · 22/02/2010 23:17

I dont actually disagree with much of what you are saying. I am not a fan of crap/snacks for my ds, he gets given that at his grandparents house just didn't think there was a need to be so judgey about it.

claw3 · 22/02/2010 23:19

My kids eat sweets and drink coke sometimes.

lockets · 22/02/2010 23:20

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bubbleymummy · 22/02/2010 23:21

lockets - sounds like a lot for one day! What are the eggs about? Did you sit on them?

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RedbinDippers · 22/02/2010 23:24

why worry about young childrens teeth? they will fall (or get knocked) out anyway. Worry about their diet when the second set arrive.

onebadbaby · 22/02/2010 23:24

No- sounds like a normal hectic day in a busy family house- LOL @ eggs

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bubbleymummy · 22/02/2010 23:25

oh - thought of another one..I'm on a roll tonight! Parents who allow their children to snatch toys away/push other children/knock DS over and then freak out when someone comes within an inch of their own precious DC.

(PFB alert - poor DS was in tears at the weekend because every time he picked up a toy this other child snatched it away from him)

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onebadbaby · 22/02/2010 23:26

Give him some sugar - he might have the energy to fight back!

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bubbleymummy · 22/02/2010 23:27

LOL onebadbaby - touche!

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claw3 · 22/02/2010 23:27

LOL

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bubbleymummy · 22/02/2010 23:30

right folks - off to bed to cosleep with DS2 (nearly 1) who still bfeeds through the night ;)

see you all tomorrow!

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BrahmsThirdRacket · 22/02/2010 23:31

People who tell their children they are worthless.

People who make their children breathe their smoke.

People who hit their children so hard they leave bruises.

Those are my main ones, I think.

sungirltan · 22/02/2010 23:33

woohoo! its not just me that disapproves of baby ear piercing! i could rant all night about that one.

bubblemummy - i put dd in her own room at 4 months. she went from waking twice a night to about 8 times so i moved her and its gone back to two feeds a night plus sleeping in her cot also magically solved my no day time nappping issue. i am more terrified that anyone about sids and have to check on dd at least 20 times a night but now i feel bad :-(

meanwhile- i bloody hate dummies but even more than that i hate watching wee babies throw them on the floor and the mum licking them clean and shoving them back in htier mouths.

i hate it when parents deliberately humiliate their child in public as a punishment

i hate those ridiculous fluffy bonnet janner mums seems to be putting on their babies of late - the ones made of angora and swans down and other frippery

i hate seeing kids in inappropriate footwear - shoes falling apart/slip ons on weenies/heels on little girls

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bubbleymummy · 22/02/2010 23:42

as i said sungirl - it's the parents who just put the baby away in their nursery and close the door that peeve me... have you tried one of the sensor pad things under the mattress? I got one with DS1 because I was so worried about putting him up in his cot before we went up. Some people dismiss them because they are worried about false alarms but we never had any problems with it going off by mistake (except when we lifted DS out and forgot to turn it off!) and I would rather be woken by a false alarm than have the alternative

agh - should be in bed - just had to check again before going upstairs - good night all!

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lifeas3plus1 · 22/02/2010 23:43

sungirltan, You must live in the same place as me.

I only ever hear the word 'Janner' down here.

And I agree with most of your post. Apart from the dummies thing. Our's has been a life saver through the teething months. Although he never has it outside so no throwing on floor, licking and giving it back.

duchesse · 22/02/2010 23:44

Belittling children

Ignoring children

Feeding children unsuitable crap all the time or not feeding them regularly at all

Shoving children out in the street all day from age 3 or 4

Ignoring and/or excusing bad behaviour deliberately because you don't want to tackle your child about it (I don't include tactically ignoring minor misbehaviour as a discipline method)

That about covers it.

KAEKAE · 23/02/2010 00:56

Giving children calpol because it's been a 'long day' or because they have a slight sniffle or even a hint of a temperature or just because 'they like the taste'!.

Who on earth does this!? Shocking!

My DS is 2.5 and has been for checkups since 6 months, I've also been advised to watch the dried fruit! Sticks to the teeth etc etc.

Anyay back to the topic... I hate

Parents who hate dummies! Although I also hate parents that shove them in their babes mouths at any given moment...used as a soother fine, stuck in their mouths ALL day not so fine.

Parents at soft play groups that can multitask...can't hold a discussion because their eyes are transfixed to their child. It's SOFT play - they won't get hurt...hopefully!

Parents that insist on literally feeding their three year old because it's just easier!?!?!??!