parenting pet peeves...

[bubbleymummy]

I know I'm going to get flamed for this but I just don't care - I have to vent somewhere after a weekend of smiling and nodding and keeping my mouth shut!

Here is a list of 'parenting' traits that I absolutely hate!

Giving babies sugar - dessert/pudding/biscuits/cake - they do not need it - they are not missing anything and they are the reason that your child is already overweight!

Shovelling food into tiny babies, scooping it up and shoving it back in when the baby's tongue pushes it out while discussing the baby's excema, constipation, tummy upsets etc

Giving toddlers fizzy drinks such as Coke and letting them run madly around before screaming at them and complaining about how badly behaved they are.

Giving children calpol because it's been a 'long day' or because they have a slight sniffle or even a hint of a temperature or just because 'they like the taste'!.

controlled crying / cry it out - I hate this at any stage but I DESPISE it in children under 6 months. I don't care if your child has been sleeping through since 5 weeks - it is bloody cruel!

and breathe....

Ok feel free to flame me or alternatively add your own pet peeves!

Disclaimer : I by no means consider myself to be a perfect parent and I could fill several threads with my own parenting flaws.

LeQueen - "different and not in a positive, interesting kinda way. But in a negative '...still crying and clinging to their Mum at the school gates at the age of 8... and fails to realise the entire world doesn't always revolve around them...and why do the other children laugh because I still drink milk like a little baby from Mummy's booby' kinda way..."

Do we know the same families ? And yes, it makes me on the DC's behalf as well, because that is not the way the world works and they are/are going to hit the 'real' world like a brick wall and it is going to be so hard for them - and it's so pointless.

Lequeen. You must not be Reading my posts. Ds sleeps in his own room and has no sleep issues and is certainly not weird so I'm not sure what you think I have done to damage him. There is plenty if evidence showing that cc is not good for babies and I will link to it later. There is a reason why it is not recommended under 6 months.

Give it up. You are not insulting me despite your pathetic attempts and I am never going to agree that your friends were right to neglect their child at 5 months.

He shouldn't be working if he's sleep deprived but no I still would recommend controlled crying. Try something else! You act like it's unusual to have a baby that doesn't sleep. We've all been there and many if us have gone through it without cc.

• granted this is anecdotal and not 'evidence-based' but all the GPs and pediatricians I know (and I do know a few) have used and/or would recommend trying CC with one or more of their DC.

Also, for your example there are plenty of Very well adjusted children that coslept. Are you seriously suggesting that all co-sleeping children grow up like that. Seriously? Lmao if you are.

Stealth. I'm glad they aren't mine. Fwiw my gp wouldn't

Lequeen I've answered it twice. It obviously just wasn't the answer you wanted. GIVE IT UP

Not the same families then - the ones we know seemed relatively normal and sane (and had social lives) until they had DC!

Lequeen. Isn't it possible then that it is the parent's personalities that have created the problem rather than the fact that they coslept?

LeQueen - bubbley said that the sleep deprived father should not be working - so clearly she would rather there was NO doctor available to diagnose/treat her ds, in the scenario you outline!!

And I have to agree with LeQueen - a child is not going to remember three nights of CIO, with a total of less than an hour of crying. And in those extreme circumstances, the parents needed to take some sort of action, for the sake of the whole of the family.

Bubbley - if you don't think the dad in LeQueen's scenario is important, answer me this.

Which is better for the baby - to be permanently sleep-deprived, with all the disastrous developmental and physical effects that would have, or to have just three nights of CIO, followed by nights of unbroken sleep, enabling the baby to develop properly, both physically and mentally???

I agree with most of those. After a year or so i think the occasional biccie is fine though. Maybe even before. I expect the conversation has moved onto bumsex by now, but can't be bothered to read the other 389 replies to your post.

I would have said so, LeQueen - but clearly we are wrong!

maybe you should just let it rest, ladies.. You're obviously not going to agree..

Seriously guys. Not using cc does not inevitably equal sleep deprived nights and maladjusted children who don't develop properly. I'm actually getting bored repeating myself. There are alternatives to cc. They work if you try them. Sleep training is not recommended under 6 months.

Lequeen I do not have to answer your question with yes or no because neither response gives my opinion. Read the answer I gave and deal with it. If that was really the case, what about his sleep deprivation when the baby was only 1 week/2weeks/5 weeks old. Is CIO acceptable then?

This is getting boring now..

I notice that your avoiding my question now. Maybe it was your friends' personalities that influenced their child's development rather than that they co-slept?

Shame - should be you're Stupid iPhone

You haven't answered my question about the baby's wellbeing, bubbley.