Porn

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Am I being unreasonable for getting upset that my husband keeps looking at porn?

I refer back to my last post about experimenting... how many of you including those who have thought about using a rampant rabbit, or a sex toy of some kind???

I dont watch porn, my DP does not watch porn anymore but we still use sex toys (my fave is the clit ring that vibrates) and DP uses it on me...For the person who said sex shops arent good (something on those lines anyway) well I think they are..to me they dont promote nothing bad about women... well the decent ones like ann summers is what im talking about...DP and I have bought things to 'entertain' ourselves. We have never watched how to use these things, and never got the ideas from porn mags or dvd, Ive never seen anyone use the clit ring...but DP experimented like the cave man and boy was it good!

I think the morals here are to be considered...every woman feels different about the way in which we should percieve ourselves, about how we should act with our DP/H 's , about how porn reflects mens attitude to women and how some women find it very degrading like myself...at the end of the day if you can live with yourself after watching someones daughter get spat at, or cum on, slapped with a dick...someones son doinf someones daughter up the ass so she screams in pain....then thats your life...one may need to evaluate thier morals???

most of these boy bands are gay, they are often aimed at gay men. Same as the fashion designers who choose boy-like female models.
The point is no one of us can set ourselves up as the arbiter of what is acceptable. We either allow all of it or we restrict it.

This is getting way off tangent now - wearing lacy knickers doesn't define my sexuality, my being a heterosexual monogamous woman does that job rather nicely. My husband doesn't fancy me any more ( or any less) because I'm wearing a silk chemise, it just makes a change from being naked whilst having sex.
If he ever insisted I wear a particular item of clothing for sex or otherwise, then it would be an immediate and automatic turn off for me tbh.

The effect on him of me wearing a basque and stockings is the same as him in a pair of tight jeans and an A + F top for me, it's just something nice to look at.

Malificence is right, of course we do things to please each other. We would be very selfish if we didn't wear clothes that our partners think is attractive. Pur husbands shave, comb their hair and wear smart clothes partly to please us, and we also reciprocate by wearing make-up etc. which we know is attractive to them. We take pleasure in each other's pleasure, that is natural.

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I love that video "Pray"

beautiful men, beautiful male bodies, touchably wet and yummy, erotic oh yes indeedy...,

now that's what I'm talkin' abouuuut

and FWIW, only one of those boys is gay....

I am not criticising people for wearing things to look nice, feel attractive to others and please their partner. I do it myself. I am just saying that my clothes are not my sexual desire and identity, and to make women's sexual identity nothing more than their desire to please men is to objectify women. Having a desire to please men is fine, but it shouldn't be seen as women's entire sexual identity.

I take your word for it, I'm not on top of it like you. But we do know that there have been cases where they have to keep it a secret in case the female fans find out and they lose popularity. Personally I prefer men like Sean Connery to boys like that touching themselves, but we all have different tastes. That is why there is no right and wrong.

I like Pray. I would like it just as much if they were all gay.

so would I Milly

Kerry you're confusing the issue - it's perfectly natural for boys to enjoy looking at naked women of course.

It's neither healthy or normal for them to get their view of sex and sexuality from 21st century porn, where women are merely objects ( or fuck holes ) to be used for the sexual pleasure of multiple men. What is normal about shaved vaginas and over inflated rock hard breasts, not to mention bleached anuses?

I agree with Malificence. It is perfectly natural for boys to enjoy pornography and they will look at it if it is available. But I agree that it is not healthy for them and for society and that is why most societies try to keep a rein on pornography and try to stop its spread.

A picture of a naked woman is not pornography.

So it's also bad if women shave downstairs? Bloody hell, these 'feminist' views make me feel far more repressed than men! I always shave everything and wear lingerie because I like it and feel sexier...it makes me feel more liberated than i would with a national forest between my legs and hideous underwear. Sure;y it's about a womans right to choose?

I have spent the whole afternoon not working reading this thread and it has given me great food for thought (and also enraged me a couple of times) but I guess what bothers me most is the availability of really hardcore pornography.

I know that my DS at 12 has been shown stuff on his mates' mobile phone, that I wasn't even aware was something that people did until I was far into my 30's. This is brain rotting, soul destroying stuff, and all the justification in the world will never, ever make it OK and acceptable.

I remember some boys finding some hedgeporn when I was about 11, these boys showed me this and I remember being really shocked. Looking back it was very tame - just a woman spreadeagled on a sheepskin rug, but I still remember it, 25 years later.

Sorry, went off on a bit of a tangent there.

ok I go further than you and agree with KerryMumbles that boys are naturally attracted to pornography as well as pictures of naked women. But the point is that it is not healthy for society as a whole and that is why it should be restricted, in the same way that we try to restrict drugs.

MrsM...nothing is bad as such

what is bad is that the images young girls and boys are constantly bombarded with, is that a shaved fanny is the only way to be sexy

surely you agree with that ?