Porn

[Bubbles01]

Am I being unreasonable for getting upset that my husband keeps looking at porn?

Now I know Absinthe is on a wind up mission, it was important for her DH that she was a virgin........and she also just happened to look like a porn star. Her comment on the "escort" thread was crass in the extreme, dare I say the troll word?

Oh so all the porn you watched were Tantric ..so really you were watching sex education videos not actually anus ripping porn...

looking more trolltastic by the second..

Funny, I learned tantric massage by reading all about it.

LOL at MrsM getting upset by 'vulgar comments' directed at someone else's DD. Are not 'whore' 'slut' 'bitch', etc. vulgar comments, frequently directed at other people's DDs in pornos?

I am saddened by the idea that Absinthe expressed, perhaps without thinking too much about the implications of what she was saying, that porn keeps her at the top of her game. The implication being that sex is some sort of performance.

"it is a good learning tool and keeps me at the top of my game so to speak. "

If this wasn't so pitiful it would be funny.

and your dh noted you looked like his "favorite porn star" when he first met you - that sound like someone seriously into porn to me, that he can memorise the "actresses"

You are so not living the dream

Absinthe says....My husband tells everyone that he is absolutely infatuated with me and treats me like a queen - we rarely fall out and I often have to pinch myself to check it is all true. I never always had it so good - my parents had a realistic relationship rather than a failytale marriage....

I dont buy all this crap like you dont buy not all men are into porn like your husband.....

Mrs Pixie shes living a f...nightmare by the sounds of it...he wanted her a virgin..he said she looked like a porn star and he inflicts pain on her....gives me the eeeeviegeeevies just reading all this.....Thank god all men arnt like that

its sick.....!!!!!

This thread is really odd.

It's deriding ALL porn, due to the existence of ONE type of porn. Why?

Why not?

Well, it's a little draconian to say the least!

StayFrosty I made the observation earlier on in this thread that all man watch porn at some point. I have been enlightened by some women on this thread that is not the case and that their husbands simply don't! Fair enough...

However I think it IS fair to say that all teenagers (boys and girs but especially the boys) do access the readily available porn on the internet. My kids are pretty open with me and some of the stories they tell me are quite shocking........not them obviously as they are angels! There is no doubt that interent porn is having an effect on some of the younger generations morals - and I like to think I'm not a prude....

The type of porn where the woman is obviously being abused, yes? The type of porn where the viewer is expected to literally enjoy the idea of a woman being abused, am I right?

There is plenty of other stuff out there, which you are totally ignoring.

Having it so freely available on the internet has normalised it, sadly, as this thread shows. If you don't draw a line and repudiate it all, where do you stop? 'Kiddie porn'? I foresee a time when there will be people shrugging their shoulders and accepting that too, just because it's there and some people have an interest in it.

"women shaving their genitalia" - since when has that had anything to do with porn? it is much more to do with hygiene and aesthetics.

Amber is right in pointing out that double anal is actually very non-mainstream and most porn out there is really straightforward copulation/solo involving no pain/animals etc. Math - As for bringing children into it, as a devoted parent, I think you must be disgusting for it to even cross your mind as being a category of porn rather than straightforward abuse.

You would actually have to watch it to have an informed opinion on it though - obviously, reading Dworkin would give you an extreme bias in the other direction, in which case you might as well denounce me as a troll since I agree that I sound like I come from a different planet to some posters and my normality appears to hold a lot of shock value for you.

Pebbles - I inflict more pain on dh than he ever would agree to do on me. Why is this discussion (once again) becoming about men doing bad things to women? Why is that a reasonable assumption given that so many women are built like truckies nowadays and would be capable of picking up small men and throwing them across rooms? Was not really like that in the earliest days of feminism. Does not apply in my case thankfully...

Math - of course it is about performance. What isn't nowadays? We would surely agree that there is a market out there for sex - it might not be a freemarket though it is a fairly evolved one nonetheless (should take my commercial hat off as I don't want to start throwing analogies around which are based on my specialist area of knowledge for fear of being identified in RL)

Well, it would be good if you could share some of your experiences to allow me to understand why you have such a big chip on your shoulder. I hope that you are not God Squad as I would not have bothered trying to reason with you in the first place.

I don't want to discuss Dworkin any more than you would want to discuss the Marquis de Sade. But I may know more than I declare being the child of a published feminist myself (whose ideas I often happen to disagree with wrt relationships and children). Put that in your pipe and smoke it ...on second thought's, that would probably be too phallic

"Are you really that unaware that pubic hair shaving comes straight out of porn?" - Nonsense, absolute nonsense. They used to shave pubes routinely in preparation for childbirth until fairly recently and I know that my Muslim friends do this for religious reasons.

I want to know if you have ever worn a bikini on a beach and if so, whether you have pranced around with a hairy shark and legs - bikinis have surely crossed over into the mainstream light years ago?

Thanks for that link Dittany. I am going to buy Jensen's book on pornography. It might help me work out how I am going to discuss pornography with DS in a year or so.