Porn

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Am I being unreasonable for getting upset that my husband keeps looking at porn?

SWC, I know what you mean.

Porn is for those who lack imagination.
I doubt my particular fantasies would feature very much in porn.

I totally get the whole domination thing. Quite often I ask DP to take control (spot the paradox). But it's only fun because I trust him 100% and we've been in a relationship for x years and I know he would hate to really hurt me (in fact he would cry - this has happened before). I would imagine it's pretty rare that that could exist between porn performers, so I wouldn't want to watch it.

Now this is a thread all those politicians who come on here should really read.

AF, StayFrosty, Georgi, dittany, I couldn't agree more!

That's it exactly Brahms.
I'm a control freak extraordinare in day to day life, the bedroom is the only place I can let go and let him be the dominant one.
It's 100% about trust and nothing to do with humiliation or hurt, there are certain things he would never do, even if I wanted him to, ( which I don't ) he would never be able to slap my face or spit on me or do anything else really nasty.

There's a huge difference between a little erotic pain and actual abuse, people who want to be abused have serious psychological issues imho.

The kind of scenes in porn where you have some poor cow "skewered" , with two men penetrating her and another gagging her with his penis are quite sickening and if my husband wanted to watch that , well he wouldn't be my husband!

Most gay porn (between two men) appears to involve pain for obvious reasons - not that I think it is very interesting. Btw, we hardly ever watch porn so def not addicted and when we watch it, we would rarely do so together - we talk about it a lot more though. I don't rate most of the literature which deliberately sets out to be erotic - I find the Songs of Solomon much more palatable than the 120(?) Days, for instance (though have read neither since the age of 15. Love The KS though - a great coffee table book

Are you all really so closed minded that you believe people are stupid/lacking intelligence if they enjoy porn? It's called being uptight. I have an english literature degree, I read, I go to the theatre, I make meals from scratch. I am not a mcdonalds eating sloth who cannot handle anything deeper than Shameless. It's good that you live in those smug little bubbles, but don't think you are better than anyone because you don't watch porn what a strange bunch of people.

Oh yes, absolutely, I am just uptight.

There's a price to be paid for porn, just as there is for battery chicken, fur etc.

You aren't the one paying it.

Malificence...ur hubby sounds just like mine....only we have been together 21 years not 28...our sex life is beautiful and my other half would rather watch top gear than watch porn and as I stated earlier to get turned on he doesnt need to watch it as hes turned on in the bedroom enough by me....its intimate and bettween us two...and some of what these women have said their relationships and men are life completely shock me....I wouldnt want to trade places in a million years and if my husband was like theirs he wouldnt be my husband fall stop ....We satisfy each other without the use of that crap cos thats what it is pure crap.

Dittany and Georgimama we are all singing off the same hymn sheet.....What you say is so true....Porn is for those who lack imagination...couldnt aggree more and yes these sad people who lack things in their sex life who feel the need to have this crap in their life are NOT the ones paying for it.

But he can watch Top Gear and a bit of porn - infact my dh would do that in the ratio of 10:1. It is not as if you watch porn and are eternally damned, uni-dimensional etc. It doesn't sound as though you are v comfortable with your own sexual image or fearful of a world you know little about - have you ever spoken to a lap dancer or a porn star or any kind of performer? You sound terrified

Yes, I truly believe that not contributing to an industry that treats people like animals and worse makes someone a better person, I do.

It's always a matter of time before any woman who states she doesn't enjoy porn, or watch it or that her husband doesn't either is labelled uptight, frigid, narrow-minded, in denial (because all men are just animals who instinctually desire watching fake-titted, shaved women get skewered) blah blah blah.

And all such labels do is pretty much prove the point that, well, people who watch porn are unimaginative.

absinthe I have personally known a pole/lap dancer and honestly dont believe the hype my dear... it's sordid shite .

"because all men are just animals who instinctually desire watching fake-titted, shaved women get skewered" - well, there are red blooded males and then the rest (hmmm).

Porn encompasses too many things to generalise like this. Deep Throat, gang bangs, bestiality represent a tiny area which a lot of male viewers of porn are not interested in.

My dh has been the creative force behind some of the most amazing commercials of the last 10 years - it would be v hard to argue that he is not imaginative

'well, there are red blooded males and then the rest (hmmm). '

Yes, like men who have respect for themselves and for women to contribute to an industry that perpetuates rape, human trafficking, pimping, drugs and untold misery for tens of thousands of women and children.

My nephew is at the same school as the son of two well-known porn stars in Surrey. Their son is head boy and one of the nicest, well-adjusted, gentle young men you would ever meet

pebbles - dittany i agree
i despair of the mumsnet mentality that says 'all men use porn'

not all

He only watches still images and is not interested in a lot of your list. I (on the other hand) have watched some of what you describe - I have never come across bestiality

Josef Mengele's son is an articulate, well-educated, well-written member of society.

Doesn't make what his father did any less horrible.

some women hope all men use porn ...if some men dont for whatever reason..then it shows their men for what they truly are imo..

Just to clarify, my dh does not work in advertising - he is completely creative and does not even have colleauges doing the same job to share email pictures with. I can't say who he is or list his work without outing him - given the contant of the thread, i don't think he'd like that at all!!