To be annoyed at my dh giving ds3.4 chocolate spread sandwich?

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My point of view: sandwiches are usually for lunch. Lunch should be nutritious. Chocolate and sweets are for treats a few times a week. I don't want to encourage son to eat sweet sandwich fillings as may put him off ham,cheese etc. He is quite a fussy eater as it is.

His pov - not asked as I am biting my tongue. Should I mention it or just leave it be?

Anger now subsiding having vented a little on here... thank goodness for mn rants that may cause volcanoes to erupt in rl!

marineiguana - good idea. I did smile when son came to see me with choco spread all over his mush and a big grin - 'look mummy, chocolate.'

MmeBlueberry = no did not buy it. He is precious first born, but this is not why I am feeding him healthy diet; I am a healthy eater and want my family to be too with right amount of reasonable treats.

activate - no I would not use honey or jam on sandwich tbh, not what I want to promote (sweet things in between bread). He gets enough sweet things for treats.

It was nutella, and I am going to console myself with what you have written about it and ignore a few little treats of nutella on bread dh to ds. Thanks for the point.

if it was in your cupbaord - it will get eaten

dont buy it if you dont want dc to have it

FWIW, my mum used to restrict the number of treats etc we'd have as children.
I don't know whether it's connected or because I'm just a pig, but when I got to an age where I had more control (i.e. pocket money I could take straight to the sweet shop and spend it all on fizzy cola-bottles etc) I have been hooked on sweets, chocolate, crisps, fizzy drinks. I am now 28 and I drink 2 litres of pepsi a day and can quite easily have between 4 and 8 chocolate bars a day with a packet of crisps with each one.
Is that because my mum can't tell me what to do anymore and I am rebelling angainst her? Or is it just because I am a greedy pig??

I was only annoyed in an amused type of way if you all see what I mean? More, bemused with a hint of annoyance.

I am glad you all think I am being un reasonable though, then I can let him have it without any guilt at all.

I DIDNT BUY IT.

Silverymoon - I am assuming that was a rhetorical question. But I have thought about it. DS does not know we are restricting treats, and tbh, I give into dh that much that he has way more sweets than I would ever dream of giving him, thats why I concentrate on giving him so much healthy food at othertimes, to make up for it iyswim.

It's his child too.

It's a bit scary that you post on AIBU about one chocolate spread sandwich. One day your ds will make his own sandwiches you know - and if anything remotely sweet or chocolatey has been taboo he'll probably swing too far the other way.

I have to admit, I am surprised and glad that so many find it unreasonable. I suppose it's because I put annoyed (such a strong word and I regret that now).

I have now added it to my reasonable treats list, whilst crossing my fingers behind my back that it wont put him off other sandwich fillings.

breast milk is sweet

sweetness is not the devil's work

red peppers, apples, grapes, strawberries, yellow peppers, sweet potato, berries etc all good

Yes EOT, I don't need an answer, I am a greedy pig lol.
It's just something I've often thought about.

I WAS BEING UNREASONABLE. OK. You have all converted me to the 'chocolate spread is not the devils feed' club. In fact, I may even let him dip bread sticks in it tomorrow.

Thanks to all that have taken the time to reply and help me be less of a wondermum and more living in the real world with this one (not sarcastic honest, I am grateful.)

Doesn't your husband get a say in what your child eats? That's very odd and controlling

bread sticks?

bread sticks?

no redeeming features in bread sticks at all. I'm surprised at you. the amount of salt in breadsticks and lack of any protein or vitamins why give him such junk food

LOL
sorry couldn't resist

What's wrong with sweet sandwiches? DD1's favorite is peanut butter with banana and a drizzle of honey. Very healthy IMO, not much honey, lots of protein and carbs.

My kids eat choc spread too, it's got nuts in it and no more sugar than jam. If it bothers you that much, throw the jar away--I do that with stuff I don't want my kids to eat.

My dad used to make us brown sugar sandwiches when my mom wasn't around. Bread, thick layer of butter on BOTH sides, 2cm layer of brown sugar, nicely packed. OMG delicious.

Really don't think nutella is all that bad.

I am not perfect, although I try bloody hard to be.

What I see as health, reasonable, acceptable changes from day to day depending on what I learn. I am not a dietitian with a degree or anything, I just try my best.

I guess I was just wanting evey one to tell my I was being un so I could just let it happen without bothering about it.. but it seems so many on here now think I am absolutely obsessed with healthy eating... aaaaaahhhhh. You cannot change your op only update along way and so many only read op so I am stuck.

May have to hide thread......

I AM CONVERTED TO CHOCOLATE SANDWICHES being OK as part of a balanced diet. (as balanced as I can get it with toddler)

Oh Riven! Dd1 has nutella sandwiches every day for packed lunch too! I could put a lovely healthy selection in there (as I regularly try to) and she would just leave it! We had our 'treats' restricted as a child and now that I have control over my own intake I eat like a swine if I'm not careful!
I also agree that your DH should have a role in choosing the food for your LO, it's a bit emasculating otherwise (imho)

active - ok - I'll let him dip celery and carrots in it then. Happy now? (hands on hip tapping foot.)

Am going to make my 2 nutella sandwiches right now as a pre-dinner snack (going out for a late dinner with DH).

fwiw - I only had 20p penny sweets on a Friday and I am (usually but just had a baby) a very health bmi.

DH completely leaves food in the house to me, except treats, he buys them all. I let him buy haribos, chocolate, ice lollies, crips - I just wanted bread to remain a meal and not a treat. And I didnt want chocolate to be part of a meal. BUT - I am converted, it's fine now and again for ds to have chocolate for meal in bread.

lol riven. Glad to see you thinking about that balance.

That balance goes through my head over and over day after day... It is hard to relax and I am unreasonable about it sometimes. But, then I take a fresh look, like today, and get perspective.

Despite my shocking diet, I wouldn't class myself as an unhealthy weight.
I am 5 foot 10 and wear a size 16.