To be fuming at the school for sending ds's shoes, with someone's human shit on them, home in a bag?

[Spidermama]

Someone shat on the toilet floor. It's the second time in a week this has happened. Anyway, today ds stood in the poo and they told him to put on his gym shoes, put his shitty shoe in a bag, and sent it home to me.

What TF would you do? It was diahorrea apparently. Now I have a grim bin liner in my home with a turdy shoe in it.

No - a 10 year old ought to know to avoid walking in shit and ought to clean his/her own shoes if s/he does...

Not pleasant, not fun but it is only poo. You all produce it. you've all changed nappies. Stick a peg on your nose, put some rubber gloves on and get on with it.

It's not surprising it happens when parents send in children who are ill - I work at a junior school and we get at least one a week who is sent to the medical room & says 'I was sick/had diarrhoea last night, but mum/dad said go to school & see how you feel...'

Worst one though was a child who fell down the stairs at home & the parent still dropped her off at school with a massive lump on her head saying 'Go to the office and ask Mrs K to put an ice pack on it'

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OMG a child shitting all over the floor that is disgusting, the second time? Good Lord

I would have to throw the shoes away though, no way would I be cleaning another child's shitola off anything.

mumof2 I'd be sending the shoe's right back to them. I bloody well wouldn't be cleaning someone else's faeces off shoe's. I have enough trouble cleaning my own Ds's bum when he's done a poo.

Hang on, so you couldn't bring youself to clean up poo on your own child's shoe, and yet you would send in pooey shoes to a school so that staff could deal with it?
Ha! You would be laughed straight out of our school and told, perhaps in politer terms, to do one.

Jesus Christ, is there anything else parents want us to do? Teach them how to eat, social skills, manners, sort out friendship problems in and out of school, teach them how to dress themselves, how to eat healthily, how not to get pregnant, how to look after a baby when they do get pregnant, teach them their addresses and how to spell them (I shit you not, and I'm not talking about primary kids),lend them lunch money and bus fare out of my own pocket, how to do up their shoe-laces, make them do what they're told at home (again, I shit you not). With some of them, I'm expected to check for nits, brush their hair and do it every morning and now we're expected to clean the shit from their shoes. I think not.

I love my job, and I (mostly) love the kids. I've even been known to take uniform home with me and launder it because parents are so incompetent, but you would be waiting until hell froze over if you wanted me to have anything to do with excrement. Bloody hell. I've heard everything now.

Of course it's not the teacher's job [amazed emotion]
Your child trod in the poo
Your job or his to clean the shoe
And how wasteful to throw away a pair of shoes which can easily have the poo washed off.
Am gob-smacked

I think the school were reasonable and you aren't.
Why should someone else clear up the shit your kid trod in? I presume someone then had to clear up the shit. That's enough unpleasantness.

EGhh get some old rubber gloves, garden hose some bleach and clean them outside

Must admit I would have cleaned the shoe. Why is human poo worse than dog poo? If I chucked away shoes every time the kids when small trod in dog poo my shoe budget would be huge.
Rubber gloves, kitchen roll for major mess then diposable cloth and warm water for the rest. Leave to dry, polish.

What if he had trodden on poo in his new shoes cant really throw away good shoes. These things happen sometimes, why not have a word with the class teacher

YANBU - that would make me cross too!

Soooo, a member of staff was meant to clean your 10 yr old son's shoe when you're not prepared to? If he was old enough to stand in it and then find a member of staff to tell them about it, surely he was old enough to take his shoe off, rinse it under the tap whilst still wet and would 'run off' easily and then put it back on? (Or avoid the poo altogether...)

If a parent at school expected me to do this, I would need to remind them very firmly just what my role at school is...i.e.: to educate their child in my specialist subject, not to clean their shoes.

As a teacher I'd do the same. The amount of times I've had to clean other people's dirty children (often so they don't get teased about the smell coming off them) wouldn't feel bad at all.

I'd do the same too - there are lots of reasons why I teach KS2 in a mainstream school and one of them is because I don't want to have to clean up poo/wee. When I taught in a school for pre-school children with autism I regularly cleaned poo off them/the walls/me/books etc. but that was part of my job.

As a parent I'd be annoyed with my 10-year-old for not watching where he was walking, especially if he knew there'd been a 'poo on the floor' incident recently!

YABU - it's not the school's job

OP, how would you cope if you lived in the country on or near a farm? I lived on a farm and had cow's poo on my shoes every day. It's the same thing, and we always washed it off ourselves using a garden hose. We weren't flush with money so there was no question of binning the shoes. Get over it, wash them outdoors with disposable gloves if need be.

This could be the poo of a child who is ill. It could be the poo of a child who thinks its a laugh to have a shit on the floor. Or this could also be the poo of a child who is very disturbed. So I'd tread carefully. (no pun intended).

If it was dog poo, would you take it on the chin?
Should you, perhaps, suck it up, if you are not flush with money?

I don't think any of us can judge until we have walked in the OP's poo shoes.

(Sorry).

Chasingsquirrels I love your ds's description of his diahorrea as "it was like my bottom being sick a river of poo".

Pram, am loving 'I'd tread carefully'

anyway, YABVU. It is not a teacher's job to clean your son's shoes. Why on earth should it be? They have done a very appropriate thing in sending it back wrapped up, if your son was not able to rinse it himself (not sure why, he's ten is he?)

FlorenceDaphne No there is nothing I want you to do thanks because my Ds won't be going to school. Not unless he turns around one day and say's he wants to.

But yes. If the poo isn't cleared off the floor for the second time I would send the shoe's back in.

Doing it once, ok. I'd get the rubber gloves on and clean it myself but obviously the school staff are not paying enough attention if this is the 2nd time it has happened!

Would it be different if it was a 4yr old who had stood in another child's shít?

FlorenceDaphne, great post by the way. There are parents out there, believe it or not, who do appreciate what teachers do!