onagar I agree with you.
I have a friend who works from home on a self employed basis, no dependents, no DP/DH, and doesn't live within walking distance of a town centre (although there is public transport).
She earns £15 per week to live on, and is not entitled to any benefits, because she doesn't put enough hrs in.
I have suggested finding work with an employer which will pay her more in a day than she is earning in a week.
I have suggested going onto JSA while she looks for other work.
She moans and moans about her situation, but when I suggest these choices she could make, she says public transport isn't reliable enough, she doesn't want to go to work because workplaces are full of bullies , and she can't go onto JSA without being fired from her work from home job, and even then, she will have to take the company she is working for to a tribunal .
I have even suggested working a few more hours, but she says this is impossible because her FB might want to see her and he wont take no for an answer, even though she is apparently trying to finish with him.
When FB turns up, she has to answer the door, because if she doesn't and neighbours call police because of the disturbance, the police will tell friend that he has every right to be there, in her home, even though he lives somewhere else with his DW and DC.
I have tried so hard to help her because she moans incessantly about her lot in life, but her favourite phrase is I don't have any choice!
In her case, it annoys me alot. She clearly has choices, but refuses to make those choices, and prefers to moan.
I avoid her like the plague now.