To be totally unreasonablly angry/frustrated at people who say "But I have no choice" or "I have no other option"

[SnapDragons]

There is always another choice

You may not like any of the other options/choices but that doesn't mean they do not exist

Your 'non-choices' may be so far outside your experience you cannot deal with them - but that doesn't make them any less a valid choice

Oh Lord, you've been watching American Management Motivational DVDs again haven't you?
Full of Bluesky thinking and 'It's not an apocalypse, it's an opportunity'
There Is No I In Team...
There's Always Another Choice...I'm choosing gin.

its all about viability ..you can have many choices..but not all are sensible or suitable..totally depends on the situation imo..if its the choice between chocolate cake and battenburg...or life and death..different choices different situations

'It's not an apocalypse, it's an opportunity'

I think we will have to agree to disagree, 2shoes. There are many people who have given up their children with disabilities - adoption or foster care. So there must be choice, or nobody would be able to do that.

Now I would never consider that option, nor would you, but that option exists in law. Therefore there is a choice. It's not a choice you'd make, but it exists.

Anyway, this is changing the discussion and not the area the op meant, I think.

herbietea, I think she might mean you could stick your head in the microwave or something...do they work with the door open, or would all the microwaves just fall out?

its just not that simple...

snapdragon, are you soupy in another guise???

as for the Q, YABU, as sometimes there really is no choice.

maybe in a pedantic world that is not true, but we don;t live there, (well, I don;t at least), and so IMVHO, you are being pretty obtuse.

there, I feel better now

I think people are getting confused between circumstances/situations which you cannot change, and choices about how you deal with them. Obviously you can't make a disabled child different, or conjure up your own good health out of thin air. But you can make choices about how you deal with situations. And I agree that recognising that can often help you feel more in control of a situation rather than become defeated by it.

no, no sticking heads in microwaves. I just happen to think that there is choice where people don't see choice. And more importantly, the power there is in taking control and saying that you make the decisions.

What a load of utter b*llocks the OP is.

I'm not soupy - but can I take that as a compliment, I think I'd like to be her

And no, Snapdragons bloody well isn't Soupy in another guise.

Glad to hear it SnapDragons. I thought you were a certain person back in yet another guise for a minute.

is this about judging the choices people make?...I need more clairfication...there will always be choice...but each person is an individual and their needs may not me met by some choices...

i agree with elliott, sometimes the situation we find ourselves in isn't our choice but how we deal with it is. this is clearly the case with injury, disability, breavement etc.

but most often when people say 'i have no choice' they are referring to something that absolutely IS a choice.
i've heard people say they have no choice but to live in the SE of England then complain that it's too crowded and houses are to expensive, and people say they have no choice but to use the car because they chose to buy a house not on a public transport route and choose to not move, or that they have no choice but to go to work in a crappy job when actually their wages are paying for luxuries and it clearly is a choice or they could get funding to re-train in something they enjoy.

Oh hell

Is my new name too close to hers

Damn - should I change it? I really liked it vv

heQet oh yes we could all just abandon our baies ain hospital and write books aka JH, must most people don't khave a choice, you choose to have a baby, but after that the choice is gone, so not imo thier is no choice(I HATE that word)

@ Soupy's indignation

But you did make the choice! You made the choice to have a baby. that was the choice.

And the choice to be in prison - don't commit the crime. If you commit a crime, that was your choice.

But really, this isn't the sort of stuff the op is on about!

Ther is stuff you ^don't have a choice about, clearly. being a victim of crime, you don't normally have a choice about that, being born, dying... of course there are events that happen that you don't choose, but the op isn't talking about that, clearly!

She's talking about people who say oh, I can't do X, I have to do Y, I don't have a choice.

I don't think people mean they have no choice, they mean that they have no better option. There is a choice, but all the other options are worse.