To be totally unreasonablly angry/frustrated at people who say "But I have no choice" or "I have no other option"

[SnapDragons]

There is always another choice

You may not like any of the other options/choices but that doesn't mean they do not exist

Your 'non-choices' may be so far outside your experience you cannot deal with them - but that doesn't make them any less a valid choice

Better than Hats for Haiti as a fundraiser!
Where do we go to donate? Although as Yorkshire girl, I'd pay more for a white rose.

YABU and your name is far to close to Soupy's. I was quite perturbed to think she was spouting such tripe!

I wish you'd been around last year, OP, when my friend thought she had no choice but to die of cancer. Of course if she'd known there is always a choice, things would have been totally different...wouldn't they?

I'm a slow poster Riven
I thought you'd found a novel mumsnet way to increase the life choices of the victims of the quake in Haiti by challenging HeQet.
A situation where the alternative is death.
Nekkid wench with rose.
Collection buckets and appreciative audience.
I'm confused, I'm only on my first cup of coffee.

I think this post is worth repeating:

By elliott Fri 05-Feb-10 22:40:11
I think people are getting confused between circumstances/situations which you cannot change, and choices about how you deal with them. Obviously you can't make a disabled child different, or conjure up your own good health out of thin air. But you can make choices about how you deal with situations. And I agree that recognising that can often help you feel more in control of a situation rather than become defeated by it.

But I was agreeing with the spirit of the OP and the situations she means. I got what she meant and I agreed with it.

I still agree with it. With what she means [stubborn] but you have taken it 'outside' the area the OP was referring to and so, technically..

Please remove the thorns.

yep, white rose IIRC.

I will hold her back riven. have no fear on missing the show

oh no heQet, thorns are gonna make the dance more 'dancy'........

and I got the kind of gist, with the superficial things, but she never thought about the deep side of choices, which confused me.

does not take much at the mo to confuse me tho.....

Rushes up with a lovely Winchester Cathedral bloom, lovely fragrance too.

Are you charging by the minute or the quarter hour?

psycho, most people don't live with really tough choices on a daily basis, or face them for the rest of their lives.
So they don't see the entire spectrum, just their little bit. Perfectly natural but limited.

goblin, they are very very lucky then.

I have to sit on my hands sometimes not to get involved in a barney when people post on mn that they simply cant do something or other a bit difficult, it would be totally impossible for them.

the ONLY time in my life I felt I had absolutely no choice was when I was 8 months pregnant and suddenly I decided that I didn't want to give birth, vaginaly or surgically, because I was too scared. I was in tears knowing I couldn't get out of it!

For everything else I agree with OP

Did I miss the dance?

OP... YANBU (other than things like terminal illness and death but I don't believe that's what you were driving at).

she is hiding......I think she is hoping we will forget.....

as if!!!

I am now banned for life from every co-op in the uk.