To think this is a poor show so early in a relationship?

[palomasmum]

I have a new boyfriend who keeps talking about other women he's slept with who had a 'perfect' face or boobs. And it is always after we've just had sex.

To clarify, I do not feel bad about my looks. I know I am very attractive - not trying to sound big headed but to say that I don't feel bad about my own looks so I don't think I'm projecting, here. I don't mind at all if boyfriends I have watch porn or openly talk about a woman's good looks.

But I think for this person to start talking about some other woman's breasts just after he's had sex with me is a plan designed to make me feel bad which only he knows the reason for. He has done this a number of times now and always after we have had sex. I am hurt, not because I think other women are a threat to me but because he must WANT to hurt me for some reason. The man in question is very socially aware so I do not think it's a case of insensitivity.

So am I being over sensitive?

No. You're not. run for the hills.

Dump him! He's an idiot.

Run and change your number!

So I assume his reason for doing this has to do with his insecurity?

Sounds like a dick.

Fwiw I think it is do with some insecurity he has but he's still a dick to say it.

What an arse. Dump him.

Damn rude if nothing else.

I would finish with him.

Oh don't get me wrong - he spends the rest of his time saying how beautiful he thinks I am. Which is what makes me think it's a mind game.

It's a poor show at any time in a relationship. What a Pig. I have to say I probably would have got up and left the first time he did it, probably not with a scene but certainly in "Oh is that the time, must be going" kind of way.

Dump him immediately.

He's done this multiple times? What did you say the first time he said this? Why would you want to sleep with him again when he is so clearly a dickhead?

bin him

before he gets you thinking you don't know your arse from your elbow

well sounds like he's a tit anyway but....i'd guess that he's doing this because he's threatened by you - thinks he might be punching above his weight. as in 'well yeh...i have slept with other really fit girls you know...not just you..'

next timeyou have sex with him tell him your last boyfriend had a much thicker and longer cock then he has. That should make him shut fuck up.

Dump.

Follow famishedass's advice. She sounds like a v. wise woman

He's an abusive git. Dump.

Come on. You must know this is shite and why the fuck did you sleep with him again after he said it? Get some self respect.

that's really crap yeah. he sees the women he's slept with as specimens to be graded.

dump him.

He will be telling his next woman that you had the perfect face etc. Just as an abuser tells you that all his exes were mad/bitches etc,it is down to his own insecurity/lack of self esteem. Run!

why haven't you asked him why he's talking about this?

It's a poor show early in a relationship or after 20 years together! It's an awful thing to do. Why on earth you let that man near you after the first time he said it is beyond me. You've given him the message that it's ok to say those things to you. If you're wanting advice, mine would be walk away now.

Take famishedass's advice, and make that the last time you sleep with him. Or even better, dump him and say that the reason is that his cock doesn't pass muster compared to previous partners.

This is bad, bad, bad form from anyone at any point in a relationship and I am quite honestly shocked that you continued to sleep with him.

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