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Original poster

To think being a Single Mum can be a good thing?

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WashwithCare · 27/01/2010 20:48

More state benefits.

25% off your council tax.

No man-pong socks to wash.

Childfree weekends to have fantastic hotel-sex with your luvver.

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WashwithCare · 27/01/2010 21:53

I dont' know -have only ever had 1

However, I do think another advantage of being a single mum of one is that my bond with DD is just unbelievably close

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usualsuspect · 27/01/2010 21:56

You must be running out of controversial subjects WWC

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WashwithCare · 27/01/2010 21:57

I think it is hard if you have to fight with the other parent...

I have had the occassional tiff with DD's dad - but basically we agree on most stuff.

If your ex is a good co-parent, that gives you support and provides you with some me-time, I think that makes a lot of difference.

Had a g/f whose ex had a (properly diangosed) mental health disorder with delusions of grandeur and voices... and she spent all her time trying to ensure supervised contact, and bricking herself when ever he got to see the kids... So not a good way to be a single mum

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BelleDameSansMerci · 27/01/2010 21:57

smokinaces - you are completely right there. I don't imagine I would singing the happy song if I had more than one DD or, in fact, were younger.

If I were single and in my mid 20s, for example, with one or more children I don't think it would be as straightforward as I've made it sound.

Thank you and NorthernLurker for making me think more carefully about my flippant posts too.

Perhaps it's not easier/harder - it's just different stresses in different ways whatever your circumstances?

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WashwithCare · 27/01/2010 22:00

By usualsuspect Wed 27-Jan-10 21:56:25
You must be running out of controversial subjects WWC

Not at all - and there is always Boden as a fall back

Excuse me, but can I just check... isn't the purpose of AIBU to discuss controversial subjects.

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smokinaces · 27/01/2010 22:01

Belle, maybe thats why I feel a little differently then - I'm in my 20s, single with 2 boys under 4.

Dont get me wrong, I love living on my own and enjoy all the perks to that. I can just get very down about the parenting of the two of them that can exhaust me at times.

NewLeaseofLife · 27/01/2010 22:02

Thank you NL

usualsuspect · 27/01/2010 22:02

Oh I don't mind ..just heard it all before

tethersend · 27/01/2010 22:07

WWC- do you post every contentious thought you have? Yes, it's AIBU, but it doesn't really make for good threads... overkill IMO.

Have a rest for a while.

RumourOfAHurricane · 27/01/2010 22:18

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BelleDameSansMerci · 27/01/2010 22:20

smokinaces - it's pretty tiring with one (I'll be sorry in the morning that I'm not already in bed) so I can't begin to imagine what it's like with two.

I bet your body's in better shape than mine though

smokinaces · 27/01/2010 22:23

I wouldnt bet on it for a long time I took solace in wine and crisps and ice cream every night when the kids were in bed. Only just now got back to wine once a week as opposed to 1 bottle a night!

Kewcumber · 27/01/2010 22:33

I get sex in a hotel?!

Where do I get that from? I am obviously doing this single parent lark wrong.

JuJusDad · 27/01/2010 22:34

WWC - what do you want for your life?

JuJusDad · 27/01/2010 22:40

Kewcumber - me too. I'm missing these child free weekends, benefits and the sex.

I probably shouldn't be working full time to pay my mortgage. Silly me, that'll be where I'm going wrong.

I've got the man pong socks, though. Could I exchange them for sex? I'll even wash them myself?

BelleDameSansMerci · 27/01/2010 22:41

LOL!

Would that be sox?

RumourOfAHurricane · 27/01/2010 22:43

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NewLeaseofLife · 27/01/2010 22:46

I Work full time and get some help from benefits!

BigWeeHag · 27/01/2010 22:47

I prefer being on my own, but then, I'm not a very nice person.

VinegarTits · 27/01/2010 22:47

Where's my sex and my state benefits?? i dont get either of those!

oh and i dont get 25% off either cos one of my dc is now an adult but still living at home

and my kids have smelly socks

nice of you to stereotype us single mums though, cheers nobhead

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WashwithCare · 27/01/2010 22:48

By JuJusDad Wed 27-Jan-10 22:34:05
WWC - what do you want for your life?

hmm.. happy house;
healthy DD2, of course;
attentive DH or good foot massage;

Ankles are a bit sore today... why do you ask?

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WashwithCare · 27/01/2010 22:50

Sounds like it could be time to ditch the kids Vinegartits?

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VinegarTits · 27/01/2010 22:51

really? where do you suggest i ditch my 3 year?

Kewcumber · 27/01/2010 22:52

JuJusdad - you're on, sex in a hotel room and we can compare mortgages. (Don;t bring your socks)

VinegarTits · 27/01/2010 22:53

i want sex in a hotel

i'm free this weekend