re sex education for young children. Or rather, for MY young child

[everyonesanamechanger]

Name changed. Am going to check if it's worked before posting more!

Yes, I guess I am in denial. My oldest ds is 8 very soon and he has asked some questions but seems happy with the 'man has the seed called sperm and the women carries the egg and the two combined make a baby' He's yet to ask how.

I did think I should get him a book and explain, it will have to be me too as DH and him were discussing penis's and ds asked what the bulging bit at the ntop was(the ridge if you like) I didn't know and so asked DH tyo tell him the 'proper' name to which he said to ds 'your bellend'.....

posie

Haven't read the whole thread, but that sounds like the video DD has watched. It wasn't remotely porn, more embarrassingly twee.

Most of it must have gone completely over her head,judging from recent conversations, as it might well do for your DS.

However, you know your son best - do what you think is right.

The video looked OK to me, I am pretty sure my almost 6yo could process that OK (but I am pregnant and he has been extremely curious about that and I don't think there is any harm in him knowing the mechanics - he has asked if he can watch me give birth and I am not sure what to do about that).

The voiceover said "grown ups" over and over again, which really is a good idea and the insistence on them both feeling happy and comfortable was good as well.

But OP you know your kid best, if you don't think he is going to process this well then don't let him see it.

I have to admit I had a giggle at the thought of this being the only sex ed a kid might get and therefore getting the idea that a large feather was necessary...

Posie

Will they really be exposed to porn at 8yrs old?..my DD will be 8 in a few weeks...none of her friends have discussed or even remotely interested in porn at the moment (as far as i know)..the most they talk about is frickin hannah montana and the jonas brothers(that must be the porn part..lol)..you dont need a movie or cartoons to appropriate sexual behaviour ..there are other ways..and if they are not ready or remotely interested why the heck are you forcing the issue?..I'm very open with my DDs..if they want to know something they will ask and I will answer but i feel no need to feed them information because the state or anyone else thinks i should..

Mumcentreplus, good post, thats how we are in this house too. We have dealt with questions as and when they arise and been truthful as we can depending on age.

I think in some households though, if parents are not relaxed about the human body and its functions, the chance to ask questions might not arise.

We have always been open and relaxed about the human body and its functions. All of mine would get into the bath with either dp or me when they were younger. They have seen us naked, we dont parade around naked! but they have come into the room while we are getting dressed etc.