to not appreciate people shortening or mispronouncing my name?

[Vallhala]

Spurred by babyicebean's comment on another thread, I'm curious as to other's opinions. I have a fairly unusual first name, which I very much like. I don't like it being shortened when I haven't indicated that I prefer another version.

What pees me off even more is it being mispronounced even when I have just told someone what it is. As in:

"My name is (for example) Susan."

"Ah, okay Sasan..."

I then go on to drop my name into conversation again, and (eg when speaking to bank/council etc) spell it if requested.

Its hard to explain without divulging my real name, but I hope you get the gist.

Would it bug you too? I feel like saying, "No, not Sasan, Susan! It's got a bloody U in it, not an A!", though I haven't had the nerve to... yet!

I have an unusual first name - and unusual surname - and have no problem with either of them being shortened (though do rather dislike truncated names that end with an "y" noise as it makes me sound like a poodle - but that's just a personal anti-"y"-name thing) as has been going on my whole life. Why rail against the tide when there is nothing you can do to hold it back?
I just make sure people know what my preferred truncations are if they ask...

AARRGGHH!! YADNBU! FFS! I have a fairly 'normal' name but with an extremely unusual spelling for it. My name is 4 letters long, there is just no need for it to be shortened. Yet in a 4 letter, 2 syllable name, people still 'drop' the second syllable, which means my name sounds like a male name,NOT my name IYSWIM. It's just laziness, and extremely bloody annoying! Anyone who shortens my name gets told that that is NOT my name, and if they continue to do it despite having been told, I end up staying away from them. Just no-no-no-no-no!!

PLUS I also have people 'lengthening' my name, which is even worse. YES my name could possibly be the longer version, but that is not what is on my birth certificate, that is not my name and AARRGGHH!! This is annoying me now, just thinking about it...plus all the mispronounciations I got as a child due to the aforementioned unusual spelling......

YANBU at all! I have this problem all the time. I'll use your example:

"hello, my name is susan"

"Hi, Susie, nice to meet you". arrggggghhhh!

"Actually, I prefer to be called Susan or Sue, never Susie, but nice of you to change it without asking, you ignorant so and so"

It is so difficult for people to just listen?

A friend pronounces his son's name - Xavier - as Ex-Avier.

His wife picked it and pronounces it Zay-vee-ur which I believe is correct though I think Hah-vee-ur is also correct.

Don't ask me why they chose it. They have no connection with Spain or any Spanish-speaking country. Neither do I, before anyone piles in.

I avoid referring to the child by name but this is getting awkward.

In an emergency my need to avoid embarrassment might actually stop me alerting Xavier to an uncoming bus.

I think it's best for all concerned if I cut them from my social circle.

I have a run of the mill name and STILL people shorten it or call me something COMPLETELY different

It drives me MAD

In fact, I got to the point in 6th form that I blatantly didn't answer people if they called me the shortened version ...! (friends, not teachers - but I did request the full name)

YANBU!

My dd is Joanna and I would say that 75% of people we met when she was little called her Joanne which we both hated.She used to say loudly A its JoannA.Now of course she is Jo.

Perhaps all those people were deaf, pranma? How very weird. It's not difficult to hear the difference unless your hearing is limited; I'm sure it's just down to laziness.

My DD's name has 3 letter in it, 2 are the same letter (it's a palindrome). I get a few people mispronounce it (tbf, they are not English, and their birth tongue suggests the variant in pronunciation so they are forgiven), but MANY more spell it INCORRECTLY.
Oh sod it. Her name is A D A aside from telling me it is a granny name, people pronounce it as "Adder" (my Spanish Dr does, not her fault... it is correct for her... but some have no such excuse). People have been known to spell it as Aida (that is NOT a d a)... and AIDER NOOOOOOOOOOOOO I thought it would be so very simple too.

I have a name that is easily and commonly shortened. But nobody does. Except my father. DH corrected him. That did not go down well AT ALL.

You don't have an indian name do you?

People always pronounce ds name wrong. Yes, it is spelt with an a, but it is Indian so it's an 'uh' sound not 'a', jsut like how I/he said it!!!

He's 4 and it's starting to wind him up now too.

I quite like shortened names. Like a pet name in the family. Though I can see how how randomers shortening your name is presumptous - not their pet.

I think that people feel a bit self conscious, even pretentious putting accents on names. Even if you have just pronounced your Indian/Spanish/Irish name with the correct emphasis. It turns people into awkward teenagers in French class, not wanting to draw attention to themselves.

Mercy Buckets.

what i dont find amusing is being called a totally different name!...dont mind abbeviations but my name is not CAROL..(no offence to Carols of the world)..my name is quite simple..and not CAROL..sometimes i just cant be bothered and just answer anyway

Had a phone call this morning asking to speak to miss Ob-reeen. It's O'Brien FFS, a fairly very common surname!

I have a foreign name no-one has ever heard of, and most people have trouble pronouncing.

It doesn´t bother me at all.

After all, my name is NOT Susan or Jane, so how should English people know?

You can´t get wound up about things like that.

chill

No-one shortens my real name, I always introduce myself by my name and apart from at school when people sometimes gave you nicknames regardless everyone has called me by my name.
If anyone did shorten it I'd probably correct them.
With pretend forum names I don't see why people go for long names if they don't want them shortened. Some people go for a real mouthfull. Why?
As long as people shorten my online name to something that I recognise as still me and it's not rude I don't see the problem.
I expect people to have better things to do than spend ages typing out an unnecessarilly long name.
If you don't want your user name shortened then choose a short name.

I have an Irish first name - fairly obvious which one from my user name. I am very proud of it and my DDad was adament that I was to be called it before I was even born (they didn't know my gender before I was born which could've been awkward).

This issue has been a major PITA all my life! I have got so used to it now though I just privately groan.

My maiden name was a four letter name that people still mispronounced and I remember one incident as a stroppy teen when a nurse called my name in the surgery and got BOTH my names wrong - I refused to answer for ages and eventually said "If you mean 'shivster1980' I am here!" She was not impressed.

I get an A added to the end of my name and i hate it

most people don't bother giving me a shortened firstname.
i like my full first name, but i used to be called the shortened when i was younger. now i think it sounds weird and don't suggest it (although it's fine for older firends to use it)
my surname is a bind: no matter if i spell it out for people, they always add 2 Ns or make the O a U. it's very annoying.

my littel sister prefers to be called by a shortened version of her name, but it makes it such a middle-aged woman name! i refuse to call her that, but call her by her proper name, which she accepts, but i'm not allowed to call her that in front of any of her friends! and if i introduce one of my friends to her i have to give them her shortened name.

(oh, and mine has to be pronounce how i want it pronounced: i get really cross if people say the first A elongated: it just osunds bloody odd!)

DD's called Lucy and people always call her 'Luce', pisses me off, she's not a form of diarrhoea, it's Lucy for crying out loud. My name is one syllable and people always add 'ie' on the end (which I like better) but why do they add on mine but take it away from DD's? People are odd...and annoying

At my work we had an evil recruitment manager who deliberately put the contact name 'Siobhan' in the recruitment ads - just so everyone could have a giggle about poor sods (esp foreigners) asking for "Uuum... See-oh-ban? Slobbian?"

Noah: wrt calling children A & B : My sisters and I have names that if initialed are A, B & C! (except it's C A & B in age order...) my mum thinks it's funny, anyway.

i can understand people pronouncing names wrongly if they've only seen it written down, but if someone tells you how to pronounce their name it is sooooo rude then to say it differently.