to not appreciate people shortening or mispronouncing my name?

[Vallhala]

Spurred by babyicebean's comment on another thread, I'm curious as to other's opinions. I have a fairly unusual first name, which I very much like. I don't like it being shortened when I haven't indicated that I prefer another version.

What pees me off even more is it being mispronounced even when I have just told someone what it is. As in:

"My name is (for example) Susan."

"Ah, okay Sasan..."

I then go on to drop my name into conversation again, and (eg when speaking to bank/council etc) spell it if requested.

Its hard to explain without divulging my real name, but I hope you get the gist.

Would it bug you too? I feel like saying, "No, not Sasan, Susan! It's got a bloody U in it, not an A!", though I haven't had the nerve to... yet!

I think everyone should do as Speedy does.

It has always grated on me when relative strangers take it upon themselves to shorten my name when I haven't referred to myself as the shortened version.

Not sure why folk think it's ok to call you something other than what you have introduced yourself as.

Do they believe it suddenly makes you more familiar with each other?

Y are definitely NBU.

I seem to have started something.I honestly didn't mean to I was just getting narky with a request being ignored.If it had been rectified when I forst asked and not as it seemed deliberatly ignored and another shortening used I would have shrugged it off and just said call me Bean.

Which I do not mind.

I hate having my first name shortened, and will correct it and my surname mispronounced even when I have just told them what it is!

Thanks Valhalla & ErikaMaye. Want another dog but just had knee op so must wait. But will be worth the wait.

Wags.

A friend of mine has an evil habit of deliberately getting someone's name completely wrong if they've really pissed him off.

Conversation goes something like this:

'I'm Stuart and no you can't have your money back although the item is useless'

'OK, Steve, I'll go to trading standards'

'No, my name's Stuart, and well, my boss says tough'

'Fair enough Steve, I'll tell them he said that...'

It's a treat to watch!

Maybe thats the way to go.......

Babyicebean, please don't stress, no offence meant, I'm not doing this to cause upset. Its just a lighthearted thing which came to mind as a result of that thread but which has bugged me for years and I wondered if it was just me.

At the age of 5 I told my headmaster that my name was X and not a shortened form. He mentioned it to my mum, who was mortified!

Wags we lost our German Shep. summer '08, and it took us till the beginning of December that year to feel okay with another dog. I still miss Roxy. Its so hard, they become like family... Are you going to have a similar breed?

Yes, still want another Dalmatian, must be mad. I help out with welfare so maybe one will come along, but I also have pangs for a puppy again - so who knows

MN shortenings whilst typing don't worry me either, just RL shortenings (or lenthenings) of my RL name.

Wags, one day, when you are ready, the perfect canine pal will find you. As you know there are so many who need homes and you will I'm sure find comfort in each other when you decide the time is right. He may not be what you had in mind (I lost my collie x old girl to terminal illness, set out to find a similar size/breed girl of around 4 or 5 and ended up with a huge great long haired white GSD... not what I had in mind but right for me).

Ok you all sound like dog lover so heres a wee question for you..I really really want a dog when we move in may, but it needs to be small and have a good temprement around children..any suggestions?

YANBU.

The only person though who shortens my name is my father and I hate it when he does.

I think that shortening one's MN name is rather different though. I can't see why that would bother anyone.

Ok you all sound like dog lovers so here's a wee question for you..I really really want a dog when we move in may, but it needs to be small and have a good temprement around children..any suggestions? I was thinking king charles.. what do you think?

sorry for hijack vallhala

I always get Danielle no matter how many times I correct people I always get it.

Actually ErikaMaye (howdy!) that's the easy version of my name you've got there, me darlin'!

I also dislike my name being shortened, but sadly when I was a teen, I hated my name and so shortened it, so I have half my friends that call me solo and the other half call me so. Iyswim; because the ones from the 70's only know me as 'so' and the recent ones from the 90's know me as 'solo'.

in RL i hate my name being shortened but here you cant really shorten it

nite all

Hey solo! Howya doing? I'm off to bed soon (almost finished tax return). Saw your note about facebook - will def get in touch one day, but I have to warn you I'm one of those people that only goes on fb about 4 times a century, so you'll have a bit of a wait!

Nighty-tight.

And I should say that if someone dares to call me a certain shortened version, I tell them in no uncertain terms 'please do not call me xxxx, I can't stand it, it's common!'

Heya Speedy! hope to catch up soon. Ifyou do go into FB, send me a contact email and I can keep in touch with you that way if you like. hope you are ok.

Have a good friend called Richard, have known him for many years. Always calls himself that, always introduces himself thus.

ONE person (to my knowledge), on introduction, cheerfully starts calling my friend 'Dick'.

(Well, who's the Dick here, I ask myself?)

Similar with a couple of friends who are called Amanda. They don't want to be called Mandy. Since you ask (oh no! you didn't ask. But you called them that anyway).

I too have a name that can be shortened. And some of my friends do use that form. But if you call me that shortened form on first acquaintance, you'll be greeted with a glacial stare.

Call people what they want to be called; that's the point, isn't it?

yaNBU!. My name is ALISON. Not 'Ally', not 'Alice', not anythin but ALISON (and UK spelling thanks)

fecking kids people - i sm NOT CALLED ALICE!

I have a very strange name that can't really be shortened but often gets pronounced completely wrong so I end up having whole conversations about how it's pronouced.

Maybe it's because of my experience, but I always check with somebody what they would like to be called - e.g. do you prefer to be called Amanda or Mandy? I've never had anybody get annoyed with me asking. If there's not an opportunity to ask, I go by what they have introduced themselves as.

YANBU