to not want DH to nip in MY bath first.

[clam]

OK, so this is not about saving water, or energy bills.

If I have run a nice hot bath, with my special bubble bath and am in my dressing gown about to have a soak, AIBU to object (allegedly quite aggressively, according to DH) to him nipping in there first for "a quick swill," as he won't be long and why does it matter?

Grrr...

YANBU< i too, would kill him. How dare he?

I dont really care for baths
but I dont see why it matters tbh

Yanbu

cleaning his dirty bits and leaving you with contaminated cheesy water

There is always the odd floating pube too...

Cheeky. Yanbu.

I would want a divorce.

YANBU< i too, would kill him. How dare he?

YANBU. Agree that it's grounds for divorce.

yanbu, I would go mad if dh did this to me, he knows better than to even suggest it....I am

drown him

you would get away with a verdict of manslaughter due to dimished responsibility

YANBU at all! Why does he need to go in first and ruin the virgin hot soapy bubbliness? If it doesn't matter and he won't be long, he can wait and go in after you. Or have a shower. Or stand in the rain.

Oh Grrrr on your behalf. This would make my blood boil!!!

YANBU.

I would say it was grounds for divorce tbh.

I get around this by having my baths the temperature of lava (according to dp) so no chance of him nipping in.

Even he thought it was your dh taking the piss.

I bet he has a wee in it too

Death would be too tame a punishment...

I´d probably let him have a quick swill if it meant I could then have a bath in peace.

But I would be standing tapping my foot & holding towel ready.

Quick swill-when I´m waiting = get in, get out

Not unreasonable.

You should run a tepid bath and use tesco value bubble bath and get into your dressing gown. Then say yes to his "quick swill"

then drain the bath when he's done and run your proper bath.

Or tell him that you know he only asks because he's too idle to run his own damn bath and he can sod right off.

YANBU - that's gross!!

I would say

"No problem, as long as you don't mind sharing with the toaster"

"Quick swill" puts me in mind of pigs.

Agree with Royalty - DH would never ever ever get in my bath first as he wouldn't be able to withstand the scalding temperature (and would be too lazy/not brave enough to risk my wrath by adding cold). DH runs me a bath every evening and this sort of behaviour would be treated very very seriously in our house .

yanbu

Dh would die if he got in my bath, they are calding.

Scalding

Second hand bathwater is horrible. If dh did this, he'd only do it once.