to not want DH to nip in MY bath first.

[clam]

OK, so this is not about saving water, or energy bills.

If I have run a nice hot bath, with my special bubble bath and am in my dressing gown about to have a soak, AIBU to object (allegedly quite aggressively, according to DH) to him nipping in there first for "a quick swill," as he won't be long and why does it matter?

Grrr...

I have to admit to having a little giggle at the posters who say it is gross

err, this is the guy you regularly swop bodily fluids with, yes ?

still out of order though...my virgin bubble bath is mine alllll mine

Your DH should have gone in AFTER you. YANBU.

but is this as bad as just popping in to go to the toilet and stinking it out?

Ohh I know it is totally contradictory, AnyFucker - I don't have a problem with sharing a bath with dh (as long as it is big enough, and he's cut his toenails), but there just is something special about that hot, scented, bubbly water that is just for me, that would be spoiled if it had someone else's dirt in it - even dh's.

What can I say - I am a complicated and contradictory individual -

ain't we all SDTG

He should share (if there's room for two) or wait till after you've done. The bath is never as nice as when you first get in.

Not gross(as AF says, bodily fluids) , but just not fair. It's your bath, you were looking forward to it, he won't appreciate it the way you will.

YANBU, DH defo goes in after me or shares with DS. I've mastered the art bathing in scadding water to keep the pair of them out. Even after I've lounged for an hour, it's still too hot for DH!

I'd fill it with hot water only and see how he quick he jumps out again

Wrong on so many levels. You do realise this is a form of abuse? He is controlling you and establishing his dominance over you by taking your bath first. It's pack leader stuff, like the dominant wolf having first go at the food.

Next time he tries it, knee him in the balls and then stand on his neck until he agrees that you are in charge in this bathroom.

Yes, it matters because it's your bath, the bubbles will go down and the water be cooler and dirtier.
Bloke gets offered a bath after me, or sometimes with me but never before me. That's just martrdom on my part or selfishness on his if he asked for my bath first (which he never has done).
Say no, he can wait.

Wees only before I have a bath once it's run. An adult should be able to hold on to a poo.

My DH is just running me a nice bath (first one since CS- hitherto it's been showers only to heal scar).

He has asked to use the water after me. He knows better than to even contemplate dipping his nuts toe in this bad boy.

Thanks all. I knew I was right. Just about to show DH the overwhelming support for my stance.

really? then I shall hang about, clicking refresh, until you come back with his reply!

oi! run your own bloody bath, y'lazy begger!

YANBU
I wouldn't want my bath to be grey, luke warm with the scummy remains of the bubbles around to edge.

What he is thinking of is taking a shower. This could be inconvenient if the shower is over the bath though.

yanbu

it is your bath, dh can share it with you or go in after you

we often share a bath but if really grubby (hes a gardener_ then i go first as i obv am not dirty and he goes in afterwards

but i also love a really hot bath and dh likes a luke warm one

We always share baths, DH always gets in first , I either join him or get in when he gets out, I shave armpits and leg hair so I don't think he'd be happy at my deforestation floating around him if I went first.
We both like it volcanic but I'm not really a bath soaker like him, I prefer a shower tbh. He likes a damn good buffing with a scrunchy sponge and salt scrub too and I'm very handy with a scrunchy sponge , not to mention a warm flannel (especially for AF ).

It is rude for him to assume that he goes first though OP.

Clam, you can tell your dh that I told my dh what he does, and he was horrified too, and said it was utterly unacceptable! He says there is absolutely no way he would do this to me - either because he is really well brought up and sensitive (ha ha) or because I am really scary!!