Disclaimer - bit of a long rant!
I am pg with DC2 - due on 16 Jan, but now overdue (obviously!)
We don't live anywhere near our families (2 - 4 hours away) and quite a few of our closest friends have moved away from our immediate area so they are 40 mins - 1 hour away too. So one set of DS's godparents, who live 5 mins down the road, are the closest people we know, both location wise, and relationship.
When we saw them around Christmas time, we had a quick conversation about how we needed to get our act together and think about what we were going to do with DS when I went into labour. Cue 10 min monologue about how that week would probably be really busy for them at work, and don't forget about hockey practice on Mon nights...but of course they would help where they could.
We've seen them since, and haven't raised the subject again, as I was a bit put out about this previous conversation, and told DH that we just shouldn't rely on them (although I don't know what we actually are going to do!)
Earlier this week, got a text from friend asking how things were going - I said I was still waiting, no sign of anything yet. The reply I got was:
"we've been told that inspection is happening next week, so we are unavailable for childcare all weekend"
I am feeling quite pissed off about this, since
a) we've never asked for "childcare all weekend" - the only thing we've ever discussed is the time that DH would need to attend the birth of DC2
b) we've specifically NOT asked them for help because of the Christmas conversation & the fact that we need someone to commit to helping us rather than be flaky about other arrangements they might have on, and then we are up shit creek when we do need someone to keep an eye on DS
c) we are talking about a very specific, one-off, never to be repeated special situation...I know that our children are our responsbility, so I don't expect people to drop everything to be on call for us - but to help out (and maybe miss hockey practice for once!)...is that REALLY so unreasonable?
d) they don't seem to realise that we don't have that many options - whilst we have had very kind offers from our next door neighbours & other friends who have moved away, I am anxious about having someone close by to pick DS up from nursery/sit with him in the immediate timeframe that something starts to happen...and we can't just leave DS with anyone, as he (at 2y 9m) needs to feel comfortable with being left by mum & dad.
So there, that's my issue.
DH suggested I put this to the test with the MN jury.
Aside from the AIBU question - what have other people done in this situation? I am thinking that if push comes to shove, DH will have to stay with DS and will miss the birth