More of a wwyd about dishes at a wedding reception

[TeddyBare]

A close friend is getting married soon and I was speaking to another friend who is considering not going to the reception because of the meal options (!) which I found a bit The bride is veggie and her dh is vegan so all of their meal options are veggie or vegan. I'm veggie so I didn't see this as a problem (and all 3 options sound yummy) but the friend is seeing this as bride trying to force her views on her friends. We 3 used to live together at uni so I know there have been issues with this friend feeling pressured into not eating meat around her veggie friends (we didn't try to make her feel like this but she lived with 4 veggies / vegans so prehaps inevitable), but I also know that the bride would be very very upset if this friend didn't come for this reason. I'm wondering if it would be appropriate to mention it to the bride (how?!) to try to help avoid this becoming an issue. I'm fairly sure she wouldn't mind too much including a chicken dish if it would avoid any problems. Would I be better to just keep out of it and be there for the bride if she is dissapointed?

The 'friend' is a twat, quite frankly.

Most veggie/vegan people I know have ethical reasons for their choice and so would not want to pay for others to consume meat either.

Fair enough IMO.

Sorry, didn't answer the question.

I wouldn't say anything to the bride but I would tell the friend to Get A Grip.

They can do without meat for one bloody day surely

I'd keep out of it.

If it was a 'normal' menu, would people who normally ate something that was not not included make a fuss? Bloody rude imo.

Tell the other friend (not the bride) that she is being a total and utter loon and to have a serious word with herself. Don't mention it to the bride - why on earth should she have to provide meat dishes at her own wedding?

What is this - Guestzilla?

I loathe this faddish eating behaviour. Tell her to eat meat like everyone else.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who find the friend's reaction a bit odd. I was worried after I read through my post that it seemed like a stupid thing to post about. I think the friend will still go to the actual wedding just not the reception. Hopefully she'll think up a good reason to tell the bride for not being there.

seconded - the friend is the twat and if you're going to have a word with anyone it should be her. If she doesn't go then she doesn't go, it won't kill the bride if she'snot there. Tell her to get a grip and make up her mind if she's going to go or send back the rsvp politely declining the invite because she can't make it.

"I loathe this faddish eating behaviour. Tell her to eat meat like everyone else. "

who? the bride?

Don't mention it to the bride.

Tell the other friend that you don't actually die if you don't eat meat at a meal. Hard to believe I know, but it is true.

Stay out of it and stay away from the loony meat eater

don't say anything the the bride. Tell other friend to get a grip. It's not her day, tell her to eat a bacon sandwich for breakfast and get off her high horse!

not everyone else eats meat hullygully!

FFS this friend is a loon. So the only reason she would go to the wedding is to eat the food? Not to be their for her friends big day? I'd tell her if she felt like that she'd better not go.

oh fgs.... what is wrong ith some people. I love and eat meat but I dont eat it every day! she can manage one day without it and if not she can get a kabab on the way home!

Agree with everyone else. Bride shouldn't have to pay for meat.

Have a word with 'Guestzilla' and tell her to tweak her attitude.

Is this friend ethically opposed to eating veg or just being a prima donna? I wouldn't mention it to the bride, it's too silly

Just imagine the tables turned - how would you be advising a veggie friend who had been invited to a wedding at which all the menu options contained meat or the bride who enjoyed meat and didn't feel like paying for a range of options for people with different lifestyle choices?

Thanks for all the comments. If guestzilla mentions anything to me again I will tell her I think she's being unreasonable. I'm really glad to hear that some other meat eaters don't find her attitude normal either, I had wondered if it might be that my view was a bit biased.

Veggie options are usually cheaper! Your friend can do without meat, and it's bloody rude to suggest the bride should shell out for something she objects to.

Friend is definitely BU - another meat-eater here who would not be the faintest bit put-out if a veggie friend had a veggie wedding meal. No-one would expect a meat-eater to serve something they found morally difficult - would she complain if they had decided not to serve fois gras or white veal? - so why should the bride and groom serve things they wouldn't eat themselves, and presumably have moral/ethical reasons for choosing to avoid?

The friend is being a pillock. She could always stick a bag of smoky bacon crisps in her handbag, if it means that much to her.

Its like going to an Indian wedding and demanding a non curry option. If you are invited to an event where you are being given food its beyond rude to expect your personal preferences to be taken into account. THe friend sounds really strange not to mention has zero social skills.