that my MIL sent her 2 g-daughters differently worded xmas cards?

[RosaRosa]

My MIL has 3 g-children; 2 by my DH's sister (9 & 5)and we have a 3yr DD.

My MIL favours the eldest and I'm not that bothered because my family adore our DD.

The anomalies between our DD and the other two are immense, but my MIL will always play up to how much she adores her '3' GC and my DH falls for it. There are loads of incidents I could tell you about. . .

This Xmas however, I noticed that the card she sent her 9 yr old g-daughter had beautiful words written on the front about how much she meant to her. My DDs card simply said Merry Xmas Grand-daughter.

I have never talked to my DH about the way she treats our DD differently becuse I don't want to cause trouble for him, but even though this is a simple act of different cards, it's hurt me more than the material things. Two grandaughters, buy two cards the same? I see it as a pre-meditated act and I'm hurt for my DD.

Should I feel this angry/hurt and should I tell my DH?

Kaloki, that's so true, what you said has made me feel so much better.

To summarise my standing here (as I think a few people have taken it out of context), my situation is a much bigger picture than just 'words on a card', believe me.

The sad thing is, I can see the situation deteriorating, and naturally, I am concerned for the future where my DD will see for herself she's bottom of the pecking order.

However, like lots of you say, she is loved incredibly by those close to her, she is a secure little girl, and I will do all I can to ensure her confidence and emotions are not affected by one person in her life.

I intend to raise the issue with DH (no confrontation!) as I think he needs to be made aware of things he hasn't seen.

Thanks to everyone for their input, for and against, as it really has made me sit back and think and I'm cerainly not as upset as I was earlier!

I try to buy different cards for all my dgc and certainly go more for pics than words with the littlest ones.I couldnt differentiate in presents though.By the way sadly one does tend to feel closer to dd's dc than ds's or dss's.I think its because a girl baby is born with all the eggs she will ever have so you know that the egg that developed into dd's baby was once inside of you.However I love all dgc so much I doubt if anyone notices.

I'm glad Rosa. She'll be fine, with or without her nan

When buying a child a card I go for the picture not the words, unless it's funny. I would think it odd if a 3 and 9 y old got the same card, unless they are just out of a box.
My nephews just get included in their parents cards, think I'll do the same if i have grandkids, sounds less hassle.