To have become irritated by friend's 8 year old yesterday?

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Went to friends for dinner yesterday with DS (4 months) and DH.

As soon as we got there her DD (8) said "why is he not wearing shoes?" so I said "because he doesn't need them, he doesn't walk yet" so she pulled a face and said "well, yeah ... but it's cold you know"

Anyway, I let it go and then 10 minutes later I heard her asking her mother "do we have any blankets for (DS)? they havn't even put a jumper on him". the house was a bloody sauna with the heating on full blast so I'd taken his jumper off!

Friend then came in laughing saying "have you heard her! she's a right mother hen" and I felt like saying "no, she's a cheeky little sod actually".

A bit later on, DS starts whinging. She promptly rolled her eyes, stood there with her hands on her hips and said "bottle? that's usually what babies cry for you know!" grrr I was getting really irritated by this point, as was DH. Especially as friend was just finding it all ammusing.

Anyway these comments kept up all day and I ended up leaving early in the end because she was just irritating the shit out of me. AIBU for getting wound up by a kid?

I think you could gently put her right without getting riled- but I would hope their parent would first, tbh. It doesn't surprise me that parents wonder where their rude teenagers come from when they have overlooked teaching them good manners at this age.

YANBU
"She promptly rolled her eyes, stood there with her hands on her hips and said "bottle? that's usually what babies cry for you know!""

Sarcasm should not be tolerated from a child to an adult, if she were my child she would have been taken off somewhere private and instructed to apologize to you immediately and to sound like she meant it.

She could have phrased her suggestion politely "Maybe she is wants her bottle?". It sounds to me that is a disrespectful and ill mannered child.

Quite right gtamom.

And macdoodle, who the hell do you think you are calling anybody a bitch based on the info the OP gave? Very nasty.

My 10 yr old niece is like this - she won't leave dd alone.

Last time we saw her, she helped bathed dd (at our invitation) on dd's first trip away from home. She was crying as we dressed her and niece said 'She's just trying to get her own way and is doing it on purpose to get your attention. Babies do that.'

dd is 5 months ffs!

Really, it makes me a bit annoyed that dn won't leave her alone, but mostly sad that she must have been treated like this by my horrible bil (and poss sis too).