to not let dd1 go in a smokers car

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FIL annual party and he's offered to collect us (under ten mins driving) I've said I will drive and they not happy I won't accept lift

FIL heavy smoker and car permanently reeks. He has hoovered it out but he has done this before and it didn't wipe out smell and carseat smelt afterwards (he didn't smoke when she was in)

I don't mind driving but DH hinted he think I am being mean not letting her go in their car.

I'm sure that the OP allows the FIL to play a very active role in the child's upbringing, whilst preferring not to have the child and herself stinking of old stale smoke - it is perfectly possible to do both. I'm sure that in return, the FIL will be more than happy for his DIL and grandaughter NOT to reek of his second hand smoke. Who knows, it may even be the the gentle nudge he needs to stop smoking altogether.

I just read something about smoke staying in the air for at least 4 hours and it reminded me of this thread. If smoke stays in the air for that long, surely it stays attached to your clothes, hair, furnishings etc for that long as well?