MIL feeding my 17mth champagne truffles

[thisweathersajoke]

I was incensed yesterday after my MIL was slyly feeding my 17mth son these chocolates (he NEVER is given chocolate by us) - but was finally calmed down by my DH.

But the result of her doing that today has been him doing 8 rancid poos throughout the day instead of his usual 2-3, including a pile over the living room carpet after removing his nappy because of his RED RAW bottom - surely caiused by these crappy chocolates and the other rubbish she passed to him.

Maybe overreacting, but am sure that she did it just to annoy me, as she knows that i am a bit of a nazi about his food. After having 4 kids herself she should know better.

More worryingly, she will be having DS while I am in hospital giving birth in approx 3 weeks.

I must add at this point that 10 month old DS2 did spend Christmas lunch with a pig in blanket in each hand.

He doesn't eat it any other time, I know he's not supposed to have salty food but you have never seen a child so content grin

fruitsticksinyourstocking if we weren't vegetarians we would be happy for our DS to have pigs in blankets .

Let's hear it for GP's I don't know what I'd do without my mum, she's taken dd off out...I'd better ring her and quiz her on what she's planning on feeding dd.

Oh no hang on I trust her.

I gave up on pfb when my DD was 4.5, I'd not long had DS1, we were in the garden, and DD decided to eat a worm??!! She's not dead, she's nearly 12 now, now I deem everything is OK in moderation, I don't personally add salt to my cooking, but I'm not going to stop my DC's eating elsewhere just because of that. AND my DS1's 1st birthday fell on an Easter Sunday, and his 5yo (at the time) sister fed him half of her chocolate egg whilst I was cooking dinner.....He's still here as well, nearly 8 now!

I think YABU - DH let DS suck on a kitkat when he was a couple of months old and he's got to the ripe old age of 12 without anything terrible happening as a result! And yes, granparents have managed to raise their own children and know that the odd bit of chocoloate or a biscuit is not going to cause untold harm, especially not at Christmas! And can someone please let me know what's wrong with mushrooms ......?

I still think the point is more that the OP's MIL went against her wishes rather than whether treats are bad or not.

Mushrooms...? No idea. Except that they're revolting

I once caught my mil putting a spoonful of sugar in cola to take the fizz out - cos its too gassy for them when they are only little!!! yeah that and they wont have any teeth left when they are 3 was my reply I,ll never forget the look on her face it was as if I was the one giving them fizzy in the first place- regardless of fact I DIDNT GIVE THEM IT AT ALL

I did used to be quite paranoid about what dd now 2.9 eat when she was a baby, but being a toddler its about exploring different foods with varying tasts including the inocious party food , however i will not give my dd any lollies,brightly coloured sweets, party rings. When she is older she can have those in moderation but at the moment no. She was given a drumstick lollie and some chewits by a friend so i eat them myself out of dds sight . Well i thought i am doing her a favour

I can see both sides. Chocolate will not kill your child.
But it is an mn absolute no-no to ever, ever, imply that others should ever adhere to your parenting wishes don't you know????
Under no circumstances should you ever reveal that you are slightly miffed or offended that someone has done something differently to how you parent and that it has upset you.

Rather you should be happy that you are indeed alive and breathing according to some Mners

CantSleep Sure, that's why I asked where it was published. If it is Emma's Diary then I can understand why I missed it. Funnily enough it wasn't something I would be motivated to seek out the law on.

Baby's used to be given whiskey on dummies. I find that quite shocking, but more due to the rotting teeth thing, and the potential temptation to up the frequency, but seriously, I didn't know it was against the law to let a 4yr old take a sip of a beer in your own house. How in the world are they policing this thing?

And CantSleep there's blimmin loads of things I don't know

Funnily enough this sort of thing is never posted by mums with more than one child

The cream is enough to give a tot the shits. Truffles are chocolate, cream and butter. With the teeniest amount of alcohol in - sometimes. Often the champagne is heated with the butter and cream which destroys the alcohol anyway.

YANBU, but there's nothing you can really do about it. Good part of this is she will have the poo to clean up while you're away in the hospital. Hopefully that will teach her

ExMIL used to put bowls of ice cream in front of oldest DD who was (and is still) allergic to milk "Oh, you can't deprive her of ice cream, Mathanxiety! What sort of mother doesn't let her poor little girl have a bowl of ice cream!!" The unstoppable old cow didn't have to deal with the rash, wheezing and horrible poop that resulted. "Oh that's just a rash. Children get rashes all the time" puhleeeeese. So glad she's not in my life any more.

wow - what a response!

My response I suppose, after reflecting on these posts is that perhaps, to a certain extent i should 'lighten up', after all 'its christmas' and become as laidback as some of the posters - but as pointed out it was not just the chocolate issue, but the fact that she knows damn well that he does not eat stuff like that and that its my choice not to give it to him. And I am his mother.

So in reference to those who think that his diet is bland, boring and unexperimental, it is not - just would prefer it if he was not given a crappy chocolate laced with alcohol. simple.
Agree with one poster who states that there is an element of competitive laidbackness on here......

Although I am about to have a second child and my comments were apparently typical of a 'stressed pregnant woman' and 'someone who only has one child' - duly taken on board and dismissed. Not all of us become irrational about kids food just because we are about to drop!

glad we all took the time to advise weathers.

Have not read whole thread either but why do you feed your child a "plain diet"? its good to broaden their culinary horizons with a variety of foods and tastes or they are more likely to grow up with an unadventurous palette.

A bit of chocolate won't do any harm unless he has a medically restricted diet.

That said my 16 month old wouldn't eat chocolate if his life depended on it...

MadameDeathStare Yes, that was another thing exMIL used to do pour out coke for them half an hour before dinner, stuff them with crackers, then moan about what picky eaters they were and how little appetite they had and what a waste it was for her to have cooked dinner for them. They weren't used to eating between meals -- something unheard of in MIL's home, where the kids were bored out of their minds in her spotless home because they weren't allowed to do anything that might cause the tiniest bit of mess, so they spent countless hours watching tv and munching their way through box after box of snacks.

OP's point is that she as the mother gets to decide what the DC will eat, and I agree, especially if the MIL knows the DCs diet does not normally include chocolate. Why would this woman make work and create a poo and rash problem for the OP to deal with right at Christmas? She's pg, about to have DC2 in the next few weeks, and she has a child with a sore bottom to deal with.

Your MIL has brought up 4 children - including your DH - so she does know more about it than you, so far. If chocolate upsets your DS that much ( which I doubt) then he's either allergic to it or he needs more variety in his diet.

Worry about things going in his mouth that could choke him ( large pieces of raw carrot, small toys), poison him ( plants, medicines, cleaning fluids) or could give him food poisoning - he's getting to the age where all the above could be within reach before you've noticed. But don't worry about chocolate - food is one of life's pleasures, not a battleground.

Merry Christmas!

so, thisweathersajoke, I take it that after slating your MIL and dismissing anyone on this thread who doesn't wholeheartedly agree with you, you will still be using your MIL as an unpaid babysitter who is to put her life on hold while you have your second baby?

I look forward to your next thread in approx 3 weeks slating her for doing something else, but not mentioning the free babysitting you expect from her as a given.

If I were your MIL I would do the same just to spite you tbh