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with MILS inept catering plans

158 replies

FolornHope · 26/12/2009 11:37

we go tomorrow
is family get together - very nice
then she said "I have no food for monday, i dont knwo what we will eat"

dh says " not everyone is obsessed with food like your family"

i say "its impolite not to have SOMETHING sorted"

am i right or is he wrong?

OP posts:
Morloth · 26/12/2009 19:19

Am smug, my MIL is a good cook, not quite as a good as me, but pretty good.

CarmenTinselPalmTreesSanDiego · 26/12/2009 19:29

YANBU. I'd stop off at M&S and pick up something nice.

I don't buy into this 'cooking is a gift' bollocks. You could buy a tray of something from Tesco or M&S and bung it straight into the oven with no more difficulty than doing a piece of frozen fish or pasta'n'sauce.

Alternatively, ordering in pizza could work

CoqAuVin · 26/12/2009 19:30

yes
get a pie
bung it in
or those marks "enterntian as good as going out but in tin foil" things

snigger · 26/12/2009 19:32

Oh god, smuggle a chill box from M&S in the boot of the car and sit in the cupboard under the stairs snarfing thai fishcakes then refusing the Birds Eye - win/win, you eat, you get to look ungreedy and diety.

If people know to love you is to feed you, then feed you they should. No place for Cheesey Pasta in a normal familial setting.

WeThreeNinks · 26/12/2009 19:39

YANBU. I was thinking about my parents' idea of Christmas "nibbles" earlier and wondering why they feel compelled to serve oily pastry-type stuff which is all the same colour and which looks and tastes all the same. With nothing else! Not even a bit of mayo.

Especially since they are teetotal. Bleurgh!

Smugly I served Waitrose horses doovers to my family with a bit of real food dressed salad, tomatoes, dips, relish and chutney.

And Nice Ham. Naturally.

My smuggery evaporated when I found myself having to give DS a bit of lemonade in his bottle but there you go.

Has DH still the coq and you the vin?

duckyfuzz · 26/12/2009 19:40

my MIL is dire at catering, SIL has inherited this tendency, we were having our kitchen done so asked SIL to do lunch for MIL's birthday (I usually offer in control freaky manner) she served up aldi ready meals - lasagne and/or thai curry so we no longer expect anything of them, but do an awful lot of catering for DH's family

NotaStepfordWife · 26/12/2009 19:44

I would never invite people round and then not feed them - eating round a table is a social occasion and provides the best opportunity for proper conversation without other distractions. Anything else becomes more fragmented and feels less special imo. You get people watching tv, wandering off, on the laptop, falling asleep etc etc and conversation involving everybody just doesn't happen in the same way. Agree FH - it's a tad impolite.

cocolepew · 26/12/2009 19:47

Oi cock, just be happy you don't have my MIL. One year she asked us for dinner, she said she'd make us a "special Halloween supper".

She put nuts on a plate with a knife and fork.

That was it.

And she was serious. DH admitted he knew what was coming because she used to do it when he was wee.

midori1999 · 26/12/2009 19:55

cocolepew, that is so funny....

WeThreeNinks · 26/12/2009 20:00

PMSL at the MIL and nuts. DH is allergic to them so I dread to think what would have happened if he'd ended up with you colcolepew

CoqAuVin · 26/12/2009 20:11

NUTS on a plate?
arofl

and rolf @ horses doovers

w as just wondering ( as i put the coq in a tub to transport) if i dare take a canape

moondog · 26/12/2009 20:12

God, i would,And some wine (or youn are about to be served lumnious yellow Jacobs Creek with alcohol content akin to Port)

victoriascrumptious · 26/12/2009 20:14

What is pasta n'sauce? I assume it differs from pasta and sauce?

cocolepew · 26/12/2009 20:15

Salted peanuts not even a selection.

CoqAuVin · 26/12/2009 20:15

wine is fine
they have found a fine PINo grig that is often very nice. they are very very nice. just dont Attach Importance to food

brimfull · 26/12/2009 20:15

take cutlery and napkins as well

brimfull · 26/12/2009 20:15

and plates

CoqAuVin · 26/12/2009 20:16

sils best canape is sunblush toms on a stick with mozarela pearls and a strip of pram ham
yum

CoqAuVin · 26/12/2009 20:16

rofl at "pram ham"

may that add to "nice ham"

brimfull · 26/12/2009 20:17

pram ham

bill and ted's pram ham?

CoqAuVin · 26/12/2009 20:18

parma

but i think i prefer pram

CaptainNancy · 26/12/2009 20:18

vs - there was a link earlier... think pasta version of supernoodles

Now my MIL is a fabulous cook (think french homestyle delicious variety...) and we returned earlier from an extremely tasty and filling boxing day lunch at her home... the one thing she cannot do however is wine... DH and I wince in horror at some of the vinegar plonk we have been served previously... and as she doesn't really drink herself, we always have the rest of the bottle (for yes, none of us can possibly manage more than one glass) forced upon us to take home

There is currently a rather folorn looking rose sitting on the kitchen counter...

moondog · 26/12/2009 20:20

aND THEREIN LIES THE PARADOX.nICE FOLK, shite food.
Tis painful.

CoqAuVin · 26/12/2009 20:20

i htink i love her
i had a boyfriend once who was REALLY Loaded and had a mum who layed the table with linen for a weekday supper and we had starters and wine and stuff

i felt ever so posh at the age of 17.

poinsettydawg · 26/12/2009 20:27

if you go to mil on a sunday and there is no food for monday, then leave on mon morn.

So say confucious.

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