Yes, I probably am but I will give it a try anyway.
I commute from Gloucester to Bristol every day, round trip of about 75 miles. A colleague in another department also lives in Gloycester, he gives a woman a lift every day. He is now leaving and, as the woman as no transport, he has mentioned in passing that I live in Gloucester and I might be able to give her a lift. I don't know this woman at all, she works in a different building from me.
Now she has emailed me and said can she start getting a lift from Feb onwards. She has offered £25 a week, which is what she currently gives my friend.
I don't want to do this. I know it seems unfair but please hear me out:
-I live nearer the motorway than she does, if I pick her up from her house (which I am presuming is the arrangement) it means doubling back on myself and then getting on the motorway at one junction further back from Bristol than my normal one.
-We work flexi time - I can go into work any time from 6 til 9 and leave any time as long as I have done my allocated hours. I do tend to do overtime as wll. I really don't want to feel I am making someone hang around waiting for me, equally I don't want to hang around waiting for someone else. I don't know her typical working pattern.
Oh and to be perfectly honest I really want some time on my own - my commute is a time when I either sit in silence thinking throuh the day, or use it to call my family, all of whom live miles away. I don't want to share my time with a stranger.
Am I being selfish? And even if I am not, how do I say no without sounding like a cow?