to consider leaving 5m DD in hotel room witgh monitor while we go to DH's work Xmas meal in the hotel?

[sassyhopper32]

As the thread title says, my DH's work is having a Xmas meal in a couple of weeks at a nearby hotel. The only way that we could both go would be to book room overnight and have DD in the room and take monitor. I am going to find out from the hotel exactly where the meal will be so that we can specify room as close by as possible and we would also check on her periodically as well as using the monitor. They don't have a baby listening service or babysitters etc.

We don't have any family nearby who could babysit and the only people we know locally will all be at the same function. We haven't been out together without DD since her birth and I haven't been out at night at all. Is it totally a no-no to even consider this? DH has no reservations, but I think it's maybe different for blokes.....and one of his friends and wife have also said that they're doing same thing, which doesn't make it wrong or right IMO.

Dandruff hits it bang on. If you would later be ashamed explaining the situation if something were to go wrong then it is not a prudent or desirable course of action.

Poor Maddy Mccanns parents will be all the more tortured for that one very ill advised decision that played a part in her abduction.

in france they wouldnt do this

oh thansk chatter!

Wow, sassy. I did reread the posts and didn't see what I was looking for.

Unbelievable.

is there a row going on here
its very pre menstrual

Fab - are you happy and content and fully conversant with all the facts now ?Or do you need some chocolate just to calm you down [ducks]

ooh you two!

I have read this numerous times and the first mention is you at 16.27 which seems to be coming out of nowhere.

"Breadandjam - no she didn't die but she might have done if I hadn't heard her "

OP, 5 months is not too young to leave with a babysitter. She will be fine - you are only a phone call away.

FWIW we have left our DC in hotel rooms, asleep, while we were in the restaurant, but a bit older (like just over 1) They were fine, but since the Madeleine McCann thing, I don't think I'd do it now.

definately, definately, definately not!!!.

Am quite worried now, please dont leave your baby on her own.

I know its disappointing - I know what its like to be dying for a night out but there will be a million nights out.

Have asked my dh, as he is sometimes ridiculously laid back about things like this and he even looked at me like I was mad at the suggestion.

This makes me quite sad actually

Oh God, yeah, agree with bigtillymint - babysitter would be fine - your not expected to be glued to your baby 24/7 either.

Find it really strange that you think baby is too young to be left with babysitter but not too young to be left on her own? is that not a bit mad???

If she sleeps soundly from 7.45 why don't you book a sitter from 8 or 9 to just sit in the room with her while she's sleeping?
It's got to be better than leaving her alone.

Sassybeast - Am I supposed to know that your daughter once choked and ended up in intensive care?

If so, how am I supposed to know that?

And I've no idea what aspirational pneumonia is, in fact I didn't even know we were discussing it! So I'm certainly not claiming to be an expert in it.

All I was saying is that babies don't choke on their own vomit.
Now, I may well be wrong - and i'm always prepared to admit that when I am proved worng.
But you're going to have to explain a bit more about what you know, if you want to have any kind of useful discussion.

apparently they do this in france alot

Halleluyah!

And I would be genuinely interested to know if a healthy baby can vomit and choke - I worried about that kind of thing but always told myself that they wouldn't, when mine were tiny.

nice one, dandruff

don't you know any other parents of similar aged babies, sassy, and you could share some babysitting amongst you?

I've done this before at a boutique hotel where there were only 5 rooms and 2 floors. We have one of those state of the art BT monitors where you can even set it to listen to them breath if you want. I didnt see much difference between leaving her upstairs to sleep in our own house and having her sleep upstair in the hotel.

I don't think id do it in a big hotel as you can never been sure about hearing things

Par example, a 'healthy' baby may have hitherto unknown epilepsy and have a first seizure whilst parents are unaware. Consciousness is not always immediately regained following some seizure types. sadly anyone with epilepsy can die from inhaling vomit either during or after a seizure. Similar could be associated with a ferbrile convulsion.

It is really not a good idea to leave a child totally unattended

I wouldn't even consider it for a second, absolutely not.

If it's not so much about having a nice meal with your DH (which would surely be more relaxing with a proper babysitter arranged, and a romantic table for two!) but you just fancy getting out and seeing some old colleagues, why don't you go with him for the pre-dinner drinks? You can put on a nice frock and make adult/small talk for an hour or so while everyone admires your beautiful baby, then slip off before everyonegetsobscenelydrunk dinner.

My boss's wife has done this at a few functions, although their kid is RIDICULOUSLY chilled and can be relied on to be passed around a lot of strange people without bawling.

Just a thought.

Breadandjam - at risk of banging my head against a brick wall, your post intimated that no one would no anyone who had vomited and choked and perhaps subsequently died. With me so far ?

My response (I assumed - wrongly) indicated that 'I' personally knew of one child (DD) who had vomited, choked and may have subsequently died had we not heard her choking. Let me know if I'm going to fast...

Vomiting and choking on vomit and aspirating it into ones lungs is what causes death in these cases - aspiration pneumonia. I presumed that since you stated that only drunk people choked on their own vomit that you considered yourself knowledgable, when it is very clear to me that you are far from knowledgable. And you have now admitted thatyourself. Although you persist in your assertion that babies don't choke on their own vomit. When they very clearly can and very occasionally do.

What happened to DD was rare, unusual, bizarre even. But your first post very clearly showed that you do not believe that babies do choke on their own vomit. And I object to that. Because it is innacurate. You also stated that only people who are drunk choke on their own vomit. Which is also innacurate.

Now have some chocolate and calm down - it's ok to be wrong

'Would hide thread if I bloomin well knew how to'

Don't do it. We took DS1 to DH's brother's wedding when he was 7 months old. He was teething, then his first cold set in that day. By nightfall he was inconsolable. I couldn't settle him, then when he finally did, it turned out the monitor didn't pick up our room.

I gobbled the wedding dinner down whilst running from the reception upstairs to stand by the bedroom door. Gave up by 8.30pm and went to bed where I could be with him.

Never again. Too many unforseen problems arose on the day.