my partner and i have fallen out over his bf

[comfortandlenor]

his friends friend told me about a night out which his girlfriend I thought gf knew about thing is bf fell out with a close friend of ours ,im being blamed,really upset as i didnt know.
Feel like saying you deserve all of each other for lying and what other lies have you all tried to cover up aibu.thinking of leaving and saying do i need this.

AHh, OK, am clear now...

FFS!

OP, Comfort, seriously, these people are in their 30s, late 30s?

Your DP mate was out with another good friends wife, and the hubby found them. The mate (paul) told DP about it, but obviously not his own girlfriend.

You told pauls GF that the other couple Doris and whoever wouldn't be coming out cos they've fallen out with Paul....

Your DP is not standing up for you? Well, sorry to be so blunt, but it's late and it's taken so much effort to get to a place where we all understand what's going on, but FUCK HIM!

You are perfectly well within your rights to stand on a very tall pedestal and tell them all to stop being so infantile, to face up to their responsibilities of the relationships they have; that you are all in your 30s and not in your flaming teens. If 'Paul' wants to fuck about, he either does it well away from his own doorstep, and takes every possible precaution not to be found out. If he hasn't got the balls to tell his GF it's over before going off and having a drink with another man's wife, then he is the wanker in the pile and not you.

Your DP needs a damned good telling off, and a it's them OR me ultimatum. Right now, they none of them seem worth a toss.

OMG this is SOOOO Funny!!

Oh this thread is making me piss myself!!!!

Heated...... squinty eyes... don't confuse me, please.... i'm pretty much there....

I get it. Your friend should be pissed off with your husband, not you. If it was meant to be a secret then your husband shouldn't have told you or at least should have told you to keep schtumm. really though the buck stops with the guy who was presumably cheating, and no one has any right to blame you for innocently passing on info he wanted your husband to keep quiet about.

they all sound like idiots.

is this Paul fit ?

Groundhogs said what I wanted to but so much better than I did!

Pauls a Twunt!

And you say you have been there before with this friend (Paul I assume)? Does he make a habit of fucking about??

They need 2 words. GROW UP!!

Make theat 4 words. GROW THE FUCK UP!!!

Anyfucker.... PMSL

PMSL @ AnyFucker!!!!

Groundhogs thank you so much for listening to me and not taking the piss that means alot to me, I find this so immature but yet I have children so that is all that matters to me and one thing i cant stand is lying and I never asked for this so I will tell them all to grow up and you are right Im sleeping in the other room tonight and he can make a choice becuase me and the children wont come second best never.
I was brought up with morals and each to their own but dont bring into my life and my kids i have a backbone i just forgot how to stand up to myself thank you for your kindnesas i wont forget.xx

Vengeful: snort Snort, crying laughing!

That's the spirit comfort! You go girlfriend!

So everyone knows about dp's bm's shagging around with mow, including the hb who called him out - except dp's bm's gf. You have said something to dp's bm's gf and are getting grief from dp for betraying the lying scumbag.

Get out sisterhood badge, don doc martins, spray paint bridge, invite gf to live with you and put dp in shed. Simples.

comfort, we are on your side, honest love

perhaps you could come back in the morning when you have sobered up you are feeling calmer

we are not always this sarky

comfort, darling, you did absolutely nothing wrong. Your DP has let you down somehow on this.

Give it a few days, it'll all calm down eventually. At least the truth is out and it's better for all really.

Important piece of advice? Hold your position, you have right and reason on your side. It is NOT your responsibity to mind-read and cover up the indiscretions of others.

The view from the moral high ground is fabulous... If anyone says anything to you, tell them FFS, sort yourselves out, stop acting like kids. And refuse to discuss it further.

When it is calmer, take your DP to one side and explain to him what has happened, i.e that someone has cheated and he has covered up for them, and that is WRONG. Say to him that if he ever betrays you again, then it'll be a much more serious situation than it is right now.

Don't take this infantile behaviour, tbh, it's beneath you.

best of luck, and good for you to want to be there for your friend....

Seriously, Heated, I'm gonna report you....

It's taken best part of a hundred ffing posts for me to get it.. you're not helping

better still, throw rotten tomatoes at the lot of 'em

Anyfucker "we are not always this sarky"

Fuck me. Ive just ordered a pizza for the next showing of this one.

how about just sending them all in the direction of jeremy vile, and stay well out of it.

monkey: pmsl...