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AIBU?

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Original poster

to despise the parents with the horriable horriable children

136 replies

bogie · 23/11/2009 15:35

That don't belive in any form of discipline?

There is a child who ds(4) goes to a football club with who is just the most vile little boy I have ever met.
Disrespectful to his mum, friends, any other adults he feels like and his mum does nothing.
The boy is 4-5 he calls my ds(and all the other children there) nasty names he kicked ds off a climing frame and when I said to him 'that wasn't kind was it?' he just screamed in my face.
Now I don't expect his mum to smack him but I do think he needs to be pulled up about things my ds is no angel but if he is rude or nasty he will be pulled up about it and made to apologize right away.
No if it was a one off then fair enough but this is happening week in week out and she just seem's to think it is fine.
So aibu to think that parents should take responsability for there dc's actions and not let them ruin things for everyone else?

OP posts:
MadameDuBain · 23/11/2009 18:19

I agree with the OP as she actually pointed out it's not so much about the behaviour, but the parents who don't do anything about it. As she says, any child can kick off (and of course there are those with SN) but if someone's child is rude or violent I expect them to intervene - even if it doesn't change the behaviour, it's just the right thing to do to tell your child that it's not OK, and get them to apologise, or apologise for them.

PerArduaAdNauseum · 23/11/2009 18:20

So now I'm done giggling at the funny puerile comments, what's your plan for next time OP? Is it worth rehearsing something loud and cutting to draw the mother's attention to this when if the little tinker starts up again?

tethersend · 23/11/2009 18:21

Do I win £5?

mummygirl · 23/11/2009 19:17

what happened to this thread? Who killed it? Tetherseeeeeeeend......

tethersend · 23/11/2009 19:21

What can I say?

It's like a gift...

mrsbean78 · 23/11/2009 19:30

It's hardly surprising that there are children out there with no regard for their peers when adults on a forum can blithely ignore the content of another adult's message and focus instead on mocking the poster's spelling and grammar. It's a particularly effective display of bad manners when a number of adults come together, school-girl like, to point and giggle all at once. Commenting on spelling and grammar in the manner that has been done on this thread - particularly when comments were made about the potentially hurtful and offensive nature of those comments by someone with dyslexia - is similar in my book to mocking someone for a stammer or a facial defect. I work with teenagers with severe dyslexia and I always tell them that it won't be so bad when they grow up, people won't care as much and certainly won't tease or abuse them for it. Yeah, it's absolutely HILARIOUS to mock someone for their spelling and grammar mistakes and to find any suggestion that MAYBE that's not particularly polite fantastically amusing. Perhaps the original poster doesn't care, but it is off-putting for others who may be less than confident about their written skills when this type of ignorant behaviour can occur in an adult context. So I'll say it again. Disgusting. Silly. Immature.

mummygirl · 23/11/2009 19:39

see tethersend, don't gloat about it, it's not always you... although I fear it will be me now

TotallyAndUtterlyPaninied · 23/11/2009 19:47

YANBU at all. I'm sick of those kids and their crap parents. It really bugs me. Why should everyone else's DC's suffer?

Ignore those who whinged about your spelling, I'm crap at spelling.

MillyMollyMoo · 23/11/2009 20:18

He'll be kicked out of the football club if he's too rough, they cannot take the risk of him hurting another child or they would be liable, unfortunately it will probably take for that to happen for the parents to realise what a little shit they have on their hands.

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 23/11/2009 20:19

Cliquey (OH did I spell that right???
Bithchy . Pathetic! Can get plenty of that in RL don't want to watch that sort of behaviour on here, in fact come on here to get away from it. Reminds me of the girls in school piss taking and mocking people for the simplest of mistakes. I would be devastated if my child mocked a peer for a similar error and you call yourselves adults ! would you have said the same things to the OP's face ?

Hullygully · 23/11/2009 20:26

Bithchy? Do you have a lithp perchance?

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 23/11/2009 20:29

Yes I do actually! Would you like to mock me about it?

Hullygully · 23/11/2009 20:32

Okay. When's good for you?

hobnobsaremyfavourite · 23/11/2009 20:35

Any time !. I could even do you a list of all my weaknesses so you could work your way through them ! Let me know when you can fit me into your obviously taxing schedule.

Hullygully · 23/11/2009 20:37

Um, rightyo then. I'll check my diary and get back to you. Cheerth for now!

lilibet · 23/11/2009 20:43

Oh I know I shouldn't be laughing at this, but I am, I really am and I am hanging my head in shame at myself

and

rofl!!

tethersend · 23/11/2009 20:49

I'm busy on Wednesday, so don't arrange anything for then hullygully and hobnobs.

MollieO · 23/11/2009 20:51

Why don't you befriend the mother? If your ds is so well behaved then maybe she could learn something that would improve her parenting skills (if that is the issue). I can't imagine calling a 4 yr old 'vile'.

What do other parents say about him?

mummyloveslucy · 23/11/2009 21:02

I've never known mumsnet to be so bitchy!! we are grown women, not play ground bullies. What's the matter with you all tonight? Do you snigger at disabled people as they walk down the street? What sort of rolemodles are you to your children?

mummygirl · 23/11/2009 21:02

"would you have said the same things to the OP's face ?"

I actually fantasise sometimes about shouting in the face of people who can't tell among "their" "there" and "they're", so yes, I happily would.

I think you have misunderstood. I'm only trying to make the world a better place by pointing out to other people their mistakes. How else are they supposed to learn? It's not mallicious, I'm only trying to help them. And yes, before you ask, I am perfect in every way. I'm only a bit sad I have to go to bed and not watch this thread for at least 7 hours

OP -I know that you have taken it all in good humour x

LaydeeStardust · 23/11/2009 21:09

"So aibu to think that parents should take responsability for there dc's actions and not let them ruin things for everyone else?"

I don't think you're being unreasonable OP.

Sadly, some parents have such an over inflated sense of their own and their children's importance and entitlement that they simply don't care if their precious little darlings hurt others!

(Laydee stands back nervously, quaking at her keyboard, waiting for someone to point out and laugh at her spelling/grammatical errors -reminds me of waiting for the bullies at school to get me!)

Sassybeast · 23/11/2009 21:09

Mummygirl - check out the spelling of malicious you thick tart.

S'allfair game innit ?

mummyloveslucy · 23/11/2009 21:11

I can think of so many better ways of trying to make the world a better place.
I don't have a problem with the op, just all the people who tease her about her spelling and lisp etc.

mummygirl · 23/11/2009 21:13

lol fair game indeed sassybeast, good one. Well, you see, I'm so perfect that i can't even SPELL malicious. Or is this now pushing it?

Gosh, I really have to go to bed, but I don't want to...

Sassybeast · 23/11/2009 21:18

I think your 'i' should be an 'I'

Bed is a good option - leave the pro biatches to it (the extra a is deliberate...)

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