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to think that ginger hair

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Vallhala · 18/11/2009 23:51

is the most beautiful colour and those with it shouldn't be bullied or taken the micky out of but praised instead?

My twelve year old daughter has been bullied at school for the colour of her hair, so much so that she wants to dye it. This is breaking my heart as her hair colour is absolutely gorgeous, a golden red, and she should be proud of it. She's so upset by the bullying and she feels alone and "different".

So, come on all you redheads and Mums of redheaded children - don't you think that red hair is simply stunning? I want to show her that you might get unkind comments as a child by the ignorant people (she's been called a "ginger C" amongst other things) but when you grow up you realise how much good attention ginger hair gets you and how pretty it is.

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KurriKurri · 21/11/2009 22:50

Oblamov, sorry you were annoyed by responses to your post, I'm sure no-one doubts your love for your son.

But the OP was asking about her red haired DD, and other parents of children with this colouring were responding. Did you not think they might be upset by your choice of words? Surely only behaviour can be despicable, - hair colour? -not so much.

shockers · 21/11/2009 22:51

I grew up with red hair ( still can't use the 'G' word, years of bullying make it seem like a dirty word) I didn't want my son to have my colouring and was so relieved when he was born with dark brown hair ( because I didn't want him to feel a lesser being because of his hair colour)
Personally though, I love red hair... I love mine and can't understand why other people wouldn't. My hairdresser swoons over it! I fancy red haired men amd have massive respect for those men who prefer redheads... I've met a fair few!
However, I'm still glad DS1 has brown hair because however much myself and other people love my hair colour, my childhood was marred by people ( both children and adults ) who were really very mean about it.

Squishabelle · 21/11/2009 22:53

shockers - I could have written your post myself. That is exactly how I feel.

shockers · 21/11/2009 22:55

Had to giggle though , as I pressed 'post' that advert for repopulating the world with redheads was on

misdee · 21/11/2009 22:57

my kids arent ginger. but they all have a hint of red to their hair. its like a little sheen over the brown colour, which sparkles in the sunlight. especially dd1 hair. its gorgeous.

except for dd4. who is getting redder each day.
she is more strwberry blonde atm though/
when i was growing up, my cousin had (stikll has) the most amazing red hair. its long and curly and absolutly gorgeous.

as i've got older, my hair has changed colour. its gone from light brown, to mid brown with a red hint to it. without dye. i am very happy with my hair.

spiderlight · 22/11/2009 00:57

My son has the most beautiful strawberry blond hair and we get comments about it wherever we go, including one lovely old lady who came up to us in the street and told me that I must never cut it! My friend's 11-year-old daughter has been begging her mum to let her dye her hair the same colour as his because it's 'the most beautiful colour she has ever seen', so not all kids hate red hair! I hope he'll love it as much as I do as he's growing up - it's not 'ginger' as such, so hopefully he won't be bullied over it (although kids will always find something to pick on... :/)

MilkNoSugarPlease · 22/11/2009 12:30

Only read OP

all i have ever wanted is bright red ginger hair! my dad is ginger and (what is left ) hair is lobely, my cousin on his side got the grgeous red curls...i got the curls and brown hair!

Your DD is so lucky!

partystress · 22/11/2009 12:40

I was ginger as a child, but now I am 48 and 3/4 it has faded and I miss it and spend a fortune trying to get something similar done at the hairdressers! I remember grown-ups saying how lovely it was, but did get the odd bit of name calling from other children. My mum gave me the advice others have given here - they're just jealous becuase your hair is so special.

MaggieBelle · 22/11/2009 12:44

ginger is deliberately offensive though. If you say titian it sounds completely different.

waitingforgodot · 22/11/2009 13:36

Going back to Ronaldinhios commment"Redheaded is wrong,like squirrels you should be bred out"

Your narrow mindedness astounds me.

SausageRocket · 22/11/2009 13:44

I'm fairly sure that one was a joke wfg

waitingforgodot · 22/11/2009 15:07

Do you think?
Pretty tasteless if so

SausageRocket · 22/11/2009 15:12

i'm hoping the tongue was firmly lodged in the cheek when that was posted

notyummy · 22/11/2009 16:31

She also admitted on a another thread to being sozzled...

Oblomov · 22/11/2009 17:02

Kurri, I never said dispicable. I the words i used was despise. i don't like it. not the same word.
Sausage
i am not going to apologise to other mums for saying that i don't like ginger hair. on boys. i like red hair on girls, deep dark red,. if curly even better.

plus I am more attracted to dark colouring than blonde. I prefer dark hair and dark skin on men,. just a personal prefernce. I am not so keen on blonde hair on men. is that offensive ?

I like big men. i am not particularly attracted to very skinny men. or muscular men. is that offensive ?

i have red in my hair. it is like a dark blonde with bits of brown and bits of red. i like it.

i am just not very keen on ginger hair.

sorry about that.

my friend likes tall dark and handsome men. her ideal is superman. is that offensive to you too ?

with ds1 i prayed that he wouldn't be ginger and he wasn't. i was pleased. with ds2 i forgot to pray. i have been hassled and jokes made already. oh dear he really is very red, isn't he.

and i felt like saying. yeah so what.

and for clarification, i do like very dark red hair. it is actaully my favourite coloured hair. on girls. yes i like it on girls.
but dark red is different to ginger. ginger is my least favoured hair colour . i don't like it. particularly not on boys.

"BTW - having red/ginger hair is not akin to a 'wart' on the face"
what I meant by that, was that, was that GINGER, not red, but ginger, is not something i like or wanted for my son. I am not keen on it as a feature. i don't like warts either. i am not particulalry attracted to bauld men. i don't know why. i just prefer a good head or hair on a man !!! i am not sure where this comes from. is that some sort of crime ?

why is it offensive to state what you like. what you find attractive.
i am not apologising for having preferences.

katiestar · 22/11/2009 17:07

I think red hair is lovely on most women and girls after puberty kind of exotic .Don't like it on males of any age or on young girls.
However this is my personal opinion and I would never dream of repeating it in RL.

Oblomov · 22/11/2009 17:09

sausage- "it is not a crime to have an opinion that is not 100% positive. Your post read (to me) as incredibly negative "

not 100 % positive. is that what you call it.

when you meet people on Mn, that are attracted to some celebrity, that you are not, or they don't like someone that you do, do you think it is "negative"?

because I don't. its called being attracted to different features. I am attracted to phil jupitus. and peter kay. big funny men. I don't know why i am attracted to big funny men. i don't expect most people to be attracted to them. I like gene hunt from ashes to ashes.

but i don't think my prefernces for what i find attractive are negative. adn if you don't find those men attractive, or you think he's vile, or he's ugly, or whatever, i don't mind. i don't think that is negative.

its called choice. preference. i don't see it as negative.

Oblomov · 22/11/2009 17:11

by the way, sausage, are you sausage-role-model ?

ChilloHippi · 22/11/2009 17:12

Red hair can look lovely, and it's great to be different from other people, for whatever reason.
It's just another physical thing that people use to insult one another, like race, size, big noses etc.

katiestar · 22/11/2009 17:12

My friend actually DYED her 4 yo DS s red hair brown when he started school .That is going too far I think

Oblomov · 22/11/2009 17:13

thanks katie.
I have not ever said to a person with ginger hair, that i was not keen on ginger hair. I have never said it in rl. but it is the truth.

Oblomov · 22/11/2009 17:17

by the way, my nephew, my brothers son, has red-del-la-red hair. i quite like it.
my best friends sons hair was very red at birth. i wasn't quite as keen on that particular colour. but i never said a single thing. now it has changed to much more brown with a hint of red and i really like that.

lots of my nephews on dh's side start with red hair and then it tuns more auburny. this i like.

but none of them has ever been so ginger. so very blonde, proper ginger as my son.

but as i have said. i have accepted. because i know that i can not change it.

waitingforgodot · 22/11/2009 17:24

I still think its grim that you dont like the colour of your sons hair. He will pick up on that and if you dont change your attitude then he could end up with serious self esteem issues.

PoppyIsApain · 22/11/2009 17:31

I personally dont care about hair colour on other people, i am naturally brown, but have dyed my hair black, blue, purple, blonde and red. I get the nicest comments when im a red head!

Oblomov · 22/11/2009 17:42

waiting "He will pick up on that and if you dont change your attitude then he could end up with serious self esteem issues."
How dare you. You can't predict this. You have no idea what I present to my 2 sons. what I say to them and my feelings. Encourage them , tell them they are fab at ....
You have no idea at this time, whether my son will have esteem issues.
I have no esteem issues. I was a very confident child. I still am. I know what I am, what I am good at, and what I'm not. You have no idea what my childrens self esteem will be. Becasue you don't know how I parent or what I will say to encourage my children.

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