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Mum's tenancy states only iif child to inherittennancy (only a child or spouse) hs been living there 10 years or more; IME that has only meant carers and adults with a level of SN actually get to do so. Which IMO is fair enough- most of the carers have given up their jobs to save the Government / country / taxpayers £££'s in fees (thousand upon thousand if over a decade)
There has to be a safeguard for these people.
All the houses here BTW have been transferred to HA stock, most if not all back home. Very few actual Council Houses these days I think.
Mum and Dad were given a house in the era of one for all; they could probably have bought (definitely ifMum hadn't had to leave wotrk to have children- she'd lost 5 babies, so bed rest for term). There was a brief gap I remmeber when it would have been possible,though they never learned to drive or went abroad until we grew up,theirmoneyt went on school trips for us etc- things that did make a difference becasue (albeit with me now being a carer) we all grew up and had devcent educations and careers- one Nurwery manager, one Vet Nurse and I was a Charity Manager. So momney invested wisely you could say, in terms of taxation. However, had they bought they'd now be back in council Accom as their pensions (note the plural- my aprents do nothing by halves) collpased (not in the big collapse, a small isolated case involving issues with American law and how pensions here can be treated as assets if the company is bought by an American company that later reputedly goes under to avoid mass lawsuits from H&S claims related to asbestos overseas).
(That's only my understanding of it though).
So they're on HB now, after a fulllifetime of working and paying in- Dad still works PT despite being past 65, and having a disability that he won't get help for (he has no feeling in a leg). mum hasn't worked for years but does have a clear case IMO of undiagnosed AS, and takes in some of her grandkids for free so my sisters can work (my BIL has a potentially fatal disorder so rarely gets to work although is employed).
So- can yu really say that my aprents, OP,don't deserve the holidays they do take annually? i think they do, they should ahve their own bungalow by now but for thge pension thing- why should they live a life of nothing becuase of some bad luck?
I think the recession has caused a lot of envy;peoplese how their own finances are challenged and see everyone else as getting away with it, that'ssad though. We lost quite a bit- well DH lost his job. But i don't begrudge others a bit of luck (and we'veturned outs bad luck into good by getting DH on a course he desperately wanted to attend but couldn't justify financially).
Peoples lives are being turned upside down and those on benefits in no way represents the workshy types people were conditioned to see 5 years ago when all was boom. Bt being there, or losing your house, or whatever does not mean you lose every asset you accumulated in that time. We forexample have twocars still; a luxury? Nope- Dh neds one for college (no train station or bus from here to there), my son is at a SNU 10 miles away so I need access to him if he gets sick, or the taxi doesn't turn up, or for school meetings. It'salso cheaper- as a large family the main car is expensive torun, its cheaper to run DH's smart car for eery journey possible and use the spacewagon only for trips of +2 people, than to run the wagon everywhere.
And finance....... many years ago in a city near here I accidentally (offered a job via a friend ) worked for a legit credit company that basically ran a rip off if legit finance system for non workers. People were being chraged interest of 500% APR onloans of under £500 (52% IIRC), not clased as usuary, and if you didnt pay he'dtell your neighbours,family etc and you would have so much shame. *Bloody disgusting IMO. He knew full wellmany of our clients were either not bright enough to understand, or would do anythinga s tey were desperate for basics.
It's hard when you'repoor, I know that. Doesn't change whether you are working poor or not. But there'snothing to be gained by envy oranger at others, and with the exception of disbaility etc usually a way to start changing things- even in a recession there are college courses etc (I know childcare is an issue though)